Jle24 (7/3/2008)

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jenoneill (7/3/2008)

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I was the one with the conditions, or goals rather on waiting to have kids. Dh's goal and condition was to have kids ASAP, right now, 5 minutes ago. My reasons to wait:

-Wanted toenjoy my new house with my hubby for a while KID FREE.

-Wanted to entertain our friends in our home KID FREE.

-Wanted to travel KID FREE

-Wanted a career in my field KID FREE

-Wanted to enjoy the luxuries of marriage KID FREE.

Found out I was already 6-7 weeeks along a month before the wedding day.

So much for all that stuff right? NO WAY. I still enjoy my new house. We have had the most memorable parties with our friends. The 3 of us have traveled FAR AND WIDE. I'm working in an even BETTER career that I would not have stumbled on had I been working in my pervious one and I have sooooo many MORE luxuries to be thankful for. All with a baby.

Last time I put a condition on not having another babywas about 10 weeks ago when I started my new job. You can imagine what followed next.I no longer have any 'conditions'.

But I totally agree that setting goals prior to having a baby, especially when they are in the best interst for that child, are great as long as theyare amicable and mutually agreed upon. It's also comforting to know that even if things don't go according to plan, things willwork out regardless, sometimes even better.

I agree with the bold! Well said!

thanx

Met an amazing man - the one from my dreams Jan 2004.
He proposed March 2005.
Married my true love July 21st 2006.
Had our bright-eyed boy wonder March 10th 2007.
Bought our brand new first home June 2007                                     Pregnant with Baby # 2 May 2008

I've been a busy bee!

As for me...i do have a few conditions but at the same time if it happens it happens!!!

Conditions:  I want to travel at least one or two trips without kids, I want to just be a wife for a bit- just me and DH, I want to sort of pay for a few things and feel financially secure, I want feel secure with my career, I want to just be me for a bit. We got married in Sept of 2007 and this marriage thing is very new....i think it would be great for us to just enjoy that.

I mean i get baby fever all the time esp. in this forum, but i really have to stay focused ...

I hate that i sound selfish and that DH is kinda left with that void but, i think its the right decision for me...and us...and thats all that i know.

Happy to be married …

But I miss planning L

Just call me mrs. L

09/01/07…memories……