InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 10:48:34 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspx[quote][b]Soon2bMrsP (7/10/2008)[/b][hr]No the boiopsy doesnt cause infertility, the surgery after is what would possibly cause it. The biopsy at the end of the month is just to grasp what we are dealing with more.<P>Also, I would get the doctors go ahead before getting pregnant.[/quote]<P>That make more sense! The two of you have time to talk it all out before the end of the month and for you to find out if his concerns are pure fear! I'm probably one of the oldest women on the boards and one great life lesson I've learned is to "not borrow trouble" be prepared of course for any outcome and have a plan. Throughout our lives, especially throughout our young adult lives, we waste so much time worrying about things that most of the time never happen. Your biopsy results may not warrant surgery; of course you need to discuss the options if they do. Will be praying for you!Fri, 11 Jul 2008 18:52:03 GMTsweetpea61http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI'm very sorry that you have to go through all of this.<BR><BR>Is there any chance that you can freeze fertilized eggs or freeze your eggs to be implanted later or would the surgery not allour you to carry a child either?<BR><BR>Here's to hoping for a good outcome.Thu, 10 Jul 2008 21:57:56 GMTleanne0509http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxNo the boiopsy doesnt cause infertility, the surgery after is what would possibly cause it. The biopsy at the end of the month is just to grasp what we are dealing with more.</P><P>Also, I would get the doctors go ahead before getting pregnant.Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:33:08 GMTSoon2bMrsPhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxSo the biopsies may cause infertility? Did the Dr indicate why the biopsies are so important if they could be left long enough for you to conceive and give birth. Your health is the MOST important thing - and that seems a little odd to me? </P><P><FONT color=#1f5080 size=2>As for you FH's reaction........men react very oddly out of fear.....what he is expressing now may have nothing to do with actually having children and more to do with his love for you and wanting your health as the primary concern. From the little you posted, just as a CB friend, I'm concerned about that so I can only imagine how he must feel. Normally if there is a need for a biopsy, there is a sense or urgency, not a it can wait for 9+ months while you conceive and give birth.</FONT></P><P><FONT color=#1f5080 size=2>You need to talk to really find out what he is feeling....he may not actually be letting you down in the way you think as far as future children, but protecting the most precious thing in his life - YOU!!!!!</FONT>Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:22:49 GMTsweetpea61http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxMy heart goes out to you sweetie! I am hoping all your dreams come true! God Bless you and your decision. Good luck with the biopsies and thank you for the update.Thu, 10 Jul 2008 20:12:03 GMTlovemrkhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI am so so sorry that you have to deal with this, and that your FH isn't responding the way you'd hoped he would. It's really tough when the person you count on lets you down :(</P><P>(((hugs)))Thu, 10 Jul 2008 16:08:40 GMTsarahandrob2010http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxOh hon, this is the last thing you need right now!! I am so, so sorry you are dealing with so much life-changing stuff all at once - you are obviously a very strong woman!! I can 100% see where you are coming from about wanting to act now on having children, given the possibility that it could be "now or never". I would have wanted the same thing as you. Do you think there is any chance FH will come around? Is it possible that he's saying what he's saying because he is refusing to come to grips with your illness and therefore with the urgency of having a child while you still can? Maybe he feels that by ignoring your condition, it will go away (guys are like that sometimes). It sounds like you need to have a serious talk with him and lay it all on the table - life is too short to comprimise and he needs to know in no uncertain terms where things stand for you. </P><P><FONT color=#1f5080 size=2>I wish you all the luck, strength, health and happiness in the world - please let us know how things turn out!</FONT></P><P><FONT color=#1f5080 size=2>Kirsty</FONT> Thu, 10 Jul 2008 14:27:23 GMTkiwi25http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxSorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully, your biopsies at the end of the month will give you a better idea about what needs to be done.</P><P>In the meantime, I hope you and your FH get things straightened out. He is probably feeling overwhelmed about this whole situation too and really worried about you. Maybe he will change his mind about having children sooner, and maybe he needs a little more time to process and digest all this new information. Sometimes it takes a little bit for reality to set in when things like this happen. Hopefully, he comes through for you. </P><P>Good luck!Thu, 10 Jul 2008 14:25:50 GMTMrsSofaQueenhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI guess I was hoping he would man up right away and take away my worries, tell me he knows how important kids are to me and agree to start trying..