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RE: the baby borrowers tv show

sarahandrob2010 — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 15:44:17 GMT

[quote]you literally grow up overnight and I don't think this show will be able to show kids that because they're not dealing with their own kids and the love and commitment that would be there were the kids their own is just not there. [/quote]

I totally agree.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

Zim — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 13:30:18 GMT

I read that the children are all psychologically assessed before they go on the show, for separation anxiety, etc.

I think the show does everything they can to make sure the children are safe.

I don't think it's good TV, but we shouldn't say bad things about the parents.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

NatalieP — Sat, 05 Jul 2008 07:57:00 GMT

I think Kelly and her bf did a great job with the baby.
I also think Jordan and his gf did a good job as well.
The other couples need to grow up... especially Alicea. She acts like a child herself. Her poor boyfriend.

Anyways, I was thinking about why the parents would lend their child, and came up with a reason that makes sense to me.

Ever leave your child with a baby-sitter and wonder how your baby is doing without you? How does your child react when you're not around? Well, on this show, you are watching 24-7.
So, it's a once in a life-time opportunity right?

I dunno, maybe I'm wrong. JMO.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

DonnaBella — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:53:14 GMT

I am from a broken family....my mom had me when she was 16 yrs old, my parents split up when I was 7 yrs old, my sister, brother & I slept on park benches with my father for over 2 yrs....

We all have choices in life, regardless of our family upbringing....you either choose to go the right path OR you choose to go the wrong path, fortunately I chose the right one:D

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

MrsZator — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:48:38 GMT

[quote][b]akeemah (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]While I agree it's unfair to judge a person's ability to parent based on their age, I do think it requires a certain maturity level to flip your life 100% around when you have a baby and some kids, at a "certain age", lack that, be it for 3 days or a lifetime. I had my daughter at 21, so no, not as young as 16 but young enough to think it was going to be easier than it was, you literally grow up overnight and I don't think this show will be able to show kids that because they're not dealing with their own kids and the love and commitment that would be there were the kids their own is just not there. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, preggo brain at it's finest.[/quote]

You can have differnet maturity levels at different ages too.

You could have a 16 yr old mother that is way more mature then a 28 yr old or vice versa...it all depends on the person...not the age.

Also, I agree that its totally differnt when its your own.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

akeemah — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 22:09:57 GMT

While I agree it's unfair to judge a person's ability to parent based on their age, I do think it requires a certain maturity level to flip your life 100% around when you have a baby and some kids, at a "certain age", lack that, be it for 3 days or a lifetime. I had my daughter at 21, so no, not as young as 16 but young enough to think it was going to be easier than it was, you literally grow up overnight and I don't think this show will be able to show kids that because they're not dealing with their own kids and the love and commitment that would be there were the kids their own is just not there. Sorry if this doesn't make sense, preggo brain at it's finest.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

MrsZator — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 21:47:49 GMT

I was 16 when I had my daughter (who is now 9) and she is a pretty good kid.

I too find it insulting to judge parenting by someones age.

As for the show... I dont know who would be stupid enough to lend their baby out to any stranger as specially for a tv show! Talk about warping a kid lol

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

sarahandrob2010 — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 19:15:40 GMT

[quote][b]aotter (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]i think everyone is born with a clean slate. no one is born good or bad its how you are raised that defines the type of person you are.[/quote]

But people naturally have different personalities. Cause otherwise, how do you account for the wonderful, productive, determined people in the world who had a terrible upbringing, but had the inner strength and determination to rise above it all, despite it all?

And other people, despite having no major obstacles in their lives, seem to be inherently weak and prone to feelings of inadequacy and ineptness. This is how I'm feeling lately, anyway. :blush: And I find myself wondering why I can't find the inner strength and determination that some people seem to be blessed with.

(Not trying to have a pity party. Just offering another point of view.)

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aotter — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 17:13:10 GMT

i think everyone is born with a clean slate. no one is born good or bad its how you are raised that defines the type of person you are.

