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RE: "cold feet yet?" "are you nervous?"

sbru — Tue, 13 May 2008 18:07:57 GMT

ahha. I'm only nervous about the fact it's pretty much 2 months and one week away.. and I don't want anything to go wrong.. and I keep having this fear that something will be forgotten... !! Or... something will just go terribly wrong. I'm also nervous about walking down the aisle!! Everyone looks at me! YIKES.. I'm scared int he back of someones head they'll be like "Gawd she's an ugly bride" ..LOL! That's just me for ya.. thinking something like that up! haaa:P:w00t::cool::hehe:

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A+J=<3 — Thu, 08 May 2008 18:23:11 GMT

I totally get this, if they have ot say anything they should ask if we are getting excited. Do we have everything ready, stuff like that...

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amanda222 — Mon, 05 May 2008 14:54:18 GMT

[quote][b]lizzardd (5/5/2008)[/b][hr]As for asshat coworkers - there's obviously a reason they're still single![/quote]

The sad thing is, not all of them are! I can't believe the nerve of the ones PPs mentioned that suggested having an affair/sleeping around though - certainly says a lot for how much they value commitment and real relationships, let alone marriage.

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amanda222 — Mon, 05 May 2008 14:54:10 GMT

[quote][b]missdish (5/2/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]amanda222 (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]Not exactly the same thing, but sorta similar: my DH told me that in the weeks before the wedding, most of the guys he talked to who heard he was getting married (mostly co-workers and other random guys at work) would respond with some sort of comment about it being a mistake, or feeling sorry for him, etc. It really started to bug him - especially the guys who said he didn't know what he was getting himself into! (This is his second marriage, plus we'd already been living together for almost 2 years.) He had a few friends and a couple of co-workers who had genuine nice stuff to say, but most of it seemed pretty negative.

He even got a comment at our rehearsal! It was in a hall that was being used by a community group the night before the wedding, and one of the older guys said something like "Oh, you're getting married? I feel sorry for you." My dad overheard that though, and growled back "Well I don't!" My dad is generally very mild-mannered, and this was the first time DH had seen his angry side! :D[/quote]

FH has got a lot of this at work but its playful[/quote]

It was usually playful when DH's coworkers said it to, but he got it so often that it really started to get to him!

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igottajlo — Mon, 05 May 2008 11:54:13 GMT

I don't think it's a huge deal when people asked. It's like people asking how you're feeling when you're pregnant or if you're nervous. Well hells yes I was nervous before the wedding! Getting married is KIND OF a big deal! :D

People don't mean it in an offensive manner so try not to take it that way.

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scraggles — Mon, 05 May 2008 11:46:43 GMT

Well nobody has really asked me if I'm nervous or not yet (except maybe FH) and the honest answer is yes! It's just crazy, like our wedding is next month now and it came so fast even though we were engaged for a year. But that doesn't mean I don't want to marry him. And I went through my little "cold feet" period too.

The one thing I find SUPER annoying is that my mom calls like every day saying the stupidest little things lol, like that she had a wedding dream or something, and if I just don't feel like talking she is like "well you don't sound too excited" or if FH says something about the wedding and I'm not jumping for joy he says the same thing! Like, of course I'm excited lol! I'm just not jumping for joy at every single second! Haha, that's the one thing that's annoying me now:P

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lizzardd — Mon, 05 May 2008 09:32:16 GMT

I got asked if I was nervous a lot, and my BMs could not believe that I wasn't. And it's true, I wasn't nervous, anxious or anything but really really happy. I was marrying the man that I love more than anything, and we were starting our life together...IMO not something to be nervous about :P

Plus, I'm a complete ham, so I love being the centre of attention LOL So my wedding, with everyone looking at me, was a dream come true :D

As for asshat coworkers - there's obviously a reason they're still single!

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MrsSixer — Mon, 05 May 2008 09:29:29 GMT

I work with a guy who has been asking me if I am having 2nd thoughts, cold feet, etc. over the past few months. I have assured him that I am super cool with getting married. Anyhow, on Friday he stops by my desk and comes out with this chestnutt "Hey, you have a few weeks left until your wedding! Are you going to have an affiar?"

