InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 10:16:52 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxTwo of my DH's brothers said they were coming and then didn't show. DH sister had to talk the one in town into coming for the reception. The thing is the one that didn't show up (we thought we'd have a problem right from the get-go with him not giving us an answer until the last minute - he's like that) he's the one that sent his RSVP card back first. None of DH brothers showed - he has 3 (another replied yes and later changed his mind -well before wedding) It has nothing to do with DH. It is a [b]very[/b] unique family. And DH nephew who knew a week ahead of time that he couldn't make it (he's 16) didn't call (or his mother could have called) and we ended paying for his meal. DH now refuses to go to any of nephews birthdays. Can't say I blame him. <br><br>So yes people can be ignorant.<br>Thu, 07 Aug 2008 22:03:35 GMTdmotkoskihttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThat sucks!! But check with your venue because mine will not make me pay for people who did not show. We pay the assumed amount 72hrs prior, and the next day they are going to let me know if I owe them or they owe me (we are doing open bar and are charged for approx 10 drinks per person, which we are refunded if they don't drink that much, or pay up if they drink more- same goes for food). I know it is stressfull, but double check, because if you know your numbers are different, they may take off the charge!Mon, 28 Jul 2008 09:36:02 GMTBelramhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxthis is my biggest nightmare! </P><P>I anticipate that 1 or 2 people may "no show." I pray that it is not more than that!</P><P>I'm actually contemplating ordering 1 or 2 less meals to ensure that if they don't show up, I won't have to fork out over $250.00 for nothing. If they end up coming, quickly talk to the kitchen staff and ask them to whip up another order - still haven't decided on this oneSun, 27 Jul 2008 17:45:41 GMTnenidhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYep, I sure did! One guy I dated very briefly, but kept in contact with a couple times a year, if that, basically invited himself. He chose the most expensive option. Then failed to show. Not even a phone call, telling me he couldn't make it. Just didn't show. Nice.Fri, 18 Jul 2008 13:16:26 GMTSCM57http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYes that is so frustrating! I had a friend who I haven't talked to in years and was not planning on inviting and she asked me "Oh when is your wedding, I think I can make it!" She sounded really excited and I thought I could make a spot for her (and her new boyfriend who I have never met) She responded yes, then about a week before the day she said she MIGHT not be able to make it. So I still put her on the seating chart, as she said she would let me know. The day before she said she couldn't come. Which left a really awkward table of FOUR! (was six before) and that was the table I just put people that I didn't really know where else to sit. So frustrating!Fri, 18 Jul 2008 11:46:20 GMTscraggleshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxi had that happen at our wedding for various reasons, some were due to deaths in the family others were due to babies being born. Our hall gave us until 3 days before the wedding to make changes so for some of the seats i did receive money back, however on the day of we had 1 person tell us after the ceremony he wouldn't be coming to the reception, we also had a full table of 8 people not show up mostly because they forgot. we ended up paying for that table. Fri, 18 Jul 2008 10:43:31 GMTAdri78http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYup. Its one of those wedding things. It happens and it really sucks. It happened to me about 15 minutes ago infact!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 22:14:15 GMTAnik664http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThat just happened to me today. UGH!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 21:23:17 GMTanchor31http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYep...most caterors do. And since our wedding is buffet they will probably make even more.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 20:03:39 GMTMissspunkhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThat's a good point! They generally make enough for 5 or so extra plates anyway, don't they?Mon, 14 Jul 2008 19:22:53 GMTsarahandrob2010http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThis might not be appreciated by the caterors but being that I have planned functions and cooked meals for large functions it is easier to add someone then take it away. So when I give my numbers if I have 98 people say yes they are coming I am only telling the caterors 94 and then the day before add 4 more. I have the table seating charts and will know who is to sit where. The day before I know if the people are coming as it is out of town so anyone who will be there will be there friday night. We also only invited very close family and friends so if they say they are coming they are coming. I also know with my caterors because it is at a resort type thing with a hotel they are good at adding people last minute. HOpefully if anything there will only be 1 or 2 people who do not show.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 18:56:02 GMTMissspunkhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThat is awful, people suck!<BR>I am keeping my fingers crossed that there to not alot of "no shows" the day of our wedding.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 13:14:36 GMTCelticGhalhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxIt's not even that, the table seating arrangements are all done... so now instead of a table of 7, I've got a table of 5... kind of stupid.</P><P>UGH.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 13:12:26 GMTbeaniebabyhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxthis happened to me as well. </P><P>thankfully i was able to make adjustments up until the thursday before our saturday weddding. </P><P>however we still have 11 ppl who didnt show up... that said they would. </P><P>that was a nice $1100 down the drain.