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| So last night I was chatting with my dad about the tuxes and mentioned that FH does not love being in a white vest because he figures he'll feel weird when he takes off the jacket later in the reception for dancing (FH always wears dark colours so white freaks him out). My dad flipped and asked why in the world FH would be taking off his jacket at any point in the night. I mentioned all the boys probably will take off their jackets cause they get too warm dancing and that they have done that at every wedding I have ever been to (all my friends got married recently so it happened at every one). My dad said that boys in tuxes should never take off their jackets and that he has never seen that and that it would be like me taking off part of my dress. I totally don't see the problem with it myself as I sure wouldn't want to dance in a jacket that night. Dad muttered that it, "must be a generation thing" and that he doesn't get it. The next issue that came up was drinks on the dancefloor. My father has basically said he would flip if anyone carried their drink onto the dance floor. As a generation that has lived with the date rape drug (unfortunately) we have become accustomed to carrying our drink everywhere we go (I know I take my drink onto dance floors with me) and again, I have seen it at every wedding I have been to recently. My dad says it is rude to all the people dressed up and that he will not hesitate to tell someone off about it. This worries me a bit as that is what my friends and I do so very often. I was probably going to do it myself. The last thing I need is my father yelling at a friend of mine during the reception. I really do think all these things come down to each generation and my dad just doesn't get it (he can't understand why FH has a PS3 and a Wii either, but I don't know one boy my age who doesn't own a game system). Has anyone else clashed with people in their plans because of generation things that parents or the older folk just don't get?
~November 1st, 2008: I married my high school sweetheart and best friend! ~
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| I wouldn't say I clashed with my parents but there were a couple things (I can't even remember what they were though LOL) that my mom said, "Oh, I didn't know that's they way that is." It wasn't that she was getting upset, more that things have changed since she got married 29 years ago. Explain things to your dad and ask that he respect the way things are now even if he doesn't agree with it. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he makes rude and insensitive comments to you.
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oh hahaha. your post made me think of my "white trash wedding" LMAO! All the guys took off there shirts, nevermind their jackets!
I thuoght my parents would be super choked, (as they just forked out alot of money for the wedding) and my mom is somewhat traditional, and All their friends were there... and my parents friends, half of them all millionaires! But nope, they ended up just rolling with the punches and having a good time.
one definate generation gap thing was the dress. She couldn't beleive how much prices went up from 28 years ago! There were a couple other small things... but otherwise, they just accepted the fact that it's not 1980 anymore! mwahahaa.
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Steph and Ty
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Most amazing day of my life... with the most amazing man in the world.
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| Oh boy do I understand what you are going through! FH parents are hungarian/belgian and old fashioned about certain things.. things I wouldnt even consider or think about.. its weird how much things change through the years... Basically they are your parents and have a say, but they also need to remember they had THEIR wedding and etiquette of that time period, now its YOUR day and times HAVE changed. I dont have an answer but I would just get as many people to mention things in front of him so he realizes that maybe his way of thinking is a little dated... maybe strike up a convo about it with someone younger in front of him so he can hear you are not coming out of left field lol
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sgilmour (9/4/2008)
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Haha! My dad would die at that! I personally think it's awesome. There is nothing wrong with shirtless boys...
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Hahahaha...HAVE to laugh at the "no drinks on the dancefloor" comment...because much like you..im the same..i take my drink everywhere I go.. and at any family wedding or whatever its the same thing...my dad comes over and takes my drink out of my hand while im dancing and says i shouldnt have drinks on the dancefloor...hahaha...i have to laugh!!!The difference i guess is that my dad won't say anything to people at the wedding.....IMO i honestly wouldnt really worry about....people are going to take off their jackets and drink on the dancefloor...so much so that your dad wont be able to walk around and police all of them.....AND if he does...i bet your friends will surprise you...they would probably just do as he says and laugh it off.....because they probably have dad's who feel the same way....So..i wouldn't worry too much...not to mention the actual day of the wedding he'll be so busy and happy...he probably will be able to see that the younger generation DOES do these things...and may not feel as brave about walking up to all of them and telling them to put their jackets on...and if he does say something just tell him to leave it alone......he may get annoyed but....he'll survive!  and have a great night!!I have also come across gender gaps...the biggest ones is the who to invite...back in my dad's day...you invited everyone..all the family, and their kids and everyone...even my cousins who are much much older than me were the same..EVERYONE was invited...but they dont get how expensive things are now.....and how independant kids are and want things a certain way so NOT inviting kids is VERY confusing...to even my older cousins......but..hey..whatever..my wedding..my way!hahaha
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| I had a small generational issue with my mom - she asked if FH and I were inviting our bosses ... when they got married 38 years ago my dad's boss apparently attended their wedding. I explained to her, that these days, it not as customary, unless you are friends outside of the office.
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