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| Sofa, you're making good points. And I have tried my hardest. To be quite honest, I'm just so frustrated and stressed out right now that I'm almost to a point where I just want to be a hermit and live in a cave. I am joking, but really, to not have so many things go wrong would be really nice at this point. I know everyone gets ups and downs. I've just been getting non stop downs and it's dragging me. My tire isn't ready to explode on the hwy, though, in due time it could happen. I wouldn't drive the car if it were at that point.. but imagine the position this puts me in. I won't be able to get to work. Zim, we don't live in the same city. I don't have any other transportation into work. No bus, train, or co-workers I could travel with. This is it. I don't think my parents owe me anything. I didn't ask for a handout and expect it for free, I expected to pay them back. I really don't think going to your own parents for help is wrong especially when they have no issues with asking help of their parents when times get tough. I've never gone to them when I myself could actually afford things, and I have sacrificed a lot in the past to achieve certain goals so that I wouldn't have to go to them. The initial reason for this post is the fact that I'm constantly lead on by my parents since being very young then told the complete opposite and pretty much yelled at, belittled and made to feel like I'm the jerk when I haven't done anything wrong. Our conversation earlier just brought all that right back up and it is fairly painful as I had a lot of difficulty dealing with my parents when I lived with them. As I said, I don't want to air everything out in the open. I think I had trouble to really express my feelings intially, hence the massive long vent post.. In the end, I'm frustrated at the way they make me feel. It doesn't matter if I asked for help, or if they'd offer me help. They still end up treating me the exact same way. I get lead on, then I feel like the ass. It's not limited to these things. I guess the convo just brought all this out of me and I was at a good point to break.
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Firstly, I've totally been where you are.
We had no choice but to drive on less than ideal tires for a month or two before getting new ones. We cut back quite a bit to save up - not that we were spending a lot to begin with.... If I remember right, we ate hotdogs and drank koolaid.  Short story long, I'm here for moral support if you need it. I can also tell you that DH and I did a ton of calling around for tire prices and a year ago, Costco was the best deal for the tires we needed for our Grand Am if you know anyone with a membership. (If your in the Barrie area, I've got one  ) Something else to consider - Christmas is coming...... as for them as an early Christmas gift. Lay on the sweet talkin... "No way I can come for Christmas if I'm dead and at this rate, these tires are sure to kill me" (might be overkill...) I hope things look up a little bit for you and your FH. -Marianne
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| It's unfortunate that you feel hurt when you ask your parents for help. I think that parents should help if they can, but some parents are just not that way. My FH and I don't get help from anyone and when he did ask for help from his folks one time then they ended up telling his siblings and needless to say a large fight ensued. Since then he has learned not to ask for help from his parents. You are not alone in how you feel, but if you feel this way then perhaps it's best to never ask for help again.
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| Thanks Marianne, That really means a lot. I wasn't feeling all too good about myself but you've made me feel like I'm not alone. We're going to have another crack at this again this week/weekend and hope something works out. We've checked costco, they only carry one brand in our size apparently and it's 160/tire + whatever they tag on. On my other car I was able to get 4 tires for around 300$, I can't believe there's such a price hike between sizes of tires. Sofa, that sucks about DH's family, that's really unfortunate. My parents don't do this, thankfully, I couldn't imagine feeling worse then I already do. They just send such mixed signals. I guess I will have to take the hint for good this time around.
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| I'm not sure if this suggestion is even too late, but you might consider calling around to see if there are any garages or places that offer or sell 'used' tires rather cheap. I know we have one where I live and they usually run around 35 and up depending on the size each. its something you could look into as a temporary fix until you can afford newer ones.
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MrsSagain (10/15/2008)
I'm not sure if this suggestion is even too late, but you might consider calling around to see if there are any garages or places that offer or sell 'used' tires rather cheap. I know we have one where I live and they usually run around 35 and up depending on the size each. its something you could look into as a temporary fix until you can afford newer ones.Thanks Mrs S. We have considered this. So far, the places we've called have suggested against this (of course they'd want the money for new) but they also said the tires are probably in just the same condition, if only a little better. This doesn't make me feel too good. I know sometimes if you look in ads and such you can find someone who's selling a set for a good price. Haven't found it yet but I'm continually looking for sure.
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