| In most instances, I would be cheering for your bio-logical father. However, according to what you have posted about him, he doesn't deserve my support nor yours either. Being a real father is more than the sex act itself. He obviously is a very shallow and self-centered person. In your shoes, I would give him one more chance to step up to his role as your father by asking him for a solid, irrevocable answer as to whether he is coming or not. IF he gives you a reply that is not solid, then tell him this. "Dad. Since you wish to continue trying to play these head games with me, I am now forced to make your decision for you. As of right now, neither you nor your wife will be invited to my wedding because FH and I only want people around us on that day who love and support us. Thanks for proving beyond a shadow of a doubt that everything mom has said about you over the years is absolutely true. Go live your own life however you wish to. You and I are done. Neither of you will be included in any future events in my life." If you are old enough to get married, then you are old enough to take charge of your life and your wedding plans. Go to your step-dad and tell him that he will be the only "father figure" present at the wedding and that you look forward to having him walk you down the aisle and dancing that all-important first dance with him. With respect to the worst man situation, I would be going to see him face-to-face and telling him this. "Listen up buddy. This is my wedding that you are f*cking around with here. You have a job to do as best man. If you need a list of what that job entails, here it is. Get off your a s s and start selling tickets as well as getting the whole tuxedo issue looked after. Because...... if you don't, I will tell my FH that either you go or I do. So.... if it comes down to my FH having to choose between you and me, which way do you think he will lean? If you don't have certain provable results by the end of this week/month (whatever), then the axe is going to fall. Either you step into the role my FH gave you or you won't be at his wedding in any capacity. Got it?" Having your fingers tightly clenched around his balls while you are delivering this ultimatum is also highly effective. As long as you twiddle your thumbs and not show this jerk what you are made of, this problem will persist. Take charge. If you don't, then do not complain about the results or lack thereof. EL
Some people are like Slinkies... Not really good for anything, but they still bring a smile to your face when you push them down a flight of stairs. 
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