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 13:05:48 GMTABCTamarahttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxI can understand ur frustration! COMPLETELY</P><P>I had a few friends ASK ME if they could come to the wedding, so being the nice person that I am I said of course!</P><P>so i don't recieve an RSVP back from them, particularily this one girl, so I sent a message over facebook just asking her what she has been up to and letting her know that I didn't recieve that RSVP and was wondering if she was coming...</P><P>she writes me back,"sorry but I am moving into my apt that same day and I will not be able to attend" ok fine, whatever, nothing I can do... yes I am a little pissed bcuz u had ASKED ME to come, but I had a feeling she would bail anyway... so I write her back</P><P>"ok, thanks for letting me know"</P><P>well she writes me back.... "k well sorry that ur mad, but there is nothing I can do about it!!"</P><P>I was stunned.. all I said was "ok, thanks for letting me know"... </P><P>So I dunno, there is always going to be someone or people who will do that... perhaps it's because some ppl don't realy realize what you go through or pay for to put such a big even together</P><P>I hope u don't get anymore of those, especially since ur day is so close!</P><P>Take Care!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:31:55 GMTFAprilhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspx[quote][b]beaniebaby (7/14/2008)[/b][hr]Oh, I had another friend that was invited cancel (he invited himself, mind you...) so the guy he was sitting with (best friend) INVITED SOMEONE ELSE.<P>Are you kidding?!!?[/quote]<P>I had to call one of FH's dad's friends to see if they were coming. The wife said that if she couldn't make it (she has used up all of her vacation for the month) that she would send her daughter to go in her place. Lady, i didn't invite your daughter, YOU were invited!!<P>Geez people!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:25:45 GMTShannon20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxWhen people did this to my I invited CB girls to have dinner on me in their place.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:04:02 GMTSpiderbabehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxOh, I had another friend that was invited cancel (he invited himself, mind you...) so the guy he was sitting with (best friend) INVITED SOMEONE ELSE.</P><P>Are you kidding?!!?Mon, 14 Jul 2008 12:00:15 GMTbeaniebabyhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxI rsvp'd to my friend's wedding but was having some health issues the month before so I called her and told her that I would only be able to attend the ceremony. She hadn't confirmed her numbers yet so she was able to switch it without paying. Of course I did send her a card with a gift inside that would have covered the plate. <P>We had about three people who rsvp'd yes and then couldn't stay for the reception. One couple it was a family emergency and the other girl just didn't show. Mon, 14 Jul 2008 11:24:13 GMTJuly7Bridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYup my cousin's date wasn't able to come due to an exam... don't the exam schedules come out before the exam!? And DH's dad had surgery and he wasn't healing very well... so I guess that can't be helped, but he didn't even call DH after the wedding or send a card or anything!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 10:17:20 GMTNik82http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxYes, I had this problem as well. 3 people cancelled at the last minute. Thankfully we were able to fill 2 of the seats. However, 3 people didn't show up. For one couple they were very sick the other person I knew would do this and I even considered no counting but I did so we paid for that plate. I was not to impressed with that one especially considering we never even received a phone call, email, nothing saying sorry and congratulations. I also had 2 other guests who rsvp'd yes and then weren't sure if they were coming and said "it may be one, it may be both, it may be neither" we of course called and explained the situation and that we needed to know exactly who was coming. One ended up cancelling but it worked out fine because it was before I put my numbers in. So in total I had 8 people who cancelled or didn't show up.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 10:15:31 GMTJenn2008http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxThat sucks :(</P><P>Have these people planned weddings themselves? Cause truly, I had no idea how much I didn't know when I came to these boards. I just had NO idea about wedding stuff. I think people who haven't been through it don't have any grasp on how serious things are to brides, you know? Mon, 14 Jul 2008 09:45:28 GMTsarahandrob2010http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxWow Jenn, I would be pi$$ed!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 09:34:13 GMTlovemrkhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxOoooh, this would make me VERY cranky! How rude!Mon, 14 Jul 2008 08:51:53 GMTsilvarazzhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic432434-6-1.aspxAnyone else have issues with people RSVPing yes to the wedding, then cancelling a couple days before??</P><P>My cousin RSVP'd yes (plus an uninvited guest, I might add) and then said "oops, can't make it - can't afford the bus down" . I understand money issues, but you had the issues when you RSVPd, you should have said NO. Now I have a table with 2 empty seats AND I'm paying for you, even though you're not coming.</P><P>Family is the WORST!!! I even had someone REQUEST a table (must be near this person, seated with this person etc etc) and then tell me "Sorry, it's too stressful,<EM> </EM>can only come to the ceremony.. THANKS now I have ANOTHER empty spot with a plate I'm paying for.</P><P>COME ON PEOPLE.Mon, 14 Jul 2008 08:44:45 GMTbeaniebaby