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I really feel for you and can relate to the disappointment. My father was a no show at my sisters wedding a few years ago and I was as hurt as she was... I am more than a little worried that he will pull this again but have had to develop an understanding that his actions are about him and not about me. Crying now before the wedding is understandable... on your day.... let it be about joy... no matter who is there with you!!! (((HUGS)))
Marrying my love, on Sept 20/08... with our children at our side.
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Firstly, I want to say I'm sorry your going through this ((HUGS)).
Secondly, I can relate. FH and I have had a short-er engagement, we'll be married in 15 days and got engaged in December/07. My father and I never had a relationship since I was a baby and my mom and him split. He lived out west and we live in the Maritimes so he would still visit but by the time I was 4 the visits stopped and by the time I was 10 the phone calls stopped. So I called him up and decided to try and get a relationship with him, and it was great! He was going to come to the wedding and everything, it was all wonderful between us. He took off the vacation time and everything. A month and a half before my wedding he tells me he cancelled his vacation time because he'd prefer to save the money and fly up at Christmas time instead of to my wedding, which is once in a lifetime.. well then come to find out he goes out and buys a motorcycle.. (I know where that money went to now). My whole family warned me over and over he'd pull a stunt like this, but I didn't believe he would!!!!!!! I was so heartbroken.
To make matters worse we haven't been talking at all lately because I don't want to bother talking to him if he's going to be like that!? ..soo last Wednesday I get a call saying he was in a motorcycle accident with his new motorcycle and is now in the hospital on a respirator and has been induced into a coma as well as having internal bleeding and some other really bad injuries. I checked up (called the hospital) yesterday and they said his bleeding is stable and so is his heartbeat/blood pressure. They are starting to try and get him to wake up now.. but he's still on lots of meds to help with pain.
Point being, yes it hurts A LOT.. I can't imagine what your going through, because from what I have read you've known your father... with me I've just started getting to know him and he pulls a stunt like this. I'm mad, but mostly hurt.
The way I see it, It's MY day! Not my dads, not my moms, not my grandparents.. but MINE and FH's!!!
I'm fine with everything now, just upset about the fact that he's exactly as my family had warned me.... Hang in there, it's YOUR day!
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New Date! November.8th, 2008!!
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Last Login: 10/1/2008 9:26:25 AM
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Thanks for all the responses. I really just needed a place to vent a little.
My dad has never really been the greatest dad and I don't know why I ever expected him to change. I should have known that he wouldn't come, despite the fact that, every week when we talked, he said he was coming, etc...
I could probably afford to buy him a bus ticket, but now I don't know if I want to... I guess I don't feel like I should have to, especially considering the amount of notice he's had to buy it himself.
Every time we talk, he tells me about this restaurant he went to, or something he just bought, or how great last night was when he was drinking beers with his buddies, etc... Maybe if he had a bit of self restraint, he would have saved a bit of that money each time and he'd have enough for a ticket by now! I guess it was just too much to ask of him...
Marrying the Love of my Life
My High School Sweetheart
September 27th, 2008
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