InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 10:32:55 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxLike Skells said, who is really acting like the child in a situation like what you're in at the moment? I would be inclined to have a chat with your aunt and perhaps have your mother or someone close to you present if you feel you can not handle her reaction alone... I find that sometimes the moral support acts as more than just that - support. Those who oppose a motive but are "confronted" by a moral supporter as well as yourself usually feel more obliged to consider an alternative. Think of it as adult bullying! Always works for me! hehe...Fri, 07 Apr 2006 16:23:19 GMTPansyhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxI agree with all the other girls on here and your Aunt should understand where you're coming from. I'm sure she knows what he's like...you do and he doesn't live with you, right. Sit down with her, tell her your concerns and that's that. If she holds it against you, well, who's being the child.... really?!Thu, 06 Apr 2006 21:11:17 GMTskellerhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspx[quote][b]Claudia80 (4/6/2006)[/b][hr]Julianna is right, you shouldn't feel obliged to have him as a ring boy, especially if it was forced upon you! It's your wedding and if you feel that the little guy is going to cause problem then you have to speak up and let them know before you go any further with the planning. Either that or let him do his part in the church but let the parents know that he doesn't have to be there when you are taking the wedding pics. You can take some with him when you guys get to the reception.[/quote]</P><P>Good advice!!Thu, 06 Apr 2006 15:36:11 GMTMrsMtobehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxMy ring boy was also my young cousin... he was three... his mom (my aunt) had to walk him down the ailse. It was all good. He fell asleep during the ceremony. He wasn't in any of the pictures. It really wasn't a big deal. My neices were my flower girls. One of them them walked half way down the ailse... then screamed and turned around and ran back. It was actually hilarious. A great story for her wedding day. It didn't ruin my wedding. I'm still married a year and half later and happy. Actually, the funniest and most memorable moments of my wedding day were the imperfect unplanned ones. Like when one of my friend's little boys shrieked "YAY" really loud when the priest said that we were gathered today to celebrate the marriage of me and my hubby. </P><P>That being said... if you really don't want to have your cousin in your wedding party then you shouldn't feel obligated to. But if you would like him involved and your only worries are if he'll pull off the task perfectly then I say keep him in the wedding party because if he doesn't pull it off perfectly it really isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things.Thu, 06 Apr 2006 15:13:15 GMTjulieparkeshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspx[quote][b]dansfiance (4/6/2006)[/b][hr]well thank you Claudia..[/quote]</P><P>You're absolutely welcome!Thu, 06 Apr 2006 13:19:49 GMTClaudia80http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxno problem.. glad we could help you out on this one!Thu, 06 Apr 2006 13:13:48 GMTdansfiancehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxya your both right, I think my aunt and I need to sit and have a talk. <br>Thanks!Thu, 06 Apr 2006 12:21:35 GMTmspi7http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxwell thank you Claudia..Thu, 06 Apr 2006 12:14:05 GMTdansfiancehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxJulianna is right, you shouldn't feel obliged to have him as a ring boy, especially if it was forced upon you! It's your wedding and if you feel that the little guy is going to cause problem then you have to speak up and let them know before you go any further with the planning. Either that or let him do his part in the church but let the parents know that he doesn't have to be there when you are taking the wedding pics. You can take some with him when you guys get to the reception.Thu, 06 Apr 2006 12:00:07 GMTClaudia80http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxyou shouldn't be obligated to do anything really... that's something I really don't like.. you HAVE to have this person because... well.. it's your choice and if you don't feel that the person is up to the 'position' then i would talk to his aunt and explain it all.. how you feel, blah blah blah.. does the little guy have his outfit or anythign for the wedding? if not, it's not the biggest loss.. it's not like his mum spent money on it yet. </P><P>Not sure if this will help at all.Thu, 06 Apr 2006 11:50:58 GMTdansfiancehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic2894-6-1.aspxI was pretty much obligated to have my little cousin as the ring boy in my wedding party like right when I got engaged. The thing is that he's the type of child that is glued to his parents and I'm worried that he won't even want to take pictures with us, but I know that if I tell my aunt that I don't think that he'll be able to take on the task (which is a nice way of telling him that he can't be in the wedding party anymore)that she'll be really offended and hold it against me, because she's the type of person that would. So I'm kinda confused on what to do, any suggestions???????Thu, 06 Apr 2006 11:37:50 GMTmspi7