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My SIL who lives about 30 minutes away has offered to take Jax for the night tomorrow. She has 2 kids of her own so I know she isn't an unfit mother or anything. She knows I am having a tough time recovering and could use the full nights sleep. I have a toddler as well.
She keeps asking me and I have been putting her off. I am having separation anxiety! I don't know if I should take her up on it or not?
Could you bare to be away from your LO for one night? What do you think?
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I don't have my lo yet but all I can say is that you can always try it... and worst comes to worst -- you can always go pick up your lo if you truly are uncomfortable once he/she is gone....??
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I'm not a mom, but personally I don't think this will help you. You're going to be so worried about him that you won't get any sleep anyhow!
Perhaps what might be better is if she could come and stay with you for a night or perhaps a couple of days and take care of both of your kids, do some cleaning, laundry, cooking... whatever you need, so that you can rest (sleep as much as you need) but still have the peace of mind that both of your lo's are within sight, and if they need you (sometimes no one is as good as mommy), you can comfort them.
The added bonus to this is that it won't disrupt any schedule which Jax (or your toddler) may already have, and if your sister can cook some freezer meals or catch up on the laundry for you, it might help you more long-term.
Good luck,
Melissa
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I left my lo over night when he was very young. He stayed with my parents, I cryed when we left him but the sleep was just what I needed. He was very fussy with colic. It was what needed to be done for everyone involved
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| We have left DD twice overnight. I can tell you that, yes you will worry BUT you will be able to sleep. You may wake up a few times but remember that he's in good hands and he'll be perfectly fine! The first time was definitely the hardest though. The next time it was alot easier. I mean you could have her come over and help but I found that an overnight was what I needed. I really think that you'll feel refreshed if you have a night off. I was refreshed emotionally and physically. For me, it was just nice to wake up and make breakfast and relax. By relax, I cleaned, did laundry and dishes, and went grocery shopping ALONE! I didn't have a baby to tend to ... I could tend to myself. As selfish as it sounds I needed the "me" time --- and it was GREAT! I say do it! You'll really feel alot better.
 IGGY
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DO IT ! you will stress yes and then you will see that your baby is ok and you are ok and you will feel so much better !!
Shawna We did it November 17, 2007 Proud Mommy to Logan ( Mar. 1, 2005) Expecting #2 July 30, 2009
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I'm not yet a mom but I AM THE BEST AUNTIE EVER  I have been the house where the nephews have come for an overnight cause mom and dad need a break. As PP have said that first night is the worst (I expect at least 5 phone calls ) But it gets easier and each and every parents says thank you repeatedly as they really needed that sleep. **Most of the parents have said that they wake up in the night but then remember it is ok their kids are safe and they will see them tomorrow** If you find that it is just too hard after you have given it a fair chance don't stress over it just drive the 30 mins and go pick him up..try again another night..then another until you feel confident you can do it I also think that it is a good thing to do not only for the parents but for the children as well. If you have separate anxiety it will spill over onto them so if you start leaving your children for 1-2 or so hours at a time with a loved one and then possibly overnight it helps both of you make it easier.
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