InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 07:48:31 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxYes, people actually do that. At least they are telling you before the wedding and just not showing up. My FSIL got married last summer and several couples RSVP'd yes and just never came without a word to the bride or groom. Then, not only do u have to pay, you have empty place settings at the tables. I know how you feel though. We have had a lot of people say no and aside from a few with legit reasons, most were lame and some didn't even bother to tell us why. I guess I am crazy but I am soooo honoured when I get invited to weddings and unless I have already booked a trip or something, I always go. If the bride and groom invite you, it means that they want you there to share their day and that to me is special. A lot of people dont get that. I guess until your the one deciding who to invite and who not to invite, you don't understand the thought that goes into it. </P><P><FONT color=#1f5080 size=2>17 days till I'm a married woman......:w00t:</FONT>Tue, 08 Jul 2008 23:21:10 GMTTandN2008http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxI had people say they were coming and starting about 7 days before the wedding I started getting calls that they weren't coming. The final blow was 24 hours before the wedding when I got my last 2 cancellations.</P><P>What I did when I had gotten the first declines a week before was called up some people that weren't invited to dinner. They were thrilled to come! Is that still an option??Tue, 08 Jul 2008 19:55:46 GMTScoobyFanhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxwe had a bunch of people actually do this to us. we had a whole table not show up and when asked they all said they forgot it was our wedding. 1 person even had the nerve to come to the ceremony then tell us he wasn't coming to the reception because he couldn't find a date after we had 2 plates order for him. People left early for our wedding and not alot of people danced we had the hall booked until 1am and by 12:30 we were all gone but i had so much fun, i didn't care by that point i just wanted to spend the rest of the night with my new husband. i had fun, honestly don't worry about it things will happen and it is a very important day so i would just relax and enjoy all your hard work will pay off and everyone will love it.Sat, 05 Jul 2008 00:08:15 GMTAdri78http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxMy uncle called 2 nights before to say his plumber was going to his cottage so they couldn't come. I should have sent them a bill, but ended up asking my parent's neighbors (who were thrilled and not at all offended to be 'replacements').<br><br>The at 9pm the night before the wedding, another uncle who'd never rsvp'd and never answered messages, said that he WAS coming. I had my dad call him back and tell him that he couldn't. There was no seat, meal etc for him. And I was pissed. <br><br>Stupid people. It's not like we're planning a backyard bbq with beer and hotdogs!Fri, 04 Jul 2008 10:16:18 GMTchrismonthttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxSome people, eh?</P><P>We had an entire table end up empty - they didn't want to call me directly (the day before/day of) so they told my parents who didn't want to upset us so they didn't tell us. Not sure which was more frustrating....the empty table or half the info.</P><P>Not fun either way but your day is going to be fabulous!Thu, 03 Jul 2008 14:06:02 GMTKatherineRhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxYIKES!! That is incredibly rude of them!! We decided to go 'camping' instead??? Come on...that's just plain RUDE!! RUDE RUDE RUDE! GAWD!Wed, 02 Jul 2008 11:22:53 GMTcfrankehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxWe had a few people reply that they were coming and then within a few days of the wedding weren't able to make it, some for legitimate reasons (a fall on the ice and injury) and one for a piss-poor reason (trying to quit smoking and it would be too hard to be at a party - duh....there's no smoking in the hall).....it is unfortunate that we have to absorb the cost of last minute cancellations, but what can you do. Tue, 01 Jul 2008 10:55:37 GMTsweetpea61http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspx[quote][b]anaksa (7/1/2008)[/b][hr]My Mom got married 3 years ago and sent her FHs <STRONG>nephew</STRONG> &amp; <STRONG>wife</STRONG> an invitation, they RSVP'd for 7 :w00t: (they have 5 kids). She was a bit upset about it but decided to let it go. The day of the wedding, they DIDN'T even show up! She never got a card, an apology, nothing.[/quote]<br><br>That is totally rude.Tue, 01 Jul 2008 10:17:30 GMTSodayahhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxMy Mom got married 3 years ago and sent her FHs <STRONG>nephew</STRONG> &amp; <STRONG>wife</STRONG> an invitation, they RSVP'd for 7 :w00t: (they have 5 kids). She was a bit upset about it but decided to let it go. The day of the wedding, they DIDN'T even show up! She never got a card, an apology, nothing.Tue, 01 Jul 2008 09:41:58 GMTanaksahttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxWe had one family (Dh's side) do that. They never RSVPd, there was 4 of them in total, but DH talked to them and they assured us they were coming, even though they were from OOT. And 2 days befroe the wedding, SURPRISE, they're not coming.</P><P>It sucks, but unfortunately it happens.Tue, 01 Jul 2008 09:32:40 GMTkaisaghttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxThat's pretty rude ... we didn't have this happen with anyone ... I wouldn't think it's common?</P><P>ETA: Rude of the people who RSVP'ed yes and are now calling to say no, 7 days out. :)Tue, 01 Jul 2008 09:22:24 GMTigottajlohttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspx[quote][b]luinge (6/30/2008)[/b][hr]when they don't actually plan on coming! <BR>ARG!!! <BR><BR>I know this is pretty common, but come on people, don't call 5 days before. 7 people now can't make it, and they have super lame reasons, like 1 couple said they decided to go camping instead, and guest, who ownes his own business and never works saturdays, decided today that he's going to work, our ceremony doesn't start til 6:30pm! <BR><BR>I'm just p!ssed cause we don't have tones of money and we have already paid for those guests so there goes almost $500 that I could have used for something else. <BR><BR><FONT style="BACKGROUND-COLOR: #ffff11">I guess Im just worried that I'm going to have a lame wedding and that no one is gonna dance and everyone's gpnna leave early. I've just put some much time, tears, and effort into this day I just don't want it to suck</FONT>.[/quote]<BR><BR>I can guarentee you that your wedding will not be lame. People will dance! Some will leave early and some will stay until the very end! Your tears, and efforts will be worth it in the end. Your wedding won't suck! :)<BR><BR>We had the same problem with DH's family/friends changing their minds and deciding not to come. One family (3 people) left after the salad, some other friends left before dinner even started, and our Bishop and his wife left right after the ceremony instead of staying for dinner. You can't be right on- some who said they wouldn't be there might come, and some who said they would still might not show up. You win some, and lose some- I'd try not to worry about it- :) Be happy! :)Tue, 01 Jul 2008 00:09:52 GMTeeklrbhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic420885-6-1.aspxwhen they don't actually plan on coming! <BR>ARG!!! <BR><BR>I know this is pretty common, but come on people, don't call 5 days before. 7 people now can't make it, and they have super lame reasons, like 1 couple said they decided to go camping instead, and guest, who ownes his own business and never works saturdays, decided today that he's going to work, our ceremony doesn't start til 6:30pm! <BR><BR>I'm just p!ssed cause we don't have tones of money and we have already paid for those guests so there goes almost $500 that I could have used for something else. <BR><BR>I guess Im just worried that I'm going to have a lame wedding and that no one is gonna dance and everyone's gpnna leave early. I've just put some much time, tears, and effort into this day I just don't want it to suck.Mon, 30 Jun 2008 21:48:15 GMTluinge