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| Not sure what to do? My best friend and moh was dumped by her fiance of 6 weeks(and bf of 5yrs) for no apparent reason(poor girl had purchased dress that weekend). She is understandably devastated and I have been there for her(the best that i can being in another province). My problem is that i dont want to upset her or rub salt in the wounds talking about my wedding. I am going home for a visit in june and was planning on bridesmaid dress shopping, but fear this is too soon. I am not sure if i should ask her if she still wants the responsibility of moh, or if she wants to step down?
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| Hmmm sounds tricky. I am guessing that since you are best friends maybe try and have that chat with her about whether or not she still wants to be MOH. If she is still fine with it then I guess all you can do is be there for her and listen....Talk less about the wedding maybe? Good luck..... Lily
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| Poor girl! That is a terrible situation! I would just avoid the topic of weddings for at least a few weeks. Let her absorb the shock of it all first. And good for you for being a good enough friend to put her well being before your wedding! In the meantime, send her a pizza! My friend did that for me when I was going through a rough time instead of flowers. It was the best present ever.
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| 32 Flavors, what a cool idea!! I want someone to send me a pizza!! actually, no I don't *must fit into dress* but after the wedding I want a pizza!!! Your poor MOH indeed! Just speak honestly to her and ask if shes going to be ok being in the WP, or if she'd like something less "involved" like doing a reading at the church, MC, etc. If shes cool with it, then just kinda gently phase in the wedding talk. Booerns to your MOH's ex-fiance. I'd punch him inthe throat if I knew him 
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My poor friend was dumped by her fiancee recently too!  Avoid talking about wedding stuff for a little while, and just be there for her. Sounds like you're far away, so I'd just check in on her with phone calls, e-mails and texts to see how she's doing. It's going to take a little while for the shock to wear off. Just be a good friend in the meantime.
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| " Booerns to your MOH's ex-fiance. I'd punch him inthe throat if I knew him " Oh trust me I want to do sooo much worse - it is just aweful he did it via email on her 30th bday @**hole, and it was completely out of the blue with no real explanation, so she is of course quite lost. The biggest shock is that they were always the couple evryone wanted to be like. I am planning on having a good chat about my wedding when I go home in june, it sucks bc I really want her in my party but I will totally understand if its too much for, especially bc she is a pretty fragile person to start with.
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" Booerns to your MOH's ex-fiance. I'd punch him inthe throat if I knew him " Oh trust me I want to do sooo much worse - it is just aweful he did it via email on her 30th bday @**hole, and it was completely out of the blue with no real explanation, so she is of course quite lost. The biggest shock is that they were always the couple evryone wanted to be like. I am planning on having a good chat about my wedding when I go home in june, it sucks bc I really want her in my party but I will totally understand if its too much for, especially bc she is a pretty fragile person to start with.
I would, liek PP said, give her some time right now. Call her often, just to chat about random things and to make sure she's doing alright. I wouldn't bring up anything to do with your wedding for a bit. Maybe a week or so before you go to visit, bring up the topic with her and ask her what she would like: to stay or step down. That way, she has some time to deal with her pain and sort things out before you bring your own wedding up.
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Poor girl! She definitely needs your support and I too would avoid talking about your wedding for the next couple of weeks. Be by her side (not literally as you are far away from her), she needs that right now. Hope everything works out for her.
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