InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 02:59:44 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxlet us know what you end up doing. I had 2 bridal showers and a bachlorette then I find out 1 week before my destination wedding (when I had tons of other things to do) that my MIL wanted to throw me another bridal shower........It was nice of her but the worst timing ever. I am actually having to do it all again when we finally get pregnant.<br>I agree with just having a FAMILY dinner instead of a party with people you don't know. Maybe have your DH mention it to her.Sun, 20 Jul 2008 00:27:57 GMTAngMcQhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxthanks for the replies ladies. the problem with doing one after the baby is born is that everyone is in Ontario and we live in alberta so we won't be back until probably a couple months after he's born. <P>Our wedding was a social gathering/barbq with men and women and I still didn't like it - she invites hords of people that I don't even know and I just feel bad that these poor people have to buy a gift for someone they don't know. Also she is pretty intense and I think she just likes to throw parties I really don't think its about me and her son (well I guess it is a little but this is also her 6th grandchild...) maybe I'll suggest just a family gathering/dinner instead of an actual shower that way she'll still get to make a big dinner.Sat, 19 Jul 2008 19:14:03 GMTballoongrlhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxI agree 100% your choice - Would you feel better if it is AFTER you LO is born? Then all the focus is on the baby alos, if you have any toddler age kids in your family they really take then tension off by helping to open presents cause there always like...NEXT!!Fri, 18 Jul 2008 16:59:01 GMTTheHbridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxI'm actually looking forward to my baby shower, hopefully someone throws me one LOL I was sooooo uncomfortable at my first bridal shower that I got drunk :blush: By the second one I was doing better, but still felt awkward opening gifts in front of everyone. I think a baby shower is different, because now the focus is more on the baby. I think it will be easier to open gifts for the baby instead of gifts that are for myself and DH. Maybe you'll feel the same?Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:53:55 GMTAdreahttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxI had one shower for Lily.. 4 people actually were nice enough to show up.. I pretty much had to do everything for it because my MIL said she would and then left it up to me.. </P><P>but seriously its up to you.. like the other girls said maybe it can be more like a get together and just people relaxing and it also means that you get all your visiting done at onceFri, 18 Jul 2008 14:53:20 GMTrobandhilhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxI pretty much feel the same way as you. I don't want to seem ungrateful but having all my MIL's friends come and give me/baby gifts makes me uncomfortable. I just don't know those women all that well and they are a tad...<FONT color=#991111>intense</FONT>. So I figure I'll just tell my SIL as an aside a little later on in my pregnancy that I am not down for a full on shower...BUT I understand its really more about my mil wanting to show off her new grandbaby to all her pals, so I think I will suggest an open house after the baby is born, no gifts, no games, just socializing...and men will be invited. If my DH is there I figure it will take a bit of pressure off me :) Maybe you could suggest something similar. Its win win really, as everyone gets to meet the new arrival, no one has to bring a prezzie, and everyone can just hang out and not feel pressured to play silly games and watch the opening of a bunch of gifts.Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:25:02 GMTkrukhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxI don't think it is out of line. If you aren't comfortable then fine. What if it was like a BBQ or something that your DH could stay at and be more of a social gathering then a "baby shower" ?? Maybe you could suggest something like that. That way your MIL would feel like she is throwing something for you-? Just an idea....Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:01:12 GMTeeklrbhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxIt is completely up to you. If you don't want a shower then don't have one. BUT this is her grandchild and I think it's sweet that she's so excited and wants to do this for you. I wish my MIL cared that much. Besides dont you want a chance to show off your beautiful baby bump??Fri, 18 Jul 2008 14:00:56 GMTChrissy616http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic438047-15-1.aspxis it wierd or even rude of me to NOT want a baby shower? my MIL wants to throw one when we go back to ontario in two weeks and frankly I just don't want one - I wasn't comfortable and didn't really enjoy my wedding shower and I don't think I'll like this one either. Is it completely out of line of me to ask her to not throw one?Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:35:23 GMTballoongrl