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Hey ladies, i am so torn, any advice or comments would help. As some of you may know DH got laid of at the beginning of August and i gave birth on the 18th of Aug. Well, he still hasn't found a job yet. He spends hours a day looking and when he does get an interview he doesn't get the job as some is more qualified than him. My MIL moved to help us out and it is helping but we are starting to get really behind and i have been thinking that if he doesn't get a job soon that i should go back to work. My problems with going back are:
1)my shifts are MON-THUR 330 pm to 2 am, so i would not get to see LO and Dh from Monday morning until Friday morning or if i do it's only for 1 or 2 hours. Going back would bring in about an extra $800 a month approx.
2) I wanted to be the one to stay home with her so that i can be here when she experiences her firsts( ie new food, crawling, walking ect). She is only 6 weeks old and i know it sounds selfish. I also want her on a schedule when she gets a little older and i know if Dh stays home with her he wont put her on one or follow one and i don't like that. Plus i have 2 friends that are stay at home moms so i want to be able to visit them with LO to get her socialized with other children.
3) Dh is on E.I now and if i go back to work i am not sure how that would affect his E.I as when i filled out my application i never put down that i would share parental benefits, i just put i would take the whole 52 weeks. I am thinking if he doesn't tell them and keeps getting benefits they will give him a hard time b/c he hasn't found a job and they would be wondering why not. Plus he doesn't have as many weeks as i do, but he gets $200 a month more than i do on E.I.
I really don't want to go back but if i do its cuz we have to survive. I don't have to make a decision yet but i will have to soon. Thanks for listening ladies.
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Mikayla Emmerson born Aug 18,2008
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| Aw, as much as I completely understand your reasons for wanting to stay home - you'll have to do what you have to do! I'm not sure what your DH is making on EI, but is it possible for him to get a filler job (like at a Home Depot or something, anything!?), until he can get something more permanent, so you CAN experience all those things with your new baby?
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I'm sorry to hear that you might have to go back to work Yammer. I couldn't imagine having to leave my LO...
Like Beans said- you gotta do what you gotta do, and if that means going back to work to make the best possible life for you and your LO then that is what you have to do.
I'm actually starting back at work this week myself (only one day a week) but I can bring Charlotte with me. We also need the money that me working brings in so I gotta do what I gotta do.
I hope that everything works out for you and that you get to do what you want to do! *hugs*
~Erin B.
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I have nothing to offer advice wise, but my heart feels for you. I go back to work next week and Wyett is only 8 weeks old. It was a very difficult decision. As a hairstylist I would loose all my clients and that would mean not only financial hardship for the year, but as long as it takes to build my clientele back up. It took 6 years to get to the point I'm at now. I am going back part time to keep a base, is part time an option for you?
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| it seems others have already said "you gotta do what you gotta do" - which seems the most appropriate thing to say for me too. I think it's important for you to find out from EI if your husband can convert his regular EI benefits to paternity leave benefits and if it is possible, then I'd suggest doing that especially since he already makes $200 more per month on EI than you do. If you are bringing in your previous income (I'm betting it has got to be much better than EI is paying) and combined with your DH's EI checks, hopefully, that will be enough to not only get you back on track but also to help you start saving again to add to what you already have. It's not an easy decision for any mom or dad to go back to work. But, sometimes parents have to make sacrifices and this just might be the time for you to make this one based on what's best for your family right now. Good luck with it!!
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well i don't have to back yet as Dh has found a job an starts Tuesday (7th) and he is making just as much as he was when he got laid off i am so thankful i don't have t go back yet woohoo
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That's great news!! Congrats to you DH for finding a job, it can be so frustrating.
Toronto Harbour Crusie Wedding June 3, 2007 We Did It Muscles Our seedling joined us on April 5, 2008 Proud Mommy to Nolan
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