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OK, I am getting VERY frustrated with my EVIL FFIL. he is getting on my nerves. I dont know what to do about him. he is driving me insane,.First off FH and I are getting married in May of 2009, we were pregnant in june of this year and he gave us this huge lecture about how he expected more for us, and blah blah blah, and told us our "options" and said he suggested we dont keep the baby. I was discusted. absolutely went off on him, saying there is no way i would go against my beliefs... blah blah- so we stood our ground, but unfortunately suffered from a miscarriage. ( ffil doesnt show ANY emotion to this, and p*sses me off )
NOW. FH and I are a little tight for cash because our roomate screwed us over by moving out so now we have to cover her rent too, so we are moving to a more affordable place to live, he is harping on us to change the date of our wedding. We have already put down payments on everything, and have money saved for the wedding, and everytime we mention the wedding he gets pissed we havent changed it. in the long run we are going to spend MORE money if we change the date as all down payments are non refundable. I dont know what to do. FH'S mom says to ignore him and just go ahead with the wedding, but it really makes me mad when FFIL wont say anything with me i the room but will sneak FH away and harp on him, and my dear FH gets very upset when his dad talks to him like that because he is NEVER supportive about anything FH wants to do and ALWAYS talks down to him. REALLY getting on my nerves.
AHHHHH what should i doooo>?
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| Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. If your FMIL says to ignore him then I would ignore him. He's just trying to rain on your parade.
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Some VERY good advice my mum gave me:
Never say bad things about your in-laws to your husband. Smile sweetly when they do bad stuff to you, and hold your tongue when your husband bad-mouths them to you. That way, your horrible in-laws will never become a fight between you two!
It's OK for our husbands to hate their parents, but never us 
You're so lucky to have your FMIL on your side!!! Don't worry about your FFIL, there's nothing you guys can do in the immediate future to make him proud of you. He'll just have to come to realise that you both are awesome!!! Even if that may take 20 years...
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| So sorry about your loss. But I do have to comment on what Zim said.... I HATE my MIL... loath her actually, as does DH. She is nothing but truoble. I say bad things about her all the time, and so does DH. She is a sociopath with no guilty conscience that wants to cause drama all over the place. We stopped driving her to work (we work in the same building) and she sent a mass email to everyone on her facebook how horrible DH and I were for not driving her becasuse we wanted gas money from her. She is evil and should be destroyed. Now that I have said my piece and can just hear the keys clicking on how mean I am.. (lol)... I will say this. It is YOUR wedding. He has no right to harp on you for getting married when you want to. If he is not paying, then tell him to shove off! The baby comment would have done it for me.. uncalled for! Good luck!
"To love and be loved, is to feel the sun from both sides"
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Now that I have said my piece and can just hear the keys clicking on how mean I am.. (lol)...
Not at all. I've had a couple of crazies in my life too, and am not above trashing them to anyone who will listen!
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| Your FH must say, "We simply cannot afford to change our wedding date," and then refuse to discuss it further.
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