InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comSat, 11 Oct 2008 11:57:38 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxthanks mld.....my boss and I are laughing both about this....my co worker is very selfish and I realize that and that is why it is not bothering me anymore...so thanks again...I will keep you posted...actually since she first told me when her wedding is...she has not said anything about her wedding at all...and she was in a pissy mood yesterday...I just laughed all day to myself....thanks again...:DSat, 22 Apr 2006 14:38:53 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxWay to go flamesfan! Good way to look at things...this should actually be funny for you. Let us know if she gets annoyed not knowing what is going on with your wedding!Sat, 22 Apr 2006 11:09:42 GMTMLDhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxYup I have decided not to say anything to her about my wedding...and in fact the more I think about it the more I think this is hilarious...thanks again girls for the advice it is nice to know that people do care around here....:)Sat, 22 Apr 2006 02:28:28 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxI would just keep her in the blue and tell anyone that knows any details to keep them from her. Just explain to everyone that she is mimicking you and you want to be able to put an end to it.Fri, 21 Apr 2006 08:24:12 GMTJennAnnhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxThanks MrsMtobe and MLD....I appreciate both of your advice ladies.....I decided this morning that if she asks me anything about my wedding that I will politely say that we shouldn't talk about our weddings while we are at work and that is for break time talk...we never have a break together and so that should work out well....and my boss already ok'd the time off for her...my time off was booked before I even started at my new job...my boss was aware of it anyways...this coworker is taking the week off of her wedding and I will be taking that Friday off and then the next 2 weeks off...she is only taking 1 week off and we will be only having 1 day off the same...as we don't do the same job...but work in the same department...so my boss said that it would be fine....so well ladies...I figure I have more class than to let her silly pettiness get the best of me....and it is Wednesday and well hey life is too short to get all bent up about things like this right...thanks again for the advice ladies....:)Wed, 19 Apr 2006 09:45:24 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxWhat an annoying person your co-worker is! Not talking to her about your wedding is probably the best thing you can do. Getting upset about her afterwards would just be a waist of your time and emotions.Wed, 19 Apr 2006 09:41:26 GMTjulia56http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxOMG she sounds annoying! Sounds like she was TRYING to make you mad. Atleast her wedding won't conflict with yours since it's in another province, and your boss knew about your wedding anyway so time off shouldn't be a problem right?</P><P>I agree with leggebride...you should give her all kinds of details about "your wedding". Tell her really terrible ideas (convincingly of course!) and hope that she goes for them. Then when her wedding turns out really bad, and yours is beautiful, you can ask her "ARE YOU MAD??":DWed, 19 Apr 2006 08:48:41 GMTMLDhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxWell it looks like you sorted this out ... good to hear! After reading your post, my impression was that she was trying to get a rise out of you by constantly asking if you were mad. </P><P>I would have said ... now why would I be mad? My wedding date is set, my plans are in motion, and the best thing is .. I've already booked that time off. Good luck getting time off at that time! **SLAM** that would have made her start to worry about getting time off and caused her a bit of turmoil!!!</P><P>I would also suggest that you speak very little about your wedding details. A very polite "I'm sorry, I dont really want to discuss my wedding details" would shut her up instantaneously. She sounds like the type who will try to compare notes with you on planning the wedding ... be prepared for her with an array of polite yet uninterested responses. She will eventually get the message that you dont wish to discuss anything with her about your wedding or hers and just go about your work as you normally would!Wed, 19 Apr 2006 02:18:49 GMTMrsMtobehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color=#bb33bb size=3>Good.. glad to be of assistance!!:D</FONT>Wed, 19 Apr 2006 00:46:32 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxI love that idea especially about the shark thing....lol....I feel so much better now....and am glad I came on to CB tonight...thanks again for your advice...I appreciate it....:)Wed, 19 Apr 2006 00:11:20 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color=#7777dd size=3>I agree with your boss.. its all about you and your hunny. You don't have to stop telling he about your wedding..just don't tell her everything.. infact you could even be mean about it and tell her things that you aren't doing because its "Oh soo expensive" and " its beautiful but my theme is sharks" or something along those lines.. she will get the hint eventually or she will pipe up and say after a few days that she is doing something along the lines of what you said you would like to do but can't. I wouldn't be surpirsed one bit.. don't take it to heart if she tries the whole 1 up on ya routine! Your very welcome girl.. anytime!!