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fascha — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 16:25:19 GMT

Yeah, I think sh!tty and great kids can happen to any parent good or bad - point taken! LOL

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

sarahandrob2010 — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 16:15:08 GMT

[quote][b]fascha (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]Jen I've been on such a bender, and I can't say that I fault my parents for it. My parents did their best, or what they thought was their best and I think it's really unfair to imply that if your kids don't turn out as cookie-cutter as you that it's because of how they were raised or their parent's lack of commitment to raising them.[/quote]

I think her point was that these parents were probably viewed as "typical" - the kind you wouldn't expect to have problems. But it just goes to show that everyone does.

I think the show has a good premise, but I'm not sure it will work. It's easy to do it for 3 days. It's hard to do it for 3 years, and then keep doing it for more and more years, even after you're exhausted and pushed beyond your limits. I speak from experience :P

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jen39 — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 16:04:48 GMT

Sorry I think i came across unclear. All I meant by "cookie cutter" was that they werne't too young or too old or anything. Their level of commitment was TERRIBLE. In the year I was around this kid, his mom and dad were home an average of 3 days a month. They were constantly taking vacations and leaving this kid with his cousin/nanny

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

DonnaBella — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:55:24 GMT

I think this show is such a brilliant idea!!!!:D

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fascha — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:51:08 GMT

Jen I've been on such a bender, and I can't say that I fault my parents for it. My parents did their best, or what they thought was their best and I think it's really unfair to imply that if your kids don't turn out as cookie-cutter as you that it's because of how they were raised or their parent's lack of commitment to raising them.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

jen39 — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:25:18 GMT

[quote][b]sgilmour (7/4/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]yoda75 (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]I saw the 1st episode, and I hated it. All those kids are brats! They can't handle having a baby at their age!! [/quote]

I think this is quite the assumption. I find this offensive to women on here who DID have children at 17-18-19 years old, and handled it fabulously "at their age".

I also think that these kids are able to act as crappy "parents" because these children aren't theirs.

I think it is completely different when you know you have to care for a child at 16.... you change your life... these participants KNOW it's just for a show... and that what they do for 3 days won't affect the outcome of the babies life.

I know lots of women (even some on this board) that are FABULOUS parents and have raised wonderful children and had to change their lives at 16, 17, 18 years old to become a parent. it doesn't happen over night... but it's YOUR baby...

This is why this show is so weird.

Would i lend my child out? maybe- it's 3 days and as a 14 year old i nannied for a 3 month old and a 18 month old all summer... and if it could potentially open another persons eyes to at least give them a TASTE of parenthood... I think i'd trust a 18 year old with my baby, especially since i could watch all the time, and there IS supervision...

Again... i don't think age makes you a great parent... i think, being to give your child a loving home, being devoted to the child, food, and a roof makes you a good parent....

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I couldn't agree more. I know ppl that have millions and millions of dollars, a multi million dollar company that was ready for their son to take over whenever he wanted/if he wanted. he was given all the very best in life, and what happened to him? He took off on a week long coke bender at 15!!!!! They had to send him to a dry out facility in Nevada! These are normal run of the mill type ppl who had kids in their very late 20's, fairly cookie cutter parents, but if you can't invest the time in your kids, you shouldn't have them. As stef said, its not the age but the dedication of the parent.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

sgilmour — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:11:24 GMT

[quote][b]AmieL (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]sgilmour, I agree with you...but, I will say that for at least one half of one of those couples, if the girl couldn't even step up and try to be responsible for something that she KNEW was only for three days, well, then, that speaks to me about the type of person she is, you know? In my opinion, it would be easier to be a wonderful parent to someone else's kid for only three days than it would be to your own child for the rest of your life (that made sense in my head), but she couldn't even handle that.

I think the poster who said the couples weren't ready at their age was speaking about these particular couples, maybe. I don't know that for sure, but that's the impression I got. Some of the couples did very well though, and probably would step up if they REALLY were parents, but I think that some wouldn't. That one girl...I can't remember her name, but boy oh boy, was she a quitter, in every way![/quote]

I agree there were a couple couples that sucked... i just think the comment was that at their age they can't handle kids.

I don't think it's the age.. i think it's the mindset of those particular people.

There were couples on there (2 of them) thgat i wouldn't hestitate to hand my children over to in a hearbeat.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

AmieL — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:07:18 GMT

sgilmour, I agree with you...but, I will say that for at least one half of one of those couples, if the girl couldn't even step up and try to be responsible for something that she KNEW was only for three days, well, then, that speaks to me about the type of person she is, you know? In my opinion, it would be easier to be a wonderful parent to someone else's kid for only three days than it would be to your own child for the rest of your life (that made sense in my head), but she couldn't even handle that.

