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Another thing that can really hurt is if he isn't hard enough. If this is the case, you just need to help him out until he's ready.
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One word.....LUBE!! I use it for everythimg (in bed ) You also have to relax, if your not ready your not ready dont rush it!! Hope it all works out!!
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| Thanx so much for all your help ladies! I don't think it's an issue with not enough foreplay cuz we've done just about everything else BUT intercourse. So I mean, this is something that we're definately ready for. We've done the whole touching thing, being naked and everything. We Live together for heavans sake. We have been for two years now, so I mean, it's not a matter of being uncomfortable around each other. This is just the next step, and the only thing I guess we didn't do was the lube. I'm gonna have to pick some up I guess. Has anyone tried the Elexa brand (Made for women by Trojan?) lubricant? if so, lemme know how it worked. Anouther CBer pmd me some useful information on this little gadget that you can use and slowly increase the size 'til it's not painful anymore, so I think I'm going to look into that.... So thank you so much girls! You were all a great help! I'm no longer emberassed!
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| I agree, lube lube lue and relax!!! The more tense you are, the more its going to hurt 
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I know there's a very romantic notion of waiting until your wedding night... But good for you for deciding that your wedding night will not suck!
If after a few attempts things still aren't working you I strongly suggest that you see a doctor. There are several things that can cause pain during sex that have nothing to do with losing your virginity and you will want to rule these out. Once that is done you can work on anything emotional, including just a fear of being hurt.
Sex hurt like crazy for me the first time. Luckily, he was also a virgin so it was over in a few seconds. LOL I was also sore for the next few days and it continued to be painful for the next few times as well. But this really is one of those cases where practice makes perfect! Good luck!
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The previous posters pretty much said exactly my thoughts...LUBE is the key to happiness...lol!!! Sounds corny, I know....but...it's true... Lubrication, like Ky Jelly will make such a huge difference in your lovemaking...Also, just as MLD pointed out, you need to be relaxed...it's your first time so relaxation is the key...don't worry...it will get better each time you do it...I remember my first time....the guy was HUGE, and I felt like it was killing me.. Not to mention, it lasted for like 3 hours, so...imagine how much pain I was in the whole time...lol!!   I didn't feel I enjoyed it one bit, but the couple times after, it gets sooo much easier, and you enjoy it sooo much more...especially if you're doing it for the first time with fh, it will be soooo much more enjoyable and memorable...you are making love to the man that you love and want to spend the rest of your life with...that makes it even more special!!!Hope that helps!!! Btw, kudos to you and fh for waiting!!!! I admire people that choose to wait until they find 'The One'...
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| There are quite a few posts already and I didn't want to read through every one....so I appologize if this has already been said. It will probably hurt a bit your first time. If you are nervous, you may tighten up a bit, making it harder for him to get inside you. You may also want a lubricant. This will decrease the friction a bit...which I find is what hurt most (if you aren't "wet" enough). Maybe it will be better if you wait until you are married. Considering you have waited all this time already, you were probably really nervous when you tried because you were breaking your plans. Not that I'm saying you aren't ready to do it now or that you don't want to. It's just that once you're married, you will have that peace of mind you might be waiting for. Good luck. I'm sure things will get better and you will enjoy it in no time!!
~August 3, 2007~
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