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| is it wierd or even rude of me to NOT want a baby shower? my MIL wants to throw one when we go back to ontario in two weeks and frankly I just don't want one - I wasn't comfortable and didn't really enjoy my wedding shower and I don't think I'll like this one either. Is it completely out of line of me to ask her to not throw one?
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It is completely up to you. If you don't want a shower then don't have one. BUT this is her grandchild and I think it's sweet that she's so excited and wants to do this for you. I wish my MIL cared that much. Besides dont you want a chance to show off your beautiful baby bump??
***Proud mommy since July 19th, 2008***
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I don't think it is out of line. If you aren't comfortable then fine. What if it was like a BBQ or something that your DH could stay at and be more of a social gathering then a "baby shower" ?? Maybe you could suggest something like that. That way your MIL would feel like she is throwing something for you-? Just an idea....
...Proud Momma of Charlotte...
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I pretty much feel the same way as you. I don't want to seem ungrateful but having all my MIL's friends come and give me/baby gifts makes me uncomfortable. I just don't know those women all that well and they are a tad...intense. So I figure I'll just tell my SIL as an aside a little later on in my pregnancy that I am not down for a full on shower...BUT I understand its really more about my mil wanting to show off her new grandbaby to all her pals, so I think I will suggest an open house after the baby is born, no gifts, no games, just socializing...and men will be invited. If my DH is there I figure it will take a bit of pressure off me  Maybe you could suggest something similar. Its win win really, as everyone gets to meet the new arrival, no one has to bring a prezzie, and everyone can just hang out and not feel pressured to play silly games and watch the opening of a bunch of gifts.
Married September 2nd 2006 First baby due March 2009
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| I had one shower for Lily.. 4 people actually were nice enough to show up.. I pretty much had to do everything for it because my MIL said she would and then left it up to me.. but seriously its up to you.. like the other girls said maybe it can be more like a get together and just people relaxing and it also means that you get all your visiting done at once
Wedding Sept 15th 07, Lily born Nov 27th 07, planned section for Riley on Nov 7th ya we work quickly hahaha
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I'm actually looking forward to my baby shower, hopefully someone throws me one LOL I was sooooo uncomfortable at my first bridal shower that I got drunk  By the second one I was doing better, but still felt awkward opening gifts in front of everyone. I think a baby shower is different, because now the focus is more on the baby. I think it will be easier to open gifts for the baby instead of gifts that are for myself and DH. Maybe you'll feel the same?
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I agree 100% your choice - Would you feel better if it is AFTER you LO is born? Then all the focus is on the baby alos, if you have any toddler age kids in your family they really take then tension off by helping to open presents cause there always like...NEXT!!
April 4, 2008 ~ Our Punta Cana Wedding Practise will make perfect in '10 
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