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slight little bump is the road. There is a chance one of our groomsmen will not be able to come to the wedding now. We are pretty sad about that. But now we are faced with a slight delema.
do we ask another friend, and tell him that the other guy couldn't make it, or not tell him at all. Or would it just be rude to "replace" him so just not have someone else fill in and have an uneven bridal party?
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I would just ask someone else. I wouldn't be offended if I was asked 2nd... I mean, most people have more than 3-4 or 5 friends and most of the time you're "obliged" to ask certain people. I'm sure the fill-in will understand. I would ask another guy!
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Your choice but I would ask without an explanation... then if pushed explain further. Most, if good friends, are happy to fill in and don't feel second best. Plus, he's a guy... they don't think about this nearly as much as females...
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| Only thing is, you said there's "a chance" the groomsman won't make it. What happens if you ask the new guy and then the old GM pulls through? I figure you're best to be honest and ask the new guy conditionally. I think in general the other poster was right about guys not thinking a second-best ranking is a slight when it comes to this type of thing... I know FH wouldn't care and would be happy to fill in for a friend at last minute, regardless of when he was asked!
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We had a similar problem. I am in Manitoba, and my MOH just moved to Alberta, and won't even be able to make it back for the wedding. As we started, there were going to be 3 BM and 4 GM, so that left us with 4 and 2, which I didn't want. I ended up asking FH cousin's wife (he is also a GM) to step in, as she will be family, and I won't regret involving her. She is more than happy to help, adn this has given us the chance to become closer. Might I add this all happened less than 3 months before the wedding.
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| i agree with some points made he's a guy - they just don't think that hard about stuff like this and they don't read more into it like a lot of women do there must be some reason you think he may not show up. can you give a timeline that you have to know for sure? and if you can't get an early enough confirmation you may simply have to pick another guy and say - there's this problem and joe might not be able to make it and if he can't would you mind filling in. let the guy know that its a just in case and not necessarily replacing the first guy. worse comes to worse you might have to pick a guy based on his measurements to make sure the tux fits, lol we're in mb and have a guy coming from on. so for us until he shows up at the airport their will always be that "what if" chance. i certainly wouldn't feel bad about asking someone else to fill in last minute if needed, though i'd want to give more than last minute notice he *might* be needed
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Personally, I'd speak to the guy and make absolutely sure he isnt able to come to the wedding before replacing him. If he is absolutely sure, then go ahead and replace him. I wouldnt tell the new guy that he is replacing someone else ... there really isnt a need to tell him anything. Ask him as if you just asked everyone ... really, in a case like this, what he doesnt know, wont hurt his feelings.
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