</P><P>i know its a lot for him to digest but he is turning out not the be the man i thought i was marrying.Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:31:18 GMTSoon2bMrsPhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxWell I am back in the hospital July 30 for another string of Biopsies.</P><P>The surgery the doctor would like to do may cause infertility.</P><P>The past two days my FH and I have been arguing. I want a child right away so I can atleast have ONE biological but he says he is not ready.</P><P>The doctor said if it is our decision he would wait the time it takes me to give birth and then operate. </P><P>I just can't justify (when we will be husband and wife in a few months anyway), NOT having a child now, even if there is the SLIGHTEST chance afterwards that I cant conceive. Its a no brainer for me and my FH is really hurting my feelings... he KNOWS how much children mean to me.</P><P>I am trying to understand his perspective but I think there are times in life when a man needs to be a man and grow up.. he wants his "freedom" still... at the expense of us possibly never having our own children.</P><P>Our arguement came to a head today when I told him I had a lot to think about... not having children is a deal breaker for me and I am not sure I want to spend my whole life with someone that is so casual about my desire to have children.</P><P>The wedding is 3 months away.Thu, 10 Jul 2008 13:29:24 GMTSoon2bMrsPhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspx[quote][b]silvarazz (7/9/2008)[/b][hr]I've also been thinking about you. I hope today went well and that you'll be back soon to give us good news! *hugs*[/quote]</P><P>+1</P><P>Please update us when you have a chance. Many here are thinking of you :)Thu, 10 Jul 2008 07:18:25 GMTsarahandrob2010http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI've also been thinking about you. I hope today went well and that you'll be back soon to give us good news! *hugs*Wed, 09 Jul 2008 22:32:50 GMTsilvarazzhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxHoping you got good news today!Wed, 09 Jul 2008 19:00:35 GMTsweetpea61http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxGood luck. I hope the doctor appointment goes well.Wed, 09 Jul 2008 15:31:37 GMTMrsSofaQueenhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxDefinitely hoping and praying everything is fine. God Bless You! Sincerely awaiting good news.Wed, 09 Jul 2008 06:11:39 GMTlovemrkhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspx[quote][b]Soon2bMrsP (7/8/2008)[/b][hr]Further to my previous post, just wanted to update everyone that posted before and was interested...<P>My doctor just called, the results of my Biopsy are in and he wants to see me tomorrow.</P><P>I go at 1pm.</P><P>Keep you fingers crossed for me!</P><P>Ill let ya know!!![/quote]<P>Hon, thank you for checking back in with us.......I know I am one of many looking for updates. I will be praying for you.....and whatever the results please try to remember that if it is something, found early, it's a blessing!!!! Also please remember that if there is anything you can't discuss with your "three-dimensional friends", your friends here on CB are always here for you. PM us anytime. I will be checking back when I get home from work tomorrow, I will be praying for you as I have been but truly hon, remember no matter what they tell you, if there is something bad, it really is such a blessing to have found it early. Think about Satin's story and so many like hers. Life can be full of bumps in the road; I have had 5 different biopsies spanning 15 years with varying results and the only really bad things are the ones you don't find early. <P>Don't go by yourself tomorrow.......we all really do need someone with us whether it is to celebrate or to help us process what is said. Keep us posted sweetie; no matter what.....it will be ok because you would have discovered any bump in the road early. Hugssssssssssssssssssss!!!!Tue, 08 Jul 2008 21:21:06 GMTsweetpea61http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI'm thinking of you Mrs. P. Hope the results are good!Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:16:14 GMTkiwi25http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxI hope you come back with positive news!</P><P>I am keeping you in my prayers &lt;3Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:02:59 GMTBellzBridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxGood luck!! Thoughts and prayers being sent your way. (((hugs)))Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:25:01 GMTsarahandrob2010http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic427360-5-1.aspxFurther to my previous post, just wanted to update everyone that posted before and was interested...</P><P>My doctor just called, the results of my Biopsy are in and he wants to see me tomorrow.</P><P>I go at 1pm.</P><P>Keep you fingers crossed for me!</P><P>Ill let ya know!!!Tue, 08 Jul 2008 14:23:35 GMTSoon2bMrsP