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Okay rant time...
My FSIL is really starting to piss me off. I have tried to be nice to her as she’s FH only sister, I have even tried to include her in the plans for the wedding even though she lives in another city. But this weekend she went to far.
A little background… She went out and bought a really expensive dress for her Grad ball it was Blackish and said she was going to wear it to the wedding, she is one of our bridesmaids, so rather than fight with her I just kept the peace and let her even thought the dress isn’t black it’s grey. Then when the other 5 bridesmaids, my mother and I were going to go out dress shopping I asked her to come into the city to go with us to lunch and then shopping. I asked her over a month in advance, she told me she had a major paper due on Monday and wouldn’t be able to come. I said fine and left it at that. Then the Monday before we are supposed to be going shopping her MSN name changes to “Going to T.O. for a comedy show Thurs night, who wants to come?” I got upset that she couldn’t come in on the Sunday for dress shopping but she could come in 3 days before for the show. I didn’t say anything to her, just to keep the peace.
She comes into town the end of March to an event we had invited her to, and afterwards while we are all sitting around she announces to our friends and us that she is never moving back to Toronto because she can’t live with her father and she doesn’t want to take care of him. Their father is a sever Diabetic who has let it get very bad and only now is dealing with it. I hold my tongue to her and drop her and FH off at the subway. The next day I talk to FH because she is now dumping all the responsibility of her fathers care on us AGAIN!! After I had to get FH out of that house so he could live his own life. He has a short talk with FSIL I refused to speak to her until I calmed down enough to be civil.
My shower invites go out, so after a week I ask FH to call her to find out if she got her invite. She says no. The end of week 2 I send her an MSN msg if she had gotten it, still no. Beginning of week three I send her another msg, still not there. At the end of week 3 I ask again and it’s still not there, so I tell her I’ll give her one when we see her last weekend. I run to my aunts to get another card for her and give it to her on Saturday. Did she once msg and say “hey I know you are having your shower when is it and what are the details?” NO, it fell to me to make sure she knew what was going on.
I dropped FH and her off at the subway on Saturday night and in the car I was talking about wedding plans and the fact that we got another gift from one of my aunts, it was the first time I had a chance to talk to FH all day as he had been working. She apparently called him really upset last night because I made her feel bad that she isn’t more involved in the wedding and I’m not giving her anything to do but everyone else is helping, and I made her feel bad about the fact that people were getting us stuff for the shower and wedding. If she felt bad at that I can’t imagine what’s going to happen on the 18th at the shower when I open the gifts and she sees some of the stuff my family had bought for us, three of my aunts are buying our Henkles knives, one of my aunts bought us 8 place settings and the serving pieces for our every day cutlery, her mother is buying us all 16 place settings of our good silver with the hostess sets, my aunts mother and MIL bought us a large amount of our serving piece for our china… even my sisters bought us a gift not only for our betrothal, and our engagement party but also for the shower.
And when I said that I wasn’t sure that I wanted to go to her graduation in Waterloo (in the morning) because my MOH is graduating the same day in the afternoon, and it didn’t feel right that I was going and her mother who really wants to be there isn’t because she told her she only got two tickets and they were going to her father and brother. FH should be going he paid for most of her tuition and books, but her mother paid the rest and FSIL didn’t tell one side that the other side was helping her, so she was crying poor to every one and because FH and his mother were estranged at that time neither knew what the other was doing. But he just got upset at me for saying that, never mind that I had my university graduation after we were engaged and he missed it because he needed to sleep because eh was working the night shift.
I loaned her a beautiful leather collar with a braided steel inlay that a friend of mine made for me, for her grad ball in the first week in April, she didn’t bother getting it back to me until last Saturday. I was even nice to her this weekend and she claimed I was being hostile towards her and she didn’t know why. I don’t even want to talk to her, I’m so sorry I asked her to be in bridal party, and she is such a pain in the ass. I’m at my whit’s end.
*End Rant*
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Stephanie & Mike
Engaged: Sept. 29, 2006
Betrothed: July 22, 2007
Married: Aug. 17, 2008
You are the ink to my paper what my pen is to my pad
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I'm not really sure what advice to give you. Normally I would tell you to let your FH deal with his crazy sister but he doesn't seem to be much help in that department at all! I know what you're going through though. My husband's family is VERY difficult and caused me A LOT of stress before my wedding. You just have to deal with it because after you guys are married it wont even matter anymore. Just try to avoid her where you can and try to keep the peace because a blow up between you two will only make things more stressful. If you need to vent just come on CB and we'll be here to listen!
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