InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 08:37:48 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxIf those people were having a misserable day, don't let it stress you. I'm sure it's easier said than done but just try not to let them ruin your mood....YOU'RE GETTING MARRIED SOON!Tue, 18 Apr 2006 16:36:26 GMTjulia56http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxUgh - why do some people have to always bring others down?! My ex and his family was like that too - I could never get excited or happy about anything, without them saying something to "bring me down to earth." Just ignore their comments, and be as excited as you want to be!!!:DTue, 18 Apr 2006 09:53:58 GMTRissy26http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxholy party pooper batman!!! jebus... ignore it.. you have 2 weeks and 5 days before your wedding.. you don't need the crap... !Mon, 17 Apr 2006 10:09:45 GMTdansfiancehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxYou have the right to be excited - it is your day. Don't worry about his aunt - depending on how old she is that generation is way more reserved than the younger. </P><P>I wouldn't let anything she says get to you. I would just brush it off. I have a similar situation with a couple of my aunts as they seem distant from the whole thing. One of them told my mom to "just wear any dress" when she discussed how she had been looking to find a nice dress for herself for our wedding (which offended mom and me) - I just brushed it off to her abrupt personality. A couple of other aunts are supportive and excited and already bought their own dresses for our wedding. I say don't let a few party poopers get you down. You will always have a few of those around.Mon, 17 Apr 2006 09:34:00 GMTbrowneyedhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxThat's too bad that his family is putting a damper on things, the post above is right, they must not remember their own wedding days! Go ahead and be as excited as you want! You're getting married!! :w00t:</P><P>We're all excited here for you (I know it's not the same) but sometimes we just got to ignore those who bring you down. I'm sure it's not on purpose, but it's hard to call someone on something like that without risking a fight right before the wedding.</P><P>I would just continue on being excited, and to hell with their comments!</P><P>StaceyMon, 17 Apr 2006 08:31:07 GMTstacey8422http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxAs brides it's fairly common that the people around us aren't always going to be as excited as we are about our big day. Try and take those people with a grain of salt. You and your FH are happy and excited and that's all that matters.<BR><BR>Good luck and Congrats!!!Mon, 17 Apr 2006 06:57:10 GMTScotBridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspx<P style="BACKGROUND: white"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"><FONT color=#000000>You have every right to be excited... you are getting married in 2 weeks and 5 days... I would be bouncing off the walls by then!!!<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /><o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P style="BACKGROUND: white"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"><FONT color=#000000>But I have to say I know how you feel... surprisingly this aunt isnt usually like that... it is weird when it comes from an unlikely source... <o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P style="BACKGROUND: white"><SPAN style="FONT-SIZE: 10pt; FONT-FAMILY: Verdana"><FONT color=#000000>I have recieved negitive comments many times... people are just jelous, my best friend even throws them out there from time to time and she was just married... you would think of all people she would understand. but I think it is in part because she is not in my shoes doing it right now... and wishes she were back there... usually I just consider the source... and move on... those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter... Dr. Suese. If she minds you being happy that you are marrying the man you love... that is her problem and don't let he bring you down!!!<o:p></o:p></FONT></SPAN></P><P>Be happy!!! Your gettin married!!! Wahoooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:DMon, 17 Apr 2006 01:35:40 GMTgordcryshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspx[quote][b]FutureMrs.D. (4/16/2006)[/b][hr]My wedding is in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! Like any normal person, I feel sooo excited/stressed! <FONT color=#dd33dd>Congrats!! It's ok to be excited!!! </FONT></P><P>We had Easter dinner tonight with my FH family, and I had 3 different people all tell me that I was too excited and that it was only one day, I should not be this excited, but the only thing I said, adn only once, was that the wedding was in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! When you are that close, who doesn't countdown? It's not like I was being obnoxious and bouncing all over the house telling everyone that! I said it once! It is not their day!!! <FONT color=#dd33dd>They obviously don't remember their own wedding day and how excited they were just weeks before their big day. </FONT></P><P>SO anyway, when one aunt told me this, I just tried to laugh it off, and jokingly I said, yeah, but it's not everyday I get to be a princess!, and she just totaly straight faced told