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So when we first got engaged my FH and I went and spoke to a family friend (and local business owner) (company A) about catering the wedding. My parents are also business owners and are known by many in the community.
In Jan we went to a bridal show and found another catering company whose set up intrigued us. While there we saw another catering company (one we would never use) who recoginzed my mom, sure enough we tried to sell us on his product. (company B)
Once we got home we mentioned switching catering companies and my mom sighed, commenting on how political this is going to get. She is worried that since we already went to company A for a quote and they are a local business and friends of the family this will be mad if we chose someone else. Then she commented that company B from the bridal show will already be upset that we aren't using them.
I personally hate this and think its so unfair. This is our wedding - not my parents. And who we chose to use (business wise for anything) is OUR decision and not theirs, so why should they be punished for it?
So, now that we are thinking of switching, we are going back to company A to see if they can match the price and what is offered by the new company. However, what do I say if we chose not to go with A? And how do I make it clear this was our decision, not my parents!?
UGH, I hate that weddings include so much politics!
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honestly, wedding are political.... I say , stick to your guns... it is your wedding so it should be your decison. ~ Alli xoxo
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| Easy - you say "Bob and I have found a catering company that best suits our needs and budget. Sorry we couldn't use your services. Thanks very much for your time." This isn't personal. It's business. And guess what - this isn't the first time a potential customer has changed his/her mind and hired another company over the first. And it's not the last time either. Life goes on. In this industry (like every industry), money talks. If your mother's friend's business wants to attract the money, he'd better be nice to the money. Word-of-mouth can very easily spread a bad reputation as a sore loser. People who are in business for self aren't stupid - they know this. Your mother is so concerned about p!ssing off other vendors... ask why she's not more concerned about p!ssing you off.
Mrs. AlanaBanana Alana & Erik ...the perfect pair! December 30th, 2006
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It's your wedding so it's your decision!! If you go to see company A and they can't match what you want, then go with the other company. If you settle for a company just because your parents pressure you into it and NOT because of the service, you won't be happy in the end.
MLD *Engaged: Sept. 23, 2005*Married:June 9, 2007* I love my HUSBAND!
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I'm not sure if this is going to help you out in the way you are feeling right now - but the first photographer that Dan and I looked at was amazing.. great prices blah blah blah.. we set a date - no payment. The second guy we went to - better stuff, more for what you're paying for.. blah blah blah.. it took me a week and a half to two weeks to let the first guy know that we weren't going to go with him.. I felt bad.. but realized that he'll get over it as soon as he deletes my message. He's not going to hold it against me, and I hope he does find someone else for the day, but there's nothing you can do about wanting someone else if the price is better... i think all of that made sense.. i should be in bed right now..
Jules 
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I agree, it's your wedding, go with what makes you feel the happiest 
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