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| I'm ridiculously lucky with christmas for 2 reasons. My DH and 2 of his 3 brothers work shift work...so in the four christmas' i've been with him, we've only had christmas ON christmas day once. It usually winds up that all the boys have a weekend off together a week or two before the 25th Secondly, my mom and dad are like THE most easy going people ever. We have a christmas eve bash with my dads family (its so big we have to rent a hall) christmas day is spent with my immediate family, and boxing day we all take our ATV's out to my moms brothers acreage, have brunch, get stinking drunk, and call a cab to come get us around 5 or 6 at night (it sounds really hillbilly-ish but its SO fun!) so there are three days of fun to choose from if my DH's family christmas does end up on the actual day of christmas, so we never really feel like we're "missing out" on either families christmas bashes, unless my DH has to work for my family christmas (he misses boxing day this year  )
~Kev & Jen 10.04.08~ ***MOD*** "If Love is a Labor, I'll slave 'till the end, I won't cross these streets until you Hold my Hand" Married!!!! My fairytale wedding was PERFECT!
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| Neither DH's or I's family live very far away. The problem with the holidays for us is that we have to have so many of them! Christmas for me starts the 14th this year - DH and I will be festing with my Dad and his 3rd wife as well as my brother, FSIL and sister. This is held especially for me since we used to go visit my dad on the 24th but now that he's re-married her family celebrates then. #3 always invites her sisters and brothers and mom and my 3 ugly step-sisters. None of my dad's brothers and sisters come just her people my bro, FSIL and Sis. This makes me feel like we're crashing their party - So I don't go. They now hold a special christmas just for me. On the 24 we will be at home with my mom. She's single and will come over to have dinner and presents and what not at our house. After presents in the AM we'll (DH & I - maybe even my mom ) depart for my in-laws to spend dinner and what not with DH's parents, brother & sister - in law. His Bro & SIS alternate between her parents in Ottawa and his in TO. This year they are here with us. On the 27th will be dinner with my father's 2nd wife, my sister and my brother & FSIL. In between the 14th and the 27th will be another dinner with my mom and my brother and FSIL. I'm jsut not too sure when that will be yet. I think I'm going to aim for the 26th. Well that's my holiday in a nut shell. One of these days I'm just going to say 'chuck it - and have a dinner at my house. If they want to see me - they can come to me! That will most likely when we start our family.
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i thought i was off the hook for this sort of thing- my fh is a jew. but nope, fbil is demanding their mom hold their channuka party on the 25th. even though channuka is 8 days- the most important thing for fbil is that HE lights the candles at the party. fmil just wants her whole family together and would do the party on any day, but fbil works in retail and would have to come late if it was on any other day, and wouldn't get to be the center of attention. (may i also add we both work in restaurants, and ALWAYS arrange our schedules to their terms for special occasions)
i'm lucky i have the best fh in the world and he doesn't give in to his (older!) brother's babyness. christmas eve, day, and boxing day will be spent with my family. we're going to see his mom for candles and latkes (i hope- yummy!) on the first day of channuka- the 21st.
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Well after the first Christmas that was a complete s*** show we made a rule, informed the families and have enforced as best as possible since. This is our fifth Christmas. Our rule is year 1 Christmas eve-his family, Christmas day-mine, year 2-Christmas eve-mine, Christmas day-his, year 3-Christmas in the states w/ his mother. some of the family is not impressed (still) but we made it clear that too bad so sad. We also had to institute a rule of first ask first serve for thanksgiving etc as some of the families through full blown hissy fits when we went to the other side for thanksgiving etc. it's working better as time goes on and everyone understands. this year his family is going away to mexico and we're not going but this was their year for Christmas day....but that doesn't mean that next year they get Christmas day....its a long and complicated process for us further complicated by the ages of his siblings being under 16 all of them and wanting their big bro there...but they understand that now there is another side of the family that needs attention too....
Wow...sorry for the long long long explanation......
** Waiting for the ring **
** sometimes patiently **
** sometimes not **
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Last year we saw his parents xmas during the day for lunch and my family for dinner. Traditionally I like to spend the entire day with my family but we agreed on this compromise and it worked really well.
This year his family planned a trip out of country for xmas, without consulting me, or assuming I didn't want to see my family at all over the holidays, and invited him. We fought for three weeks over this. In the end he decided not to go and we are spending just xmas dinner with my family and doing our own thing in our new home this year together.
I am still pissed they didn't check with him or I before booking their flights and telling us when and where it was this year. So inconsiderate I could freaking scream.
I think it will always be a hassle. i would so much prefer to do our own thing, and have families over for dinner at our place.
Here's to hope 
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Neither DH nor I are usually near home... This year we are in Canada, so hopefully we can get a flight to see his family.
My idea is that while we are closer to DH's family we will make every effort to visit them (even though I have a CMIL!), and when we are closer to mine we will visit them. Basically, it's Canada = DH's family, and the rest of the world = my family 
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