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

sgilmour — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 15:00:49 GMT

[quote][b]yoda75 (7/4/2008)[/b][hr]I saw the 1st episode, and I hated it. All those kids are brats! They can't handle having a baby at their age!! [/quote]

I think this is quite the assumption. I find this offensive to women on here who DID have children at 17-18-19 years old, and handled it fabulously "at their age".

I also think that these kids are able to act as crappy "parents" because these children aren't theirs.

I think it is completely different when you know you have to care for a child at 16.... you change your life... these participants KNOW it's just for a show... and that what they do for 3 days won't affect the outcome of the babies life.

I know lots of women (even some on this board) that are FABULOUS parents and have raised wonderful children and had to change their lives at 16, 17, 18 years old to become a parent. it doesn't happen over night... but it's YOUR baby...

This is why this show is so weird.

Would i lend my child out? maybe- it's 3 days and as a 14 year old i nannied for a 3 month old and a 18 month old all summer... and if it could potentially open another persons eyes to at least give them a TASTE of parenthood... I think i'd trust a 18 year old with my baby, especially since i could watch all the time, and there IS supervision...

Again... i don't think age makes you a great parent... i think, being to give your child a loving home, being devoted to the child, food, and a roof makes you a good parent....

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

BeeBear — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:46:32 GMT

I missed the show but checked out the website and the mini segments they have on there. All I can say is what a wonderful method of Birth Control. :w00t: I certainly wouldn't be the parent to allow my child to be borrowed though. No way.

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yoda75 — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 14:41:15 GMT

I saw the 1st episode, and I hated it. All those kids are brats! They can't handle having a baby at their age!!

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AmieL — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 12:11:51 GMT

I just hope these kids realize that they are only getting a TASTE of what it is like to be parents...really, on this show, they aren't even babysitting...I mean, when I brought my baby home from the hospital I didn't have a trained nanny/nurse standing close by in case I messed up...or the real parents only a stones throw away, you know? These kids have no idea...none.

and no...I would NEVER loan my kid out to a show like this. That little guy crying cause the girl wouldn't feed him broke my heart...I would have been pissed to if I was his mother. That girl didn't like any type of critisism at all...not form the mother, her boyfriend, her 'boss' at her one day of work...what a quitter she was.

Also, I hope these kids don't get so turned off from parenthood by this show that it makes them NEVER want to have kids...just cause they aren't ready now, and just because they might suck as parents now, doesn't mean that they won't be ready to be great parents when they are a little older, and have some more life experiences under their belts.

I do watch this show, but I just feel like there is no reality here...it's one thing to look after a baby, toddler, etc., when you know it's just three days...it's completely different when you know that this is the REST OF YOUR LIFE! Completely different mindset...am I making sense?

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unionstation — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 10:57:11 GMT

DH & I watch this too! I soo wanted to slap that chick too that was so selfish about the baby she was taking careof or not I should say as well as not taking the mother's constructive critism as just that.

Some of the other couples are really great though...toddlers next week!:D

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

missdish — Fri, 04 Jul 2008 07:34:44 GMT

[quote][b]flyboysgrl (7/3/2008)[/b][hr]I ended up watching it out of sheer curiosity.... interesting. I think something like this should be mandatory for kids, but I've got to ask who "loans" out thier kids for this? No way in hell would I do it... I don't care if there is a nanny and a TV. No way! ;)[/quote]

I didn't see it but wondered the same thing.....

RE: the baby borrowers tv show

flyboysgrl — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 23:57:14 GMT

I ended up watching it out of sheer curiosity.... interesting. I think something like this should be mandatory for kids, but I've got to ask who "loans" out thier kids for this? No way in hell would I do it... I don't care if there is a nanny and a TV. No way! ;)

the baby borrowers tv show

satin — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 19:33:40 GMT

did anyone else watch this last night? i really wanted to hit the one girl who wouldn't feed the baby cause he was fussing. then she freaked out when the baby's mother came to talk to her. it's an interesting show-one couple was awesome!