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| Okay so I think that this is getting ridiculous... Since we announced the wedding and started sending out invites 3 exes of mine have decided that they love me and just never realized it until now! UGH! My feeling is there is a reason why we broke up and I'm extremely happy now and they should move on.
No problem saying that to 2 of them... but 1 is still a really really close friend and I don't wanna destroy his feelings. I don't think there is any way to "let him down gently" on this... is there?
I'm conflicted... can't do anything but so flattered and don't want to hurt him.
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From experience I'd say he will be hurt either way, but thats not your problem anymore.
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| I just don't like hurting friends. Especially not when I'm so happy. *sigh* I try and be a people pleaser... done it my entire life.
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I know how you feel... an ex-best friend would say he loves me when I've started to go out with a guy.. more inopportune time.. so I had to sit him down and tell him that we're not going to be anything other than friends.. now he just doesn't talk to me.. but that's because I moved in with Dan .. he doens't know I'm getting married yet, but I understand how you feel.. you should tell him that you're getting married and although it's flattering to hear, nothing is going to come out of it. You're married your FH and that's final.
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| Crystal, I can see why you don't want to hurt his feelings, but I think you shoudl definately tell him that you're totally not interested right away. The more time goes by; the more he might feel like you're torn about the "descision" and then he might even be more dissapointed. I would tell him right away that it's a no... And 3 ex's all professing their love to you???? What's your seceret? Beer flavoured nipples??? 
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fascha (4/12/2006)
Crystal, I can see why you don't want to hurt his feelings, but I think you shoudl definately tell him that you're totally not interested right away. The more time goes by; the more he might feel like you're torn about the "descision" and then he might even be more dissapointed. I would tell him right away that it's a no... And 3 ex's all professing their love to you???? What's your seceret? Beer flavoured nipples??? Beer flavour.. nice.. lol
Jules
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| Really do have to agree with all that's been said. If you wait he will probably think he might have a chance, so you should just sit him down and tell him the truth. Maybe that's what he needs to hear to move on in his own life?? What's he hanging on to that you were able to let go?
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