Um. No. Thanks anyhow. I think I'll pass!

I mean REALLY?!?! Who in their right mind SAYS something like that!?!?!?!?

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anchor31 — Mon, 05 May 2008 07:51:09 GMT

It's really sad that some of you have FH's with coworkers that are jerks. My FH's coworkers are being great about it. They're all pretty tired of him calling him his "girlfriend" or "fiancé", so they're already calling me his wife. :cool:

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missdish — Mon, 05 May 2008 07:48:27 GMT

My Future IL's asked on the weekend, I just bit my tounge!

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cfranke — Sun, 04 May 2008 22:50:34 GMT

[quote][b]mpagechall (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]Ya i'm nervous.. again not about marrying FH but about the ceremony itself. You know all those ppl looking at me and also worrying about everything going right. My biggest thing I'm nervous about atm is the fact that I have crohns disease and when I get nervous it tends to act up. Last thing I need is to be in my big dress and have to rush to the washroom :ermm:[/quote]

HEY!!! I was about to type the EXACT same thing!! I too have Crohn's...and it's wicked bad when I'm stressed...so that I'm nervous about...I really hope I dont have to excuse myself in the middle of the ceremony!! That would be the WORST!

People ask me all the time if I'm nervous, and I say simply, Yes. They don't need to know what I'm feeling. haha. I'm nervous about being the centre of attention, not about marrying FH.

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Jle24 — Sun, 04 May 2008 22:01:00 GMT

I am not nervous to be married. I'm nervous to be the center of attention. I hate being in the spot light.

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dansfiance — Sun, 04 May 2008 13:02:31 GMT

my dh and i were more anxious than nervous......

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smurf993 — Sun, 04 May 2008 12:26:35 GMT

We went with 33 people to jamaica... and by the day of the wedding nearly everyone had made that comment to me. i think that people are trying to be funny... but it gets old fast!! DH and I were really excited and happy to be getting married.... no cold feet!!

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Jenn2008 — Sun, 04 May 2008 10:39:25 GMT

I am not nervous at all until I think about the fact that I have to walk down the isle in front of all those people and that for the entire ceremony everyone attention will be on us! I hate being the centre of attention. My shower was hard enough for me! Otherwise I cannot wait to officially be married.

A previous poster meantioned her FH's coworkers. We'll its sort of off topic but my FH's coworkers are a bunch of a**holes. He has been working overnight shifts and the guys go on and on about how I'm probably at home "sleeping" with other guys and that FH should sleep with some other girls before he gets married. They have also said he shouldn't get married and should just "sleep around with girls because its easier that way!" The sad part is they are not joking. The one guy is married and he has a girlfriend, he actually brought the GF into work! Men!

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anchor31 — Sun, 04 May 2008 09:24:32 GMT

[quote][b]CelticGhal (5/2/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]lovemrk (5/2/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]CelticGhal (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]I am not nervous about marrying my FH, we have known each for 13 years, we have dated for 10 years and have lived together for 7. I can't wait to be his wife.

But I am VERY NERVOUS about walking down the aisle, my stomach is turning just thinking about it:crying:. I really hope I don't fall[/quote]

Holy Cow! I think we are identical! Totally not nervous about marrying my sweetheart, but I am typically extremely shy. The thought of me and FH being the centre of attention that day, is killing me. I get severe diarrhea and the whole puking scene. Great...real attractive!!! Something to look forward to.

[/quote]

I wish I could fast forward the ceremony. When I get nervous I get emotional (I said laugh and crying at the same time). :ermm:
My FH know he will have to do all the speeches and thank yous. It is weird I am not a super shy person but I do not do well in group where I am centered out. Even the shower & stagette bothers me because everyone has to show up to something for me, i fell think i am putting people off whatever plans they might have that day.[/quote]

For me, it's the reception I would skip. The ceremony is super important to me, but I couldn't care less about the reception. Don't want one! And I wish only 20 people or so would come... I hate crowds.

