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I agree, I think some exs start to really like the idea of 'you' when you are no longer available. They seem to forget the reason why you broke up in the first place. Why would he wait until now to tell you this? Because he knows this is his last chance and he is thinking about you as a mate because you will soon be off his list of possible mates!
I would be honest and direct. Otherwise I agree with another poster you are misleading him into thinking that you are actually thinking about that relationship. Unless you are and that is a whole other can of worms!
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| I have to admit to being a bit evil and loving the attention I'm getting. hehehe Doesn't matter... I called him today before he left for work and we talked. I'm flattered, I love him too but not in the same way I love FH. He seemed upset but happy for me and whomever said he just was envious of what FH & I have is correct... he even admitted it on the phone! Looks like we're still gonna be friends but I've also asked him to quietly not attend my wedding as I think it's a little more awkward than I'm prepared for. Oh, and FH does know the whole story... he watched one of my exes hit on me at Christmas last year. He's secure enough in himself and our relationship to trust that it's not going any further. I have some messed up exes in my life... lol. I try and remain friends with all of them but the guy who hit on me infront of FH... officially been cut off and cut out of my life. *sigh* Why does everything have to be so complicated... Anyhow, it's over now. Thanks for the advice ladies. I knew all along I'd have to speak up but worried about how to do it without severely damaging our friendship. Yeah silly I know but we've been friends since kindergarten. Thanks again...
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well, I'm glad you worked up enough courage to talk to your best friend.. *hugs*
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that must have been hard, I'm glad it's over and you don't have to worry about it any longer!
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Thanks ladies... now bigger and better things... like trying on my gown with my veil tonight! Woohoo!
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| My ex asked me if he was invited to the wedding... Which was kinda weird!! We still chat once in a while, but for me too, it would be too awkward to have him there... I'm glad your ex understood your situation and I hope he will remain a good friend of yours.
__________________________ KiKi - Sept. 30, 2006
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| you dated. you broke up. you both moved on with your lives. suddenly one day he learns you are getting married (which equals unattainable) and that makes him suddenly decide he loves you and cannot live without you. umm, he's been living without you this long hasn't he? he didn't feel a need to express his undying love when you broke up did he? how about after every time you dated someone? how about the time you spend with your fh - did the ex need to try to win you back then? i'd say you have two choices ... (1) very simply put it to him that the past is past and you are getting married to this man and are not having second thoughts about the marriage for any reason (including his sudden undying love for you that only existed apparently after learning you are now permanently not available to him) and that he just has to live with that. - hey, he had his chance when he had you and blew it. if it took you marrying another man for him to suddenly decide he cannot live without you then he can live just fine without you. or (2) dump your fiance and go running back to your ex stringing the ex along to spare his feelings will only get his hopes up and dash them in the dirt when to go ahead with the wedding and will just hurt him more than an honest and strait forward answer.
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