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I expect her to be very involved - she should be organized, responsible and up to the task - after all she has to lead the other bridesmaids in planning my shower & stagette and/or help with any DIY projects I take on like invitations and/or favours, etc. as well as take care of any issues that mig |
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Hi ladies,
I have been having a lot of trouble trying to determine which of my BM's would make the best MOH as posted about in another thread.
It seems that some ladies feel the MOH role shouldn't have to come with any responsibilities and others feel like it should and does. Brides choose their MOH for so many reasons.
So, I just wanted to see how many of you feel one way or the other. Choose the answer you feel best fits the bill for you, and have your say!
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| i have said a little bit of involvement for a couple of reasons. my MOH lives in Peterborough, i live in Toronto, i cant expect her to help me with much. nor do i need the help because i am the most organized and creative person i know. However, i do expect her to organize a bridal shower. generally you aren't suposto be involved in or host your own anything but a wedding. stag and doe, bridal shower, bachelorette, engagement party etc etc etc. its considered poor etiquette, because generally you are asking people to come and give you something, a gift, money etc. as such i wont be hosting any of those things. i am willing to give help and/or opinions but i am not planning it. that's her job. other than that, if i ask for help i want it, but i don't expect too much.
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Thx KB. Did you discuss those expectations w/ your MOH when you asked her to stand up as MOH for you, or did you simply ask her to be MOH and assume the expectation was understood?
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss.
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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I did expect my MOH to be VERY involved...cause she's my sister and that's what she does hahah..we are super duper close so I knew she would be my right hand woman through ALL this and she has done that AND more. She even planned the guys night out because the best man didn't so she's a rock star. For the rest of the wedding party though I just expected a little involment, basically to help HER when needed........they've been pains...but...my MOH.....well..she is one i can always count on
Chulie~Countdown to November 1,st 2008~
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I'm w/ you Chulie... that's what an MOH should be like in my opinion. Traditionally speaking that is the role they should play (lead on MOH projects like shower etc, and help put out fires, etc. when they come up at the wedding etc.) but I wonder if more brides these days are throwing caution to the wind and choosing MOH's based on other reasons and not caring if they're good at organizing or giving speeches, etc.
For the record the end of choice #3 got cut off but I think anyone who reads it gets the drift - it was to say something about helping out with any DIY projects the bride decided to embark on (like invites, favours, etc.) or deal with vendor issues on the day of (unless there is a wedding planner to do that).
2 B Wed July 10, 2009!
Me (29) + FH (32) + his son (12) = 10 years together in unwedded bliss.
Done so far:
Booked venue & coordinator, fought with FMIL, made up with FMIL, lost e-ring, found e-ring... only 6.5 mos to go! OMG!
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I said a little bit involved because I told the girls right off the bat that there were things I was going to need some help with. Now my MOH was awesome though. There wasn't anything I couldn't ask her to help with and she went above and beyond to make sure the planning and tasks went smoothly and stress free. Now I think it helped that my MOH was a bride once herself and had been in a wedding party before so she knew lots about the whole process. My other girls weren't as helpful and I tended to struggle with them but then I expected that before I even picked them to be in my wedding party.
Married: Sept 13, 2008
What a wonderful day!
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