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XoXo — Fri, 02 May 2008 22:02:38 GMT

Before my wedding, I HATED the "are you nervous" comments. Would it matter if I was? I wasn't. I was cool as a cucumber, but still!

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BrandyG — Fri, 02 May 2008 17:35:20 GMT

I'm not at all worried about marrying my fh, he is perfect for me in every way, we've been together for 5 years now, and he just has to be there, I couldn't live without him, it's like we were always meant to be together, and I know that saying I can't live without him is so overused, but I really can't picture life without him, he is just part of my life, and always will be.

I am worried about:

My ffil getting drunk
Nobody having fun at the dinner theater
Me having bad ibs that day
My mom not being able to get to the ceremony location
My dress being a piece of crap, and not being able to afford to get another one if it is
That I'll wear myself out so much on the wedding day that I'll sleep the whole honeymoon
And the fact that the ceremony location is an hour away from everyone, and the reception is an hour away from the ceremony.

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nenid — Fri, 02 May 2008 16:41:03 GMT

[quote][b]missdish (5/2/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]nenid (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]what annoys me more is when people ask "are you excited?"

No, not at all. Who would be excited about their wedding? WTF?[/quote]

LMAO

OR when you tell them that no your really just can't wait for it to be over and they look at you like your insane!!!

Sorry but my wedding has came with a lot of drama and I'm tired of it. I just want to have my day and be married already![/quote]

Amen! In my p posts, I may have sounded like I am not looking forward to it- but this is because of all the drama- no matter what has happened though, the excitement about marrying FH has NEVER changed!

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CelticGhal — Fri, 02 May 2008 16:29:52 GMT

[quote][b]lovemrk (5/2/2008)[/b][hr][quote][b]CelticGhal (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]I am not nervous about marrying my FH, we have known each for 13 years, we have dated for 10 years and have lived together for 7. I can't wait to be his wife.

But I am VERY NERVOUS about walking down the aisle, my stomach is turning just thinking about it:crying:. I really hope I don't fall[/quote]

[/quote]

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missdish — Fri, 02 May 2008 15:35:13 GMT

[quote][b]nenid (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]what annoys me more is when people ask "are you excited?"

No, not at all. Who would be excited about their wedding? WTF?[/quote]

LMAO

OR when you tell them that no your really just can't wait for it to be over and they look at you like your insane!!!

Sorry but my wedding has came with a lot of drama and I'm tired of it. I just want to have my day and be married already!

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nenid — Fri, 02 May 2008 15:33:31 GMT

what annoys me more is when people ask "are you excited?"

No, not at all. Who would be excited about their wedding? WTF?

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missdish — Fri, 02 May 2008 15:14:21 GMT

[quote][b]amanda222 (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]Not exactly the same thing, but sorta similar: my DH told me that in the weeks before the wedding, most of the guys he talked to who heard he was getting married (mostly co-workers and other random guys at work) would respond with some sort of comment about it being a mistake, or feeling sorry for him, etc. It really started to bug him - especially the guys who said he didn't know what he was getting himself into! (This is his second marriage, plus we'd already been living together for almost 2 years.) He had a few friends and a couple of co-workers who had genuine nice stuff to say, but most of it seemed pretty negative.

FH has got a lot of this at work but its playful

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Beltsie — Fri, 02 May 2008 14:59:22 GMT

[quote][b]jen39 (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]I'm not nervous about the actual marriage. I'm more worried about the following :D :

Drunks
My moms family making a scene
Wedding crashers
food quality on day-of
weather

I have a feeling any combination of those factors is going to make me lose my effing mind :D particularly the first two as they kinda go hand in hand :D[/quote]

I'll try and behave ;)

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jen39 — Fri, 02 May 2008 14:51:25 GMT

I'm not nervous about the actual marriage. I'm more worried about the following :D :

Drunks
My moms family making a scene
Wedding crashers
food quality on day-of
weather

I have a feeling any combination of those factors is going to make me lose my effing mind :D particularly the first two as they kinda go hand in hand :D

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anchor31 — Fri, 02 May 2008 14:02:40 GMT

We never got that kind of comment. How mean! I can understand jokes about "balls and chains" and whatnot, but people actually feeling sorry for us? Come on.

