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mom2h04b05 (4/17/2006)
I dont and never will consider my wedding a cookie cutter wedding thanks....and if you want to think like that then go ahead. And yes...we are in te same friends circle and I DONT want to be the one that everyone thinks is the copy cat when they are my freakin ideas to start with!I understand completely!!
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| Ember, I'm that you can not to see where I'm coming from with this topic, maybe you should just butt out if your not willing to TRY and understand. This upsets me a great deal, they have changed their date 3 times...and then end up with a month before my own wedding when we've had our date set for the last few months and they knew full well. As for her stealing my ideas, I shared them with her because she is suppossed to be a good friend and I thought I could trust her to make her own CHOICES not copy my own. I have spent alot of time looking up things and planning "this cookie cutter wedding" as you call it. So what your saying is if a good friend of your own chose to have her wedding a month before your own, in the same place, same style of weddng you, pretty much the same everything you wouldnt be the slightest upset? If you say no, I think that is a line of bull****!
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mom2h04b05 (4/18/2006)
Ember, I'm that you can not to see where I'm coming from with this topic, maybe you should just butt out if your not willing to TRY and understand. So you only want people to respond who are going to agree with you and jump on your pity wagon? This upsets me a great deal, they have changed their date 3 times...and then end up with a month before my own wedding when we've had our date set for the last few months and they knew full well. You know they have a valid reason for changing their date (the pregnancy), and maybe this is the only date that was available where the venue was available and it suited them. As for her stealing my ideas, I shared them with her because she is suppossed to be a good friend and I thought I could trust her to make her own CHOICES not copy my own. How do you know they are not HER choices, and that they just happen to be similar to yours because maybe she has similar taste to yours??? How do you know that that she hadn't already planned on using those colours, but just hadn't voiced it to you?? I mean, you must think a lot of yourself to think that someone would COPY all of your ideas....I'm not saying that in a mean way, but think about it...this girl is your close friend, and as I said before, maybe she just trusts your judgement in vendors....man, I would take that as a compliment, not a slight against me. I have spent alot of time looking up things and planning "this cookie cutter wedding" as you call it. So what your saying is if a good friend of your own chose to have her wedding a month before your own, in the same place, same style of weddng you, pretty much the same everything you wouldnt be the slightest upset? If you say no, I think that is a line of bull****! I don't know about Ember, but I can certainly say that this would not upset me - if it was a good friend, I would be happy for them as I would expect them to be happy for me. The weddings would be different, not matter what - different guests, different decorations, different dresses, different flowers, etc., etc., etc. I fully expect to get flamed for this, as my post is not a pity post.
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mom2h04b05 (4/18/2006)
Ember, I'm that you can not to see where I'm coming from with this topic, maybe you should just butt out if your not willing to TRY and understand. This upsets me a great deal, they have changed their date 3 times...and then end up with a month before my own wedding when we've had our date set for the last few months and they knew full well. As for her stealing my ideas, I shared them with her because she is suppossed to be a good friend and I thought I could trust her to make her own CHOICES not copy my own. I have spent alot of time looking up things and planning "this cookie cutter wedding" as you call it. So what your saying is if a good friend of your own chose to have her wedding a month before your own, in the same place, same style of weddng you, pretty much the same everything you wouldnt be the slightest upset? If you say no, I think that is a line of bull****! As for not even trying to see your point of view... That's sure the pot calling the kettle black. I would have thought that before you threw away a "close friendship" you might have liked to consider the fact that this may not be malicious. You seem to assuming that this friend has it out for you without even considering that there may be others reasons for her choices. You are pretty quick to bad mouth your "close friend" and end the friendship. I have considered your "point of view" and I don't agree with it. I don't see your friends "crime" as being worth your hate towards her. It just doesn't seem worth it to me. My friend could copy my wedding all she wanted to and have it right before mine (the day before mine if she wanted) and I can honestly say I would not react the same way. I would not assume the worst of someone I cared about, and I would be happy for her that she was happy. If something she was doing did actually bother me, I would talk to her about it and not run her down on a public forum. For all that you call her a bad friend, you aren't acting like much of a friend either. Sorry, I didn't realize all you wanted was a pity party. I'll go get my violin.
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Thanks for all of your input....even Aime and Ember. D and I are going out for coffee tonight once our FH's get home from work and have a chat about all the wedding stuff. It was her suggestion so I thought I'd roll with it. Will let you know how it turns out, hopefully it goes good because I didnt have ANY intention of ENDING the friendship like some of you though I had, it just really bothered me about the whole thing. So here's to tonight andhopefully good things come of it.
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| Hey! Just wanted to let you know I completely understand...My fiancee's brother is getting married within 3 months of us..at my childhood church even though neither of them really attended the church regularly ever!! we pretty much have the same guest list and for awhile we were after the same date!!! the exact same date..but after some much needed negotiation and both of us getting used to the other getting married. I think I relized there will always be similarities but your day will always be unique...but don't share truly personal ideas with someone if you don't want them to use the ideas...sometimes the ideas jump out of your mouth | | | |