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Hi girls,
Ok - a bit of background on the situation though not really relevant to the question... feel free to skip the background if you are short on time or interest.
My FSIL's daughter (FH's niece) was expecting to be part of our wedding party, because her mother basically put it in her head that we SHOULD include her and that SHE was expecting it.
My FSIL is already in my wedding party. I wasn't going to include her because in the past we have been at odds and never been close but this year she has been really good and SO supportive of my wedding planning... she's been very involved and checking in w/ me every day to see how I'm doing, etc. which has been nice, so I don't regret having deciding to ask her to be a BM at all, but I was guilted into it by my FMIL nonetheless. She was angry that at first I had not planned to include either of her daughters in my wedding party and she felt like we should. Anyway...
We went to the bridal show a few weeks ago and FSIL brought her daughter who is 9 and will be 10 when we get married. FNiece asked me at one point at the show, what colour I want her to wear for the wedding.  I told her she can wear any colour she likes but if she wants to match the bridal party that would be ok (I thought that was what she was gunning for so figured it couldn't hurt and would make her feel "included" in some way becuase now I was feeling guilty). FNiece then asked me if she will be walking down the aisle w/ the "rest" of the wedding party. I didn't know what to say as the expectation was so clear, so I said "I'm not sure yet" (she is not even IN the wedding party and somehow she was misled by SOMEONE - probably FSIL - to think she WOULD be). She looked disappointed when I didn't say YES. I told her she'll be AT our wedding no matter what and that she is an important part of our family but I just have so many people in the wedding party already that I can't just keep adding on every person who wants to be in it.
I told her though that we would find a special job for her and said maybe she could do a reading for us so she would still be part of the ceremony.
I told FSIL about this later, as she was off looking at something else when her daughter and I had this conversation and so didn't yet know. Her reply was "I guess she could probably do a reading but not one that is too long."
WHAT?!?!?!? She should be happy I want to include her daughter AT ALL!
Anyway finally to come to my question... I've decided to have her do a reading but WHAT?!?!?
We're not religious people so that's out. What is appropriate for a child to read at our wedding?
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss. 
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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When my uncle got married 20 years ago they asked me to read a poem. The MOH and BM wore peach and I wore a peach dress as well. It was a simple little poem but I felt important to be part of their day. I was 11 at the time.
Sarah and Shawn 08.01.09
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Yea I was thinking of a poem but I'm just not sure what makes sense for her TO read. Should I leave it to her to find something that SHE wants to read or should I pick something for her?
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss.
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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Anyone? Is it just me or are the boards fairly dead in the last couple of weeks?
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss.
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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| I think Dr. Seuss has some cute love quotes/poems. Try Googling "Dr. Seuss love" or something. We had my SIL read a modified version of "Union" by Robert Fulghum, but it might be too wordy for a young person... You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes, to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making commitments in an informal way. All of those conversations that were held in a car, or over a meal, or during long walks – all those conversations that began with, “When we’re married”, and continued with “I will” and “you will” and “we will” – all those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe” – and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.
The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “You know all those things that we’ve promised, and hoped, and dreamed – well, I meant it all, every word.”
Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Shortly you shall say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life, and things between you will never quite be the same.
For after today you shall say to the world –
This is my husband. This is my wife.
Live. Love. Laugh. 10.27.07
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2bwed0609 (10/19/2008)
Yea I was thinking of a poem but I'm just not sure what makes sense for her TO read. Should I leave it to her to find something that SHE wants to read or should I pick something for her?
Definitely pick what you want read! Gosh knows what she (or the Mom) might choose! 
Live. Love. Laugh. 10.27.07
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Thanks girls. 
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss.
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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