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Posted 4/20/2006 4:00:47 PM






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I am the same way.... I hate hugging... other then like you said my FH my Niece and the dog!

My Bridesmaid likes to hug when we see eachother but I am used to it now and I sorta expect it... but like the other night My aunt was in town and as we were saying good bye I hugged my really distant relatives but not her... at first.. cause it seemed weird... I am not a little kid any more... so hugging her seems weird to me... I mean hugging people that at like 80 is fine cause who knows if you will ever see them again... and I guess you could say that for my aunt aswell... BUT it just felt weird... and then my sister went up and hugged her and made me feel even worse... so I hugged her to... but it was so weird.... such a weird and ackward act!  I don't know how to fix it because it is so random... you never know when it will come....

 

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Posted 4/20/2006 4:36:57 PM






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i don't think you need to change. it's who you are. my family does not hug either. fh's mom and sil do (they always go in for the kiss too.) obviously i'm not going to refuse to hug them but i never initiate it and i don't see it as a big deal. i understand some people are like that but i think your fh needs to understand some people aren't.
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Posted 4/20/2006 5:16:56 PM






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My family kisses whenever they see me or when I leave, and not even I like it.  Yeah I know I should be used to it by now but I really am not, although I would definately hug them, no problem, kissing my family is just a bit odd, I prefer to stick to my FH and maybe a cheek if I'm close to them.

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Posted 4/21/2006 8:34:32 AM






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Have you tried to explain to them how you feel that might be a good place to start. Otherwise you may have to practice as weird as that may sound.

Jenn
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 May 12, 2007
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Posted 4/21/2006 12:07:26 PM






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Funnybride, that's exactly what I told him.  I will hug but I just won't initiate it.  What's wrong with that?  I don't mind compromise but I don't think I'll ever feel comfortable being a touchy, feely person to anyone who's not my FH.

Jenn Ann, I think I will have to have a chat.  They all know it about me because it's that obvious and I don't think it's such a bad thing.  I'm friendly and all that, I just don't hug much.  That's funny because I have thought of practising.  We have 2 good friends coming over for dinner tonight and they just live up the street so we don't do the huggy thing with them as we see them almost weekly.  I'll 'practice' approaching for a hug on them because they won't care.  They'll probably wonder what the hell is wrong with me. lol!

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Posted 4/22/2006 12:25:24 PM






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They may do that but at least then you can say to your FH family that you have tried and that you are still uncomfortable if you are and they will feel better because you have made an attempt for them.

Jenn
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 May 12, 2007
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