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RE: i am fed right up

gordcrys — Mon, 17 Apr 2006 01:55:20 GMT

[quote][b]kysha (4/16/2006)[/b][hr]I agree - you need to have a chat. i have learned with my hunny, that often what i think is obvious, he just didn't see. not trying to upset me, offend me or anything he just didn't see it that way. i think a simple expression of how it made you feel and what you would appreciate may help, and if that does work, i'd go with spending the $$$$ for cleaning on you!

good luck:hehe:[/quote]

I agree... my FH can be the exact same way... he just doens't see things the same way I do... I see that the laundry needs to be done and the floor needs a sweep and he just doesn't see it at all...

For me... a mess really bothers me and I am not going to just leave it for him... if it sits there for 3 days and he doesn't touch it even when I have mentioned it... ARGH... I get upset... and even tho he doesn't mean to hurt me or upset me... he just doens't think that it is that important... I like my house clean so leaving stuff laying around is not kool! And I don't want to nag at him to pick it up... I am not his mother and I don't want to act like it... But man sometimes I see no other way to get him to do the stuff then to point it out...

Sometimes they just don't get it... just gotta sit em down and lay it out....

RE: i am fed right up

MrsMtobe — Mon, 17 Apr 2006 00:25:34 GMT

yeah, hire a maid/cleaning lady .. and see how fast he starts helping you out!!!!:D

RE: i am fed right up

MaddyK — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 16:40:26 GMT

[quote][b]fascha (4/15/2006)[/b][hr]satin - I have fears that Fh will be useless and not do his fair share. What I would do is have a cleaning lady come in to help you; and take that 100.00 out of his spending money! It's not right that he doesn't do his fair share. You need to clear this up now... and when you do; let me know what worked! ;)[/quote]

I would do that... if my FH wasn't contributing to the house work...I'd hire a cleaning lady...

RE: i am fed right up

JennAnn — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 11:52:45 GMT

I would lay it out on the line and tell him exactly how you are feeling. I know how hard it can be... I was in your position a couple weeks ago and it sucks. I hope that you guys can come to an agreement and that it is one that both of you can live with. If you want to chat to someone who has been through this before feel free to pm me and we can chat.

RE: i am fed right up

kysha — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 06:53:10 GMT

I agree - you need to have a chat. i have learned with my hunny, that often what i think is obvious, he just didn't see. not trying to upset me, offend me or anything he just didn't see it that way. i think a simple expression of how it made you feel and what you would appreciate may help, and if that does work, i'd go with spending the $$$$ for cleaning on you!

good luck:hehe:

RE: i am fed right up

MrsMtobe — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 01:54:44 GMT

Hugs!!!

You need to have a serious discussion with your FH about his lack of consideration towards you regarding his part of the "chores" and responsibilities around your home.

If he gets away with it now (or thinks that he can get away with it) it will just get worse later.

Address the issue with him now and clear the air!

We are here for you, if you need to chat and vent!

RE: i am fed right up

leggebride — Sun, 16 Apr 2006 01:29:29 GMT

You need to lay it all on the line for him.."men" they often need us to spell things out for them. Do yourself a favor before you do anything drastic.. talk to him!! don't yell, don't give him ultimatums..just talk! I don't blame you for not wanting to be the only one that does anything... your probably exhausted from the week that just past. You could always do what fascha said and hire a maid.. but.. I would "hire" myself.. take the 100 bux or whatever it would cost and spend it freely on ME! That would be sure to get his attention!! Keep us posted on what you decide to do.. were hear for ya!!

RE: i am fed right up

jjf — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 23:43:15 GMT

Sam - he needs a kick in the pants! Don't let him get away with that, I would point out the obvious as maybe he is not seeing things the way you are. Take a deep breath and think things through before rushing into any decisions about your future wedding...you know you want to wear your beautiful dress...and marry the man of your dreams...who needs a little wake up call right?? Good Luck!

JJF :w00t:

RE: i am fed right up

fascha — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 16:25:13 GMT

satin - I have fears that Fh will be useless and not do his fair share. What I would do is have a cleaning lady come in to help you; and take that 100.00 out of his spending money! It's not right that he doesn't do his fair share. You need to clear this up now... and when you do; let me know what worked! ;)

RE: i am fed right up

newtothis — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 16:22:31 GMT

Sorry to hear that satin and I really have no words of wisdom other than think you need to have an out and out discussion with him now rather than later and set down some rules. Some that you can live with and let your feelings be known and not wait till later so there will be no surprises for him later on. Men are from Mars and women are from venus I think some times they just don't get it.

Happy easter

i am fed right up

satin — Sat, 15 Apr 2006 16:14:12 GMT

okay--m i can take alot but i'm am soo mad at FH right now

he had the flu the week and i did everything for him including taking care of his 2 kids(mine were at their dad's)making dinners, etc whilr he could rest and feel better. So now he's better and guess where he has been for the last 2 days?
not here! over at hid dad's helping "fix" a car instead of helping me and fixing things around here he said he would a month ago.

i'm am so tired of doing it all by myself and am ready to NOT get married because if this how it's gonna be i don't want it!!!