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Same thing happened to me and my fiancee. We never officially announced our engagment and fiancee didn't want to until he could afford an engagment ring. So we kinda started planning quietly meanwhile his brother and his fiancee..the same. We figured because they are soo young and they told the family they were going to wait til they're done school..etc... We didn't worry about them. Heard rumors about a May 10th unknown year.Well when we announced our engagment and wedding date May 12th 2007 (which we had picked before any rumors of there date circulated) feelings definately got hurt but my fiancee and His brother talked and we both said if meant soo much the date could be changed. But in your case I would say you shouldn't change your date. You have started planning and shouldn't have to loose your deposit's. My advise have your fiancee talk it out with his cousin to clear up any further misconception. Double wedding anyone???
May 12th 2007 Mrs.Scott at last!
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terri33 (4/7/2006)
So T and I got engaged less than a month ago. Within 24 hrs we had set the date and because of the weekend we picked, we started planning and booking. We've booked the church, the hall, the caterer, the DJ, the photographer, and the videographer. We securred our funding and have paid our deposits. Obviously, we are getting married May 19/07. It appears that our date conflicts with that of a distant relatives. Something like a cousin through marriage but because everyone on FH's side is from the same small town, they are all expecting to be invited to the wedding. This distant relative got engaged at Christmas and we have been informed that our dates are the same. As I assumed they had started planning before us, we said we may consider changing our date. As it turns out, they have not booked a single thing, have not looked at a single venue, and have not talked to a single vendor. Also, they chose their date after we chose ours. I feel as though we are being expected to change our date because of a person I have never met and FH and has not seen in many years. I know I do not "understand" as his family is much more closely knit that my family is and they see this as a major issue and do not want to have to chose. How do we inform my FH's family that date changes is not something we are going to consider? I don't want to be the biatch that caused the problem but I don't feel this other couple can just tell us to change our date when they have taken no actions to plan their wedding. I don't see why there are issues with this ... you have the date booked with vendors and deposits are made. The other couple have nothing, nada, zero, zilch. Send out your save the date cards and let family know that the date is set for your wedding day. If the other couple go ahead and book the same day elsewhere well .. that's pretty retarded of them to do that because then it appears almost as if it was done to spite you, and they look bad for that. They can surely pick another day since they haven't made deposits yet. Why do people go nuts over a date???? It's only a date .... like any other in any other month of any other year. People need to remember that they are getting married to someone they love, and not to a date.
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I went through something similar here...
FH & I announced the dates for our Jack n Jill, Bridal Shower, Bachlorette/Bachelor, Rehearsal Dinner and Wedding almost a yr and a half in advance. His cousin, distant, decided to one-up us and plan her wedding for our Rehearsal dinner.I was PEEVED! A couple months go by... we've reorganized our Rehearsal dinner... and lo & behold... are told that the cousins wedding is off... her FMIL tried to take over and even bought her a dress without asking! I know it's kinda evil but sometimes ppl get what they deserve!
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| Hang in there! And, I'm with Alli... send out those "Save The Date" cards... keep going like nothing else is happening. Even send them one... then maybe they'll get the hint that it is them and not you that needs to change the date!
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| If you have already set the date and they haven't I would stick to your guns. I would maybe make that perfectly clear to as many people as you could. Send out save the dates....too funny (that is like the millennium party on Seinfeld!). Jules.
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