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BeeBear (6/14/2008)
I just think it's a very personal decision to find out. I don't judge those that find out, but, for me it DOES take away the element of surprise.  Well then you have your answer don't you? Just tell your DH that. After all, you are a team in parenting so you should be a team in the pregnancy. If it's that important to you, I"m sure he'd be OK with it.
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My parents thought I was a boy right up until I was born, and they had been calling me Benjamin. There was a bit of an "oh sh!t" moment, but after that they were completely happy to have me!
I think that so long as you don't have your hopes up for either sex, then it's completely OK to wait. Otherwise, as others have said, it might be better to know so that you can prepare yourself.
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I'm with you, BeeBear. I too would LOVE a boy, and to be honest, I feel as though I might be slightly disappointed if it isn't. Of course I will be thrilled regardless, I just want a healthy baby, but a healthy baby BOY would just be the icing on the cake! I really wanted to find out, and I thought DH was with me, because he said he was, but we were recently out for brunch with my mom and her S.O., and they asked if we wanted to find out, and I said yes and he said no! It was news to me, so we'll see what happens!
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I've had 3 kids so far and I've never wanted to know, FH wanted to find out the sex for the last baby and needless to say I won. WE don't regret MY decision one bit!  Do what your heart tells you! There's no wrong or right for this one.
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| ...wanted to add, one of my friends, didn't want to know the sex and her FH did, he found out and kept it a secret .....until....she was in labour, he went to the cafeteria to get a coffee and told a few people it was a boy, thinking....she's gonna have it soon, it wouldn't matter anyways, so when she finally gave birth and called her parents they already knew the sex!!!!!!!!!
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BeeBear (6/13/2008)
kiwi25 (6/13/2008)
ChantalC did and having the tech write it down and put it in a sealed envelope. That way, you don't have to find out at the time of the ultrasound and if you and dh decide together later to open it, you can always find otu at any time.
OHHHH!!!! What a GREAT idea!!!! I like way much!!! Thanks!
Kiwi & BreeBear -- My sister did this! They didn't want to find out with an u/s tech 'breathing down their neck' and watching their faces to see joy or sadness.....so she had them check a box "boy" or "girl" and then they opened it privately so they didn't feel like they had to 'fake' anything for the u/s tech.
Mind you.....they only got to their car in the parking lot (LOL!!) but at least it was THEIR decision when to open it and find out!!!
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What you could also do is perhaps a compromise -- you can find out the gender, however, keep the baby's name a secret to everyone involved.
That is what we hope to do....so that you still have that element of surprise at the birth!
(plus ppl can't influence you on name choices and go "oh" when you say the name you are currently contemplating) lol
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