me i wasn't going to be a princesss that day either and that I could dress up nice any time I want....what do you say to that! <FONT color=#dd33dd>Well I would have said "Listen you grumpy old hag, piss off already. Just because you are miserable, doesnt mean everyone around you needs to be miserable!!! If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing!!! " Then I would have gotten up and walked away and out of the house or left completely. </FONT></P><P> I am a happy bride to be and she basically just threw a bucket of cold water over me! What really gets me mad, is that this one aunt in particular is always fun, nice, giggly with everyone, and she used to be with me too, but now she just doesn't seem to care at all??? <FONT color=#dd33dd>It is ok for you to be happy. Regardless of why she may be miserable, she has no right to rain on your parade. </FONT></P><P>I am supposed to be excited, and now I wonder if his family even wants my to be a member???[/quote]</P><P><FONT color=#dd33dd>Remember, she is <U>only </U>an aunt. Speak to your FH about her behaviour and see what he suggests or what his thoughts are. Perhaps, your FH could speak to his mom/dad about this aunt and her unacceptable behaviour. Your fh needs to step up here since it is his family and he needs to stand up to them so they know that they cant treat you like garbage.</FONT> <FONT color=#dd33dd> If he allows that behaviour now, then it will continue in the future and he needs to put an immediate stop to it!!!</FONT>Mon, 17 Apr 2006 00:15:44 GMTMrsMtobehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color=#dd3333 size=3>I can tell you that you are entitled to feel as excited as you want.. "YOUR GETTING MARRIED IN 2 WEEKS AND 5 DAYS". Thats not something that you can help but be estatic about. You are in love with a wonderful man and the world will know just how much on that day... I say.. if anyone tries to bring down your cloud.. rain on them!! You WILL be a princess on your day.. (its really the only day us ladies can dress up like cinderella and be the center of attention with out being told were nuts..lol!) One thing to keep in mind is that.. YES you are marrying a man with a family.. BUT you are NOT marrying the family. He loves you and thats the important thing. Be as happy as you want to be.. and if someone says anything about it then you know they are either jealous cause they aren't in your shoe's or its just the "misery enjoys company" addage.. let them stay that way. You will make your FH weak in the knee's when he see's you walking down the aisle to him and he will remember that vision for the rest of his life as you will. Yes its only one day.. but its the day that you start you life "ALL OVER AGAIN!" you have grown to the new stage in your life and its awesome... KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND IF YOU WANT TO BOUNCE ALL OVER GO FOR IT.. ;):hehe::hehe::hehe:;)</FONT> Sun, 16 Apr 2006 23:54:02 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxFirst... BREATHE!!</P><P>Second... Don't start second-guessing whether they want you in the family based on one day, or some careless remarks.</P><P>Remember, YOU are the one living and breathing this wedding, and YOU are the one getting married... as difficult as it is sometimes, that means that YOU are way more excited than those around you. It could be that the aunt was having an off day... it could be that she's tired of hearing about wedding plans (we ALL talk about it way more than we think we do, cuz it's always on our minds!)... or it could just be that she honestly thinks you're way too excited way too early. Either way, it makes no difference, does it? Be excited, be giggly, scream it from the rooftops - you're getting married! It doesn't matter that SHE is not excited, as long as you and your fh are. Judge the family by how much they have loved and supported you over the time you have known them, not by what they have said on one day. Let her comments roll right off you, and enjoy the last few days!Sun, 16 Apr 2006 23:50:39 GMTapril28http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic15399-6-1.aspxMy wedding is in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! Like any normal person, I feel sooo excited/stressed! We had Easter dinner tonight with my FH family, and I had 3 different people all tell me that I was too excited and that it was only one day, I should not be this excited, but the only thing I said, adn only once, was that the wedding was in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! When you are that close, who doesn't countdown? It's not like I was being obnoxious and bouncing all over the house telling everyone that! I said it once! SO anyway, when one aunt told me this, I just tried to laugh it off, and jokingly I said, yeah, but it's not everyday I get to be a princess!, and she just totaly straight faced told me i wasn't going to be a princesss that day either and that I could dress up nice any time I want....what do you say to that! I am a happy bride to be and she basically just threw a bucket of cold water over me! What really gets me mad, is that this one aunt in particular is always fun, nice, giggly with everyone, and she used to be with me too, but now she just doesn't seem to care at all??? I am supposed to be excited, and now I wonder if his family even wants my to be a member???Sun, 16 Apr 2006 23:34:08 GMTFutureMrs.D.