</FONT>Wed, 19 Apr 2006 00:07:28 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxYou might be right on what she is thinking....My boss said that as long as I know how important my wedding is to me and I am enjoying planning my wedding with FH that is all that matters...so I will just let her plan her wedding and if she has questions about my wedding I will politely say I have nothing else planned yet....thanks for the advice....:)Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:58:39 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color=#7777dd>Glad you can laugh about it now..the thing is this.. maybe she feels that your the center of attention and she doesn't like it. Maybe she wants to have everyone all over her.. and really if you think about it..people can be annoying with all the questions after awhile.. let them give her what she wants.. takes the annoying people away from you!</FONT>Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:54:09 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxI agree with you...I gave it alot of thought and I do realize that it is not worth getting all upset at...but at the time it just took me off guard but I do see your point and it won't affect my time off....Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:49:46 GMTflamesfanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" color=#dd3333 size=3>As long as it doesnt' effect your time off work.. then don't worry about it. It's not worth giving that type of person anything to talk about. I could see it being as issue if she was one of your friends or family.. but she is only a co-worker!</FONT>Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:47:45 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic18009-6-1.aspxOkay girls...I need an opinion here.....FH and I got engaged at Thanksgiving and we decided on Sept 1/07...we wanted to have a fall wedding with all of the beautiful colors and nice weather and we put alot of thought into deciding on our special day...anyways.....I started a new job in December and my co-worker has been dating her FH for a couple of years...in January they got engaged...no big deal...I had discussed many times with people the day I am getting married and why we are having a longer engagement and so on....she was full aware of it and she is the type of person that is so nosey and has to know what is going on in everybody's life....she always has an agenda and I really am PO'd about what has just transpired today....when she got engaged she talked about oh...I don't know when we are getting married sometime in 2008...we aren't in any hurry....well a couple of weeks ago...she calls my boss at home and asks when my wedding is again...I feel this is weird but hey who am I to judge...well FH's grandma passed away last week and she went back home to Saskatchewan for the week and I hadn't heard anything about this phone call from her...then yesterday she asks when am I taking my holidays next year and when is my wedding...I think this is weird but I begin to tell her again...and that is all she says....then today...well she then informs me that her FH has decided not her that they are getting married Aug 31/07...and since he doesn't want a September wedding because it is not nice out and doesn't want it on the September long weekend like mine...Friday the 31st of August will be the day of their wedding....I was like...what the h**l....she says well her FH really wanted it on that day and she told him that was weird because I am having my wedding the next day...but he soooo insisted on that particular day....boy...was I born yesterday???how the hell is Aug 31 not part of the September long weekend????am I missing something???She then starts to say are you mad??I say well it is kinda weird to be having your wedding the day before mine when FH and I decided like 6 months ago and put alot of thought into it....she is like well that is when he wanted it but are you mad???she kept asking me that and I kept saying well I just think it is weird and she replied well we are having our weddings in 2 different provinces and they aren't on the same day...and I am having a big wedding and her a very small wedding so that should be alright....BOY after her asking me about 10 times if I was mad...I really began to get mad...but then I went on my break and she kept asking my boss if I was mad...and then asked another co-worker if I was mad...and they both replied that I was hurt by it and that picking a wedding day is usually something special for the bride...but that it was weird to have the wedding a day before mine...she was like...but it isn't on the same day...well ladies I was upset...but I am actually laughing about it now...and I have decided that I am not going to tell her anything more about my wedding...I feel that she is just jealous that I have a fantastic FH..and a great job and a great life....so if she wants to be like that so be it...sorry girls for the long note....just venting to anyone that would listen....AAAhhhhh I feel better now....I am just going to let her live in her own little world and I will keep living my great life...:)Tue, 18 Apr 2006 23:41:16 GMTflamesfan