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| I am really getting upset now there still is no date set and he's still not compleatly divorced yet and i'm going crazy he keeps picking fights with me-mostly over me ex as we share custody and i speak to him on the phone and he hates that-although we are dissusing our children. he just called and asked me if i had dropped off the kids at their dads yet and i said no and he's like why not.because i wait for their dad to come and get them so i can spend more time with them before they leave for a week. i feel like he doesn't want my kids here-and okay-they are hyper today but his are too-but this is my house, in my name and my disability cheque and i am not scared to be on my own and if things don't change soon i will be on my own-i have tried talking to him but he doesn't get it!! he keeps saying he doesn't have the money for the divorce and it will happen but i am sick of waiting for it- i don't want to be number 2 in his life! what do i do now?
MARRIED MY LOVE ON JAN 26, 2008 BABY JOINED US APRIL 30 2008 OUR FAMILY BECOMES 7!!!
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I think you have the right attitude it's just a matter of sticking to it. If talking to him doesn't work you can try counseling but honestly you don't need to be in a relationship that doesn't work for you.
Cole
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| Hey, Not sure where you're located but a divorce isn't too expensive. When fh and i moved in together he wasn't officially divorced either. When they both looked into things, they ended up getting a kit from the court house (we live in ns) and they each had to fill out papers and get them signed and meet with someone at the court house and it only cost $250.00. That's only $125.00 a piece. Great investment on both sides!!! Good luck with it. And some advice for your fh, you and your ex will and should always be on speaking terms, you have children . My fh and his ex are on very good terms, and we all sit down together on occasion. It's about the kids, and what's best for them.
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Speaking from a child from divorced parents that were on good speaking terms, I truly believe that it is a GREAT thing for you to be on good term with your ex for the sake of the kids. You FH has to understand this or you will constantly be fighting and you will end up stressed out over this. Honestly if he just doesn't get it, I would leave him. Divorce is hard but it seems to me like he is making excuses because he is afraid of letting go. Try just talking to him about it, try and get him to explain why he doesn't want a divorce minus the cost reasons. If he gets all bent outta shape over it, then there is something fishy going on. If you guys want to get married you both have to realize that communication is key. If you cannot communicate efficiently than your marriage will not last. I hope everything works out. Good luck!
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| I think you have the right attitude about him, your ex and your children. I could understand why prolonged conversations between you and your ex might upset him but it doesn't sound like that. Does he get along with your children? Thats a big issue because they are obviously (as they should be) a huge priority to you. As far as getting a divorce ggoes - its not that expensive - if he is dragging his heels or isn't fully pushing forward on that, you should try to find out why. Keep us posted and good luck!!
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| If he isn't divorced and isn't willing to proceed with a divorce, then I think you'd be wise to put off wedding planning until you both have your ducks in a row, so to speak. Counselling would be appropriate.
Mrs. AlanaBanana Alana & Erik ...the perfect pair! December 30th, 2006
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