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amanda222 — Fri, 02 May 2008 13:30:22 GMT

Not exactly the same thing, but sorta similar: my DH told me that in the weeks before the wedding, most of the guys he talked to who heard he was getting married (mostly co-workers and other random guys at work) would respond with some sort of comment about it being a mistake, or feeling sorry for him, etc. It really started to bug him - especially the guys who said he didn't know what he was getting himself into! (This is his second marriage, plus we'd already been living together for almost 2 years.) He had a few friends and a couple of co-workers who had genuine nice stuff to say, but most of it seemed pretty negative.

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missdish — Fri, 02 May 2008 11:22:03 GMT

But I am VERY NERVOUS about walking down the aisle, my stomach is turning just thinking about it:crying:. I really hope I don't fall[/quote]

[/quote]

Same here, everyone looking at you

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anchor31 — Fri, 02 May 2008 10:00:00 GMT

I'm a lot more nervous about the wedding than the marriage. The wedding is just a day and you can redo it if it goes wrong... If we hit a snag in our marriage, we have a lifetime to figure things out.

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lovemrk — Fri, 02 May 2008 09:50:35 GMT

[quote][b]CelticGhal (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]I am not nervous about marrying my FH, we have known each for 13 years, we have dated for 10 years and have lived together for 7. I can't wait to be his wife.

But I am VERY NERVOUS about walking down the aisle, my stomach is turning just thinking about it:crying:. I really hope I don't fall[/quote]

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Sodayah — Fri, 02 May 2008 09:31:31 GMT

[quote][b]mpagechall (5/2/2008)[/b][hr]YMy biggest thing I'm nervous about atm is the fact that I have crohns disease and when I get nervous it tends to act up. Last thing I need is to be in my big dress and have to rush to the washroom :ermm:[/quote]

I have a similar fear, I have anxiety and I'm worried that the whole day will be late because I'm stuck in the washroom being sick and can't get dressed or have my hair done on time.

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mpagechall — Fri, 02 May 2008 09:25:23 GMT

Ya i'm nervous.. again not about marrying FH but about the ceremony itself. You know all those ppl looking at me and also worrying about everything going right. My biggest thing I'm nervous about atm is the fact that I have crohns disease and when I get nervous it tends to act up. Last thing I need is to be in my big dress and have to rush to the washroom :ermm:

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Christichi — Fri, 02 May 2008 09:24:08 GMT

I agree, why do people assume i'm going to be nervous? everyone asks that! I'm sorry if 'you' were super nervous, or forced into a marriage, but i'm eager and excited about the big day! There's nothing to be nervous about, its a big party and i'm the center of it :D

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CelticGhal — Fri, 02 May 2008 09:08:48 GMT

I am not nervous about marrying my FH, we have known each for 13 years, we have dated for 10 years and have lived together for 7. I can't wait to be his wife.

But I am VERY NERVOUS about walking down the aisle, my stomach is turning just thinking about it:crying:. I really hope I don't fall

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Sodayah — Fri, 02 May 2008 08:51:10 GMT

I am totally nervous about marrying my FH but not because it's him, but because the last one didn't work out and I think I may be nuts for doing this again. So when people have asked me if I'm nervous I simply respond with "Yes. This is a lifetime commitment we are talking about, it's not like a car I can trade in easily in 5-10 years." It gets the point across.

"cold feet yet?" "are you nervous?"

missdish — Fri, 02 May 2008 08:08:33 GMT

I understand that its just something that people say and that.

But I'm annoyed when people ask if we have cold feet or were nervous!

If I had cold feet about FH then I wouldn't have said I would marry him, and what would I be nervous about?

I'm more nervous about it raining or the venue burning down than I am about marrying FH.

There vent done.