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Mrs Beebear, I am with you on this one.. however, it was his decision whether or not to include his father... I thought he should put his dad's name, but I don't know what it's like to not have a father around... but he said no, and wanted his mom and my folks on it rather then together with parents...
That said, it IS ultimately his decision, and he doesn't want to say anything, and general opinion on here is the same thing, so that's what it will be. I think Nikki probably knows the situation best, as it sounds pretty much the same as your FHs. Thanks for the opinions, it is greatly appreciated.
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cdn1276 (4/25/2006)
Mrs Beebear, I am with you on this one.. however, it was his decision whether or not to include his father... I thought he should put his dad's name, but I don't know what it's like to not have a father around... but he said no, and wanted his mom and my folks on it rather then together with parents...
I know where you stand, my DH doesn't have his bio-Dad around, found out 3 years ago (?) that the Dad he knew was not actually his real Dad. Guess both you and I have no idea what it must be like for them. Hope all works out for you guys - in the end - let him do the explaining should the questions arise. Wishing the best of luck! Cheers
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| i would probably let it slip now so he isn't left standing there stone-faced in front of someone not knowing what to say when he pulls out that invite or someone calls and asks him about the "oversight" i know all too well how touchy some of these things are - fh's bio dad left when he was a baby and never really was a dad until mom shipped him and his brothers off to live with him for a year to give her a break, but he was still his dad. and he resents any inference to the man that actually raised him, so anything has to be tread lightely - his mom's dh - as being his dad. there were a lot of hard feelings there with the boys over this guy coming along and suddenly trying to set ground rules and moving in with them and their mom (sounds like they totally ran roughshod over mom before that)
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Just play the ettiquette card. Whoever is hosting the wedding gets their name on the invite, whoever ISN'T doesn't. Telling him ahead of time sound like it is a manipulative way to try and get him to "fork over" to save face. If you don't make a big deal about it (by telling him in advance) then I doubt it would become a problem.
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| My fiance and I just wrote our names, ie: Jane Doe and John Doe along with their families invite you.... That way, no one felt excluded because we wrote families on the invitation.
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