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RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

gordcrys — Tue, 11 Apr 2006 17:00:42 GMT

I have a similair prob. I wish I could sit my Bridesmaids and Groomsmens spouses at a table of their own.. except... there is only one bridesmaid who has a bf right now who isn't in the wedding party...one bridesmaid and groomsmen are marriend and the other two are single.... I suppose I could sit him with our other friends... but he might not know anyone... any ideas?

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

bride0607 — Tue, 11 Apr 2006 12:12:00 GMT

I have one MOH (sister) and 1 best man. SOOO I plan on having my sister and her date (who is comming from England and won't know anybody incuding me....ha ha) and my best man and his wife all sit at the head table. That makes 6 of us total. Still working on other details, like where to put my parents and such.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

kromanyk — Tue, 11 Apr 2006 11:00:52 GMT

We had enough to have there own table. I had there table close to the head table and we made sure that they were all introduced to each other before the wedding so they didnt seem so out of place. My girlfriend sat the significant others at her friend tables, and again introduced them all at the stag and doe and stuff so they didnt feel awkward. Its just for the meal anyway, its not like they will be sitting at the table all night.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

browneyed — Tue, 11 Apr 2006 09:50:53 GMT

[quote][b]MrsMtobe (4/10/2006)[/b][hr]If the wives and boyfriends are not part of the wedding, then why sit them with the wedding party? It's only for the supper ... cant there be a table just for the wives and boyfriends of the bridal party? They'll be together the rest of the evening and most likely sitting at the same table with their wives and boyfriends for the rest of the night after supper? [/quote]

I totally agree. It's only for the supper - they have the rest of the evening to be together.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

dansfiance — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 11:02:00 GMT

I only have a matron of honour and a best man.. so.. their significant others are sitting wherever we end up putting them.. which is no problem since one is my BIL and the other is a good friend.. they won't be sitting with complete strangers.. people they know.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

AlanaBanana — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 09:56:11 GMT

You can do one of several things:

Have the WP at the head table, and their SO's at the guest tables. It's not the end of the world if they sit apart for this one meal. They'll be sitting and mingling together wherever they please after the speeches are concluded anyway.
If your head table is large/long enough, have the SO's sit at the head table with your WP. It doesn't matter that they won't match.
Skip the head table all-together, and have everyone sit with their SO's at the guest tables. You and your DH can either sit at a large table with your family, or sit at a sweetheart table just for the two of you.

Best of luck! :D

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

allishan — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 09:21:48 GMT

we're having a sweetheart table - just us at a small table. and then we're sitting our bridal party with the people we'd sit them with if they weren't in the bridal party.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

MrsZator — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 09:01:41 GMT

I am having 1 table for all of the boyfriends/girlfriends and wifes/husbands.

There will be about 7 of them so I am just making a table close to the head table.

We will have our table then his family at table 1, my family at table 2, and that table for table 3, all in front of the head table :D

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

kellypants — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 08:56:21 GMT

We had two bridesmaids and two groomsmen... but we also had two ushers who were the husband and boyfriend of my bridesmaids - and one of the ushers was our MC. (confused yet?) So we wanted them at the head table.

The partners of our groomsmen were not part of our wedding party but we decided to have them at the head table anyway. It was easy for us, considering we had a small wedding party, and the girls really appreciated it. I didn't care at all that they weren't dressed as part of the wedding party - it was more important to us for them to be up there.

There are lots of good solutions to this problem - glad you found one that works for you!! :)

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

igottajlo — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 08:39:28 GMT

We are having a "significant other" table. It will only be for dinner. After that ... mingle mingle!!!

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

MrsMtobe — Mon, 10 Apr 2006 02:40:15 GMT

If the wives and boyfriends are not part of the wedding, then why sit them with the wedding party? It's only for the supper ... cant there be a table just for the wives and boyfriends of the bridal party? They'll be together the rest of the evening and most likely sitting at the same table with their wives and boyfriends for the rest of the night after supper?

If I was a BM in your wedding, I wouldnt expect to have my boyfriend sit beside me. He isnt in the wedding party.

Now having said that .. to each their own.. do as you like. I see you posted that you found the solution .. so... wonderful! I just wanted to add my thoughts to the thread.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

EastWest — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 21:17:19 GMT

Here's what I would do:

I would plan an evening to take the Bridal Party out...with their significant others...therefore they can meet each other...chat...and hopefully get better acquainted with each other and VIOLA!...seat them together for the wedding!! :D

Oops I just read more...the groomsmen- have their wives sit with the grooms family :D

Your BM's boyfriends-have them sit at a table together with some other people...at least they can keep each other company during dinner :cool:

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

bambola — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 20:15:09 GMT

I think I found the answer...

I think we will do separated tables on different levels (heights)....

The highest table will be ours (fi and i), on a lower level will be two tables:one for FI's parents and one for my parents and my grandma....

I'll sit my bridesmaids and the groomsmen with they're families/friends...

Like this no more problems....

Thanks a lot everyone....

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

stacey8422 — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 12:22:30 GMT

[quote][b]julieparkes (4/9/2006)[/b][hr]To me it was more important that people had fun and sat with their partners. My head table was my husband and our parents. The wedding party and their partners sat at special tables up front. [/quote]

I like this idea!

I would probably do this too, but coming from a small town, everyone knows everyone and they don't mind sitting with eachother.

But for a wedding where the dates don't know the other dates, I would just let them sit together. My FH was a groomsman at his friends wedding, I went with him and out of everyone at the wedding I knew just the bride, groom, and my FH. So to make a long story short, I didn't have a good time...and spent most of the time wandering around by myself and asking FH when we were going to head home!

Stacey

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

julieparkes — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 12:12:16 GMT

To me it was more important that people had fun and sat with their partners. My head table was my husband and our parents. The wedding party and their partners sat at special tables up front.

RE: Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

Aammm — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 11:47:50 GMT

Our party consisted of only 2 married persons the rest not married (total of 5 a side). We sat the BF/GF/spouses at other tables with whoever they may know that was invited, or all with each other.

Basically on my side the girls other halves were closer thus their family and so were invited so they were put with them. On DH's side, we put all the GF's and the one wife together at a table. SOme had met before, the rest well they were fine with it too so it all worked out.

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Tasha219 — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 11:38:06 GMT

We went to a wedding in New York in October and they had the bride and groom sitting together. They then had two smaller tables with the bridal party and their dates. I thought it looked good. Especially because the foucs was still on the bride and groom.

Where do I sit my bridesmaids boyfriends?

bambola — Sun, 09 Apr 2006 11:24:29 GMT

Hello again!!!!

I will be having my two best friends as my bridesmaids and both have boyfriends.

FI will be having his two brothers as groomsmen and both are married.

The boyfriends/wifes will not be part of the party and therfore will not be dressed like our groomsen/bridesmaids.... Where do I sit them... I feel bad not sitting them with there partner at the head table...

My idea was to sit everyone (bridesmaids and boyfriends and groomsmen and wifes at the head table....

Will it look bad since they will not be dressed the same way?

Need your imput... Thanks