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I have 2 best friends. Two and a half years ago, DH (bf at the time) and I had to reevaluate our relationship. Now we are married and ready to start living our lives together, things are great. Last year, one of my best friends cancelled her wedding 2 weeks before the event. Great idea on her part, now she's moving in with my cousin who she's been dating. Our other friend has been with this guys for over 6 years, (longer than we have known her), and every one knows that he's not good enough for her (alcoholic and super jealous). She the kind of girl that everyone gets along with and she just awesome. Yesterday, she went to see a Shaman (sp.) and he told her some pretty dead-on things and made her realize some things. Although they have a house together and were kind of trying for a baby, now all that has changed in her mind and she is thinking of leaving him. We have never liked her relationship but as friends we can't really tell her how to live her life. For example, he insulted my mom and my MIL at my wedding. He was drunk, of course, and I have never told her. I'm happy that my friend is re-evaluating her relationship with this guy, but I don't want to come right out and say, leave him. Since I've been in this situation, I'm glad I can help her, but I don't want to rush her into things. Of course she has the normal worries like, will I ever find someone else, how are we going to divide everything, etc. My re-evaluation workout for the best, my other friend's seemed painless and quick. This friend has more meetings with the Shaman in a few weeks, so hopefully she gets to figure things out in her head, so she doesn't feel like sh*t for too long.
AUGUST 4 2007 ¤¤ Who knew! ¤¤ www.brianplusemilie.com
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It's always difficult to end a relationship, especially when you're living together. I'm sorry that she has to go through that, even if it does turn out to be for the best in the long run. It's still not easy  I just wanted to say I think it's really cool that she went to see a shaman and will continue to go. I love hearing about non-traditional things like that  (Or at least, not traditional for our culture.)
~Sarah and Rob~ Getting married in Ottawa... sometime in 2010... When you meet someone who can cook and do housework, don't hesitate a minute - marry him!
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| I went through the same sord of thing with two of my friends. The first one was my MOH, she moved to NB with this guy (he was an a$$) and I didn't like him and I knew he wasn't good enough for her and our mutual friends felt the same thing but we decided to let her figure it our for herself because even if we did tell her, she wouldn't have listened and then would assume that we aren't her friends anymore. If that happened and things went wrong then she would know we would be there for her to help her pick up the pieces and sure enough it happened. 2nd moved to NFld with this guy who is a coke head and alcoholic and put her through so much crap its insane. We all told her not to go b/c of his drug addiction that he could never seem to get rid of (i think b/c he didn't want to). They are getting married this year and she is preggo but now none of us are close to her anymore b/c we all told her what we thought of him and I don't think all of us are even attending her wedding. Mind you I'm not spending $700 + on a flight to Nfld for a weekend - i don't have that kind of cash. So the fact that your friend went and saw a Shaman and has realised things are not what they seem to be and that she is now questioning the relationship and is looking for a way out I would mention a few of your feelings about him and their relationship to her. I wouldn't just drop the bomb, but be gentle about it kwim? and let her know that you will help her and be there for her for support. and tell her with dividing the assets, finding someone else, etc. tell her to deal with one thing at a time and she will meet someone new when the time is right.
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| My bf was dating DH's bf when we met and started going out. She's always been a princess. Never worked, raked up the CC bills etc. Then she started falling for this guy at her cousin's cottage. She slept with him while she was still in her relationship, then finally decided to end her relationship with DH's bf to persue the cottage guy. Well soon enough she's preggo with this alcoholic a$$ of a man who verbally abuses her. I think just about everybody including her family has told her that she's too good for him and deserves much better. She's 'left' him several times only to return. I have personally told her that she should leave him, but if she chose to stay I would be there for her, I was just worried that I'd get a call that she was in the hospital or worse. We still have a really good friendship. I guess it comes down to how you think your friend will react. It's kind of hard after all these years to now say.. oh by the way, I never liked the guy. So maybe at this point it's best to let her get to it on her own and being supportive.
Nicole & Keith Bought the house Feb 23, 2007 Became a MRS. March 14, 2008  Cadence "aka Demi" Arrived November 27 2008
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| My FH's sister has been in a relationship for 9 years (since she was 16) with a loser, and we all want to tell her to dump his lazy, pathetic a$$, go out and do this amzing things she wants to do and meet a man that actually loves her and respects her and will want to build a family with her... But we can't. So, I understand how hard it is. I wish someone would tell her though, she's such a smart, positive, driven and beautiful 25-year-old. It's really sad to see her stay in this dead-end relationship with someone who doesn't want to anything in life, just because they've been together for so long. Good luck to your friend! I think it's wonderful that she had an eye-opening experience.
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Roxane & Jérôme
August 2, 2008 Just married! 
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