InstantForum.NET v4.1.4CanadianBride.com Talkboardshttp://forums.canadianbride.com/bounce@canadianbride.comTue, 02 Dec 2008 10:12:30 GMT20http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxTobride, it takes a lot of coordinating to host a bridal shower but you can pull it off!! I think your family and other wedding guests would appreciate it more than they let on. It sounds like your BM took on too much for one summer but she probably has her heart in the right place. Best of luck with the shower.....I know I had a lot of input into mine (guest list, prizes, punch etc..)so by you hosting the shower it should go smoothly! Cheers!Mon, 10 Apr 2006 22:08:29 GMTicegirlhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspx<FONT size=3>You live in a small town where things are done one way... why not do this your way. I would make it known you do not want gifts. Why not make it a celebration of some kind instead of a shower? What's in a name.</FONT></P><P><FONT size=3>Good luck</FONT>Mon, 10 Apr 2006 18:10:49 GMTgpbride1http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspx[quote][b]tobride (4/10/2006)[/b][hr]Hi ladies.<P>Thanks for all of the advice. My MOH doesn't want to do it by herself, and my step-sister isn't willing to commit either. So I've asked them to think about doing it another weekend. Its the only opportunity for my bridesmaids to meet before the wedding too, so I really want this to happen with both of them there. SO Ithink thats what I am going to do. Even if I have to do it all behind scenes.</P><P>Thanks a bunch![/quote]<P><FONT face="Times New Roman" size=5>Good for you... lets us know how it goes... Wishing well!!</FONT>Mon, 10 Apr 2006 17:13:10 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspx[quote][b]alligap (4/8/2006)[/b][hr]I personally wouldn't do it.... i couldn't host my own party that people know they are expected to bring gifts too... [/quote]</P><P>Then what do you do when it's your birthday?:Wow:Mon, 10 Apr 2006 13:13:08 GMTPansyhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxHi ladies.</P><P>Thanks for all of the advice. My MOH doesn't want to do it by herself, and my step-sister isn't willing to commit either. So I've asked them to think about doing it another weekend. Its the only opportunity for my bridesmaids to meet before the wedding too, so I really want this to happen with both of them there. SO Ithink thats what I am going to do. Even if I have to do it all behind scenes.</P><P>Thanks a bunch!Mon, 10 Apr 2006 10:34:09 GMTtobridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspx<FONT face="Comic Sans MS" size=3>I know its not common practice and most would probably question it.. but with that being said... I agree with the statement about special circumstances.. this would be the case. If you could possibly find someone to play host then thats great .. if not.. then do what you have to do.. no one will fault you!! what about you and your MOH doing it together(if possible). I think in this case seeing as its family and friends they will understand( well they should anyway). Its up to you what you do.. but I say.. GO FO IT!!</FONT></P><P><FONT face="Comic Sans MS" size=3></FONT> Mon, 10 Apr 2006 01:15:24 GMTleggebridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxin my opinion, special circumstances require special solutions. Hosting your own shower is one such solution. Hiring a wedding co-ordinator would be another. Having anyone willing to play hostess is a third... Do what is right for you. Miss Manners will not show up on your door and slap your hand for whatever your decision may end up being.Sat, 08 Apr 2006 22:51:06 GMTMrsMtobehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspx[quote][b]alligap (4/8/2006)[/b][hr]I personally wouldn't do it.... i couldn't host my own party that people know they are expected to bring gifts too... that said, i'd talk to my family, or even do as scotbride said and hire a wedding co-ordinator. ~ Alli xoxo[/quote]<br><br>I agree. I like the suggestion of a co-ordinator, too. Or even just a close friend to act as the offical host (You can do all the work behind the scenes). Hosting your own shower seems very self-serving.Sat, 08 Apr 2006 21:51:19 GMTEmberhttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxI think it's a great idea for you to host your own Bridal Shower. With that being said, you should also have some help with the planning and organizing and such. It sucks to hear that one of your BM's can't make it but don't let that ruin the idea of having a Bridal Shower. Even though you will be in charge of inviting guests and the games and the food, there could still be some nice little surprises!</P><P>Good luck and PM me if you need any help!Sat, 08 Apr 2006 19:03:12 GMTAmandaJ8http://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxI personally wouldn't do it.... i couldn't host my own party that people know they are expected to bring gifts too... that said, i'd talk to my family, or even do as scotbride said and hire a wedding co-ordinator. ~ Alli xoxoSat, 08 Apr 2006 14:16:23 GMTalligaphttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxIt's not typical etiquette... but, I personally don't think it's wrong. Explain to those that will listen... your BM had to be in another wedding that day and you'd already made arrangements. Make sure to make a speech thanking everyone and don't forget to try and relax and enjoy.</P><P>You could also try hiring a wedding coordinator to host it for you. Then you are still fine with etiquette as someone else is hosting it (even if they are paid). Just a thought...Fri, 07 Apr 2006 20:36:57 GMTScotBridehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxit's 2006... do it. why not.Fri, 07 Apr 2006 19:36:08 GMTdansfiancehttp://forums.canadianbride.com/Topic5827-7-1.aspxMy bridesmaid is a bm in another wedding that was to take place the weeekend before my shower. Or so she though. She has told me since day one that the other wedding was June 10. She got the invite for that wedding and its June 17...my wedding shower!!!!!! SHe called, and apparently, she's had it wrong the whole time. She's booked the wrong days off work and everything. I don't know HOW she did it, but she did...</P><P>Anyway, my MOH is not an "in front of people" thing, and having it another weeeknd is not an option because its back home and there's a bazillion other reasons I have to go home that weekend. So it has to be then.</P><P>Is it wrong of me to host this thing now? I want this shower not for the guests but so that those that cannot/will not be coming to my wedding (6.5 hours away from my hometown) can still celebrate iwth me. I live in a small town where showers are put in the weekly paper as "ads" and whoever comes, comes. </P><P>In my area, bridal teas/bridesmaid showers are not heard of, let alone socials or anything. So how can I host this shower and make it known its more of a thank you for being part of my life, and I want to share this day with you thing? </P><P>My MOH is great for organizing things, even calling and inviting those near and dear or out of town. But she's not willing to lead the evening, nor is my step mom and my mom/dad don't really have any friends that are females who would do this kinda thing....Fri, 07 Apr 2006 18:33:53 GMTtobride