InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 09:37:08 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxasking you brother does not mean you have to also ask his gf.</P><P>you can ask him to be a groomsman and another female friend or relative to be a bm.</P><P>i think you are supposed to actually <U>like</U> your wedding party people aren't you? lol</P><P>its not like whoever you pair up to walk down the aisle are dates for the wedding or anything - they can be brother/sister for all that matters.</P><P>i'd just ask your brother and find another woman to walk down the aisle on his arm - someone you can actually deal with and work with in planning your wedding (an important detail when choosing your wedding party)Tue, 02 May 2006 20:51:09 GMTmombridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxThanks for all your helpful advice I did take it. I was somewhat able to sort out the situation as well. I asked a friend(her husband is bm) to help a bit ie with shower jack &amp; jills ect and I asked my brother and the future sil. I am by NO means adding someone to my bridal party I just asked for help and they were more then happy to say yes(it might turn out better than I thought, cause sil might be out of my hair...lol) So wish me luck and thanks again.:DTue, 02 May 2006 19:46:38 GMTpookie1001http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxHey Pookie!<br><br>Like the other girlies said, hiring a wedding coordinator may be less stressful than the other situation you had been leaning towards. That way, if your BM is out of hospital (which I'm sorry to hear about. Hopefully it's not anything life threatening or too serious) at that time, she can step in an resume her place in your bridal party without a hitch. If she doesn't happen to be better by that time (God forbidding!), then to replace her for the sake of numbers, etc, just feels a little cold to me, IMHO. No offence to you if you choose to do this, however, because your situation could be completely different from one I am picturing. Honour her presence by keeping her place in your bridal party open and have your brother involved in a different aspect... one that is even more personal than being a groomsmen. Have him give a toast to you and him at the dinner... share a special dance with just the two of you... etc. It would mean more to him to be able to give you that gift (I went through the exact same situation with my brother and although I wanted him to give a speech or a special dance, he opted to be a groomsman and we were able to accommodate that).<br><br>Good luck! Hope that helps!Tue, 02 May 2006 14:05:05 GMTPansyhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxI agree with Scotbride, hire someone! Don't pick someone to be a member in your bridal party just because you feel you would be delegating too much to MOH. If you don't want to spend the money tohire someone then maybe do some of it yourself... don't consider it bad ettiquette, consider it "pinch-bridesmaiding" lol :D Good luck!Tue, 02 May 2006 09:42:39 GMTfaschahttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxTough situation...</P><P>If you've had problems in the past with this future SIL I'm not so sure I'd be jumping to have her in my bridal party. Isn't there anyone else you could ask? I think by inviting her you may just be inviting more work for yourself trying to keep the peace while organizing everything anyhow.<BR><BR>One of my bridesmaids got mono a month or so ago and hasn't been able to help with a lot of the wedding stuff but she's doing the best she can. We've all just pitched in to help but managing.</P><P>I would hire a wedding coordinator to assist before inviting someone who only caused me aggravation into the bridal party.</P><P>Best of luck!Tue, 02 May 2006 09:03:15 GMTScotBridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic28620-6-1.aspxOk I'm going to try to make this long story very short here goes......</P><P>My wedding party consists of 2 girls &amp; 2 guys, problem is one of the girls is very sick(has been for a long time. I know she would never miss the wedding unless she was hospitalized(which she is now) But I don't want to leave my Maid of honor to handle details of "jack &amp; jills" and other things that may pop up all on her shoulders. I brought up the idea of adding another couple to the wedding party to my fh and he was like "why do you want to replace them?" I mention I was not trying to do that but I just don't want her to have to do anything even if she is well. I also don't need the extra crap put on my shoulder or my MOH. My parents live and hour and a half away so that leave them out my fh's parents are older and can't do much anyway.Problem is the other couple I want is my brother and future SIL and her and I have had a lot of issues(i mean a lot), but I love my brother and he's an usher anyway (not sitting at head table because of her) . My fh has serious issues( he is stubborn and won't let go of things-partly for protecting me) with her and I just don't know what to do. So do I ask them to be in it or not? Do I wait longer and see how my other bridesmaid is doing and possibly leave more work for myself and MOH? HELP I REALLY NEED IT.Tue, 02 May 2006 08:03:57 GMTpookie1001