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| Ok, I have a problem. i'll start by giving you a little history : I have been living with one of my friends since January, we will call her A, well when FH and I got engaged, A and I were really close. we would stay up talking almost all night and we have a really great friendship, well I asked her, along with one of my best friends from HS to be my MOH. I was really close with both of them at the time and couldnt choose. Now A hasnt been home AT all since mid april, and it is hard as hell to get rent money from her. She is on her way out and i can see that ( but in my opinion until her sh!t is out of my appartment- she can pay rent!) and we have definately drifted apart, she knows she is totally screwing FH and I over, and the worst part, is she STILL thinks she is in the wedding. She is really starting to piss me off, and I just dont know how to tell her. she is never home and we have barely even talked since april, and she thinks i still want her in my wedding- TO BE MY MOH. i want her out. and fast, i just dont know how to say it nicely so it would strain our relationship. What do you ladies think i should do? I am thinking i should wait until i know for sure she is moving out, but it is driving me insane!
Tara & Shawn October 17th, 2009
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well since it's almost a new month, I would tell her that if she doesn't pay by the 5th, then you'll be putting her stuff outside and changing the locks.
It's not your job to be her keeper and she's abusing your friendship. Don't let her walk all over you.
You have a legal obligation to pay the rent and if she's living there then so does she. It's not right she's taking advantage of that.
Just lay it all out, even the stuff about the wedding - the sooner she knows the better, and the better you'll feel about having it all off your chest.
You're not being mean by standing up for yourself. She's totally in the wrong and you deserve better from a friend.
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i want her out. and fast, i just dont know how to say it nicely so it would strain our relationship. Honestly, I doubt there's any way to do it without straining the relationship. But you do have to be upfront and honest with her, IMO, and the sooner the better. Aside from anything, YOU will feel better once that weight is off your shoulders 
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| I agree with the PP that there is likely no way to kick her out of your wedding without straining your friendship. But it seems as if you no longer value her friendship anyway so you might as well just be honest with her and get rid of her before she makes your day stressful. Also, I'm not sure what kind of tenancy agreement you have but I don't think that you can just change the locks on her. You might want to look into that before you do something illegal.
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I don't think she is too concerned about straining the relationship at this point. Simply tell her that it is quite apparent that you have both drifted apart from each other and that unfortunately you have changed your mind about her being the MOH. If she is intelligent enough to see the change in your relationship, I don't think it will come as too much of a shock. Good luck.
Married The Love Of My Life - September 12, 2008!!!
Now Mrs.K.
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