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RE: Inviting people from work

NatalieP — Fri, 14 Apr 2006 11:07:48 GMT

I am getting married on a Friday.
So I can invite all my friends/co-workers and only some of them will get approved for vacation... more like "first come first served."
That way they will all be invited and not feel left out, but it's up to them to put the request for vacation that day, and they'll be mad at whoever declined their request, instead of me.

RE: Inviting people from work

bride0607 — Fri, 14 Apr 2006 09:08:05 GMT

well as silly as this may sound we are going to have and A and B list, but different than most. WE Cannot go under 80 guests, our venue will not allow, so A list is the closest friends and family. B list is the list of people we want to envite but can't because of cost constraints. Sooo as a decline comes back to us a new invitation goes out. Sounds lame, but I was on a co-workers 'b' list 2 years ago and I did not mind. 95 plates are paid for and if only 90 show up the family still pays for 95. I have no problem filling one of those seats myself.

RE: Inviting people from work

MrsMtobe — Fri, 14 Apr 2006 00:51:48 GMT

[quote][b]flyboysgrl (4/13/2006)[/b][hr]Someone told me to invite only your boss... if you want to... and any co-workers that you associate with OUTSIDE of work. That narrowed my list from 30 to 5+dates. I am going to mail the invitations to thier homes as well instead of handing them out in the workplace, I hope it'll prevent some hurt feelings.[/quote]

I think that is a very smart move to mail them and not hand them out at work. It will prevent some hurt feelings!! Kudos!!

RE: Inviting people from work

julesmc — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 17:22:22 GMT

yikes your boss! I wouldn't do that. She is great and we get along but I don't think I would want her to see 'my world' outside of work.

I like the advice to invite people you work with but also hang out with outside of work.

RE: Inviting people from work

MrsEToBe — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 17:13:01 GMT

FH did not invite his staff. Only his colleauges.

I invited my colleagues that I've been close to over the years. It's my day and if anyone is upset that they didn't get an invite-then so be it!

RE: Inviting people from work

flyboysgrl — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 16:36:51 GMT

Someone told me to invite only your boss... if you want to... and any co-workers that you associate with OUTSIDE of work. That narrowed my list from 30 to 5+dates. I am going to mail the invitations to thier homes as well instead of handing them out in the workplace, I hope it'll prevent some hurt feelings.

RE: Inviting people from work

dansfiance — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 16:19:13 GMT

I'm not inviting anyone from work.. Dan is inviting a few people.. but they are more friends than anything else, so we don't look at them like the people from Dan's work.. so..

RE: Inviting people from work

EastWest — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 15:57:13 GMT

I'm inviting people from work...not all though because my wedding would have to be held at the Air Canada Centre in that case!! We are inviting 10-15 from work. It's hard though because both my FH and I work at the same company!! YUPPERS-office romance!! :D

RE: Inviting people from work

icywedding — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 15:51:39 GMT

I'm completely stressed with the whole "co worker" issue as well. I work in a department with about 25 people.... of whom about 5 of them I am particularly close with. I don't socialize with them outside of the office... but when we are at work together we get along great, take lunch together, and talk for hours! The thing is..... I don't think that they would feel entirely comfortable coming to the reception part of the wedding, because they wouldn't know anybody, and because I also know that they probably don't want to spend the money to go (even though they KNOW that they don't have to bring anything... they still would and it's pressure for them).

My plan was to just invite them to the church part... but FH feels that it would be rude. I disagree, because I think that they would be delighted to come to the church, but I just know that they really don't want the pressure of also having to come to the reception part. I don't know what to do!

RE: Inviting people from work

fascha — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 15:07:03 GMT

Most of my co-workers are like family and we've worked with eachother for years and years, so I'm inviting them all, they account for about 30 people! WOWZA!!! Oh well... I wouldn't feel comfortable working with everyone talking about my wedding if the few I could do without were around to hear all about it; so I avoided the issue by inviting them all!

RE: Inviting people from work

gena — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 13:50:13 GMT

I have lots of friends at work but I only invited the ones I actually go out and do stuff outside work.

RE: Inviting people from work

julesmc — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 13:40:21 GMT

I found this awkward too but I work with great people who I hope will understand??????? Jules.

RE: Inviting people from work

ScotBride — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 13:36:28 GMT

Since I'm a manager I've only invited other managers. My staff will not be attending the event but most will come out for our Stag n Doe... I'm excited about that. They know our budget and guestlist issues so nobody was pushy... only 1 person is upset and got over it when he talked to another manager who explained that I had only invited managers.

RE: Inviting people from work

angesept06 — Thu, 13 Apr 2006 12:26:02 GMT

Thanks for the feedback ladies:)

RE: Inviting people from work

crysandjim — Wed, 12 Apr 2006 23:55:14 GMT

Between FH and I , there are only 2 co-worker couples invited to everything. We just invited everyone else to the dance.

RE: Inviting people from work

MrsMtobe — Wed, 12 Apr 2006 23:52:31 GMT

I'm not a fan of the A list and B list and some ppl being invited to the whole day (ceremony, supper & dance) while others get only invited to the dance. That being said, I'll also say .. to each their own. Its not my wedding, therefore, what you do is your business.

However, since it is YOUR wedding, why cant you invite who you want? Why do you have to worry about offending others? If they get offended .. oh well! Their issue to deal with. You know who you want there, and you know how many spaces you have available. Work with what you have and go with it. Forget about offending ppl. There will always be someone who doesnt like one aspect or another about your wedding. SO?????????? Are you out to please everyone else or yourself on your wedding day? Just because you work with 100 ppl doesnt mean you invite them all. You invite those you want there on your day. It's not rocket science ppl. :D

RE: Inviting people from work

Pansy — Wed, 12 Apr 2006 23:41:03 GMT

Invite 'em to the dance only. Make a second batch of invitations that invite them to the fun part of the night, at no major cost to you, your FH, or your family (whoever is footin' the bill). Advise them that it's "best wishes only" to avoid a tense situation regarding gifting... if that would be an issue with your co-workers (I wouldn't have a problem with my co-workers, but that's a personal thing).

Then that way, everyone's been invited one way or another and there's no hurt feelings!

Inviting people from work

angesept06 — Wed, 12 Apr 2006 23:13:09 GMT

Ok, so this is my problem. I have quite a few friends at work. Some I am really close with and others not so much...needless to say I get along with everyone and we all go out from time to time.

Here is my problem. I obviously can not invite everyone. How do I invite some and not others without offending anyone?

I personally would not be offended if i was not invited to a colleagues wedding. I know how expensive they can be. But is several other people and their spouses were invited I may be a little upset....

How do I avoid this?!?! Help Ladies!

-Angela