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mombride (4/12/2006)
why do we do it? because we have to we have "courtesy invites" too. but what i consider a "courtesy" invite is someone we genuinely want to invite but don't expect to come because of distance. then there are the "obligatory invites". those people that you really don't like and have to invite because if you don't you mother will still scorn you and villify you for it on her deathbed many years from now. I am sooo glad my mother doesn't expect this from me! Not that I'd let her get away with it.
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nonbride (4/12/2006)
At my brother's wedding, he and his wife-to-be invited a bunch of extended family and people they hadn't heard from in years, "just to be polite." As they did this, they made a point of saying, "We invited them, but we hope they don't show up."
Am I crazy to think that if you don't want someone there, they shouldn't recieve an invite? My mother keeps saying that sending the obligatory invite is the *nice* thing to do, but I just don't feel right about it. A wedding is a time to have your nearest and dearest with you...not some cousin who couldn't care less about you or your big day, and is just there for the food. Can anyone shed some light?I don't think you need any light shed .. you have the right idea!!! Good for you and stick to your guns on it!!!
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
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| that is another reason why i am doing a DW, i am only inviting friends and family. family only consists of first cousins, aunts & uncles, grandparents, parents and siblings. A lot won't be able to make it because of travel, like my one cousin who lives in Hong Kong... do not think he will be making it but he invited me to his India wedding so i think i would invite him to my Mexico wedding. The only guests that will come are the ones that actually care for me since they have to spend $$$ to come see me get married. I wasn't going to invite that many people but my dad made a fuss about his twin sister not being invited so if i had to invite her i had to invite all the others because my dads side of the family hold grudges against people for some reason. its hard because it is the nice thing to do but just remember that it IS your day and you can have anyone you want there... but if someone else is chiping in financially wise, you have to consider who that want to invite too. BUT if you two are the ones footing all the bills then have whomever you want... good luck!
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I'm not inviting anybody who could potentially say "I haven't seen you since you were knee high to a grasshopper"
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Well, I hadn't been on the site for a week or so, and I come back, and I have all this great feedback!
Thanks, everyone. I doubted my feelings at first, but now I feel like I'm making the right decision. Sit on it, mom!
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Our guest list is strictly limited to people who we have seen in the last year... and someone from my old work who I still write to about once a week... and thats it! we want a small wedding with those who we love and those who love us... I think that if you haven't seen someone in a long time that your not really close to... family or not... you shouldnt invite them... if they see your announcment in the paper then they might show up to the acctual cerimony but not the reception...
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I think in total we have around 50 courtesy invites to do, however we talked to the parents on both sides, and we have cut that number down to around 30, although if we may end up inviting them if we can afford it. our parents are excited about the wedding, and since they are paying for them, I think it's only fair that we try to keep everyone happy. Plus it's a nice way to get the family all together, even if we do not like them.
June 30, 2007 Is my favorite day
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