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| "quote"Instead of mending broken fences NOW and trying to put your relationship on the mend, he contiues the cycle because of his own misery. In this case, there is really nothing you can do except to leave him be, and come to his own senses on his own time, whenever that may be. Though it may be too late when and if he does come to his senses, at that time, you can decide whether or not you wish to try again. Until then, be true to yourself, and the people around you who truly love and support you. You will never make your father proud or happy .. but you can make yourself happy by removing yourself from his negativity. Please yourself, because you may never please him."quote" MrsM. You are very right.. I will never be able to please him or be able to live up to his standards. Which really I don't think is humanly possible. He is a miserable man.. VERY miserable. He blames the way he grew up and the things that happen to him as a child on the way he is today. I have a GREAT support system in my life. I unfortunately don't think he will ever see the error in his ways.. he is pretty much set in his thinking and says he will never be dictated to nor could anyone tell him he's wrong. I personally had a rough life but you will NEVER hear me say.. its someone elses fault for the way that I am. I am a grown up and I take responsibilty for my desicions and actions.. something my father can learn from.. but I already know its a hopeless cause with him.. I had a talk with my mom and she told me to just leave it alone and it is his loss if he doesn't come. I agree. Altough it is hard.. I know that the ones that show up will be there for the right reasons. Thank you for your hugs.. I needed them!!!
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| hey, you know I'm always around .. if you ever need to talk, like we are now or in PM ... feel free and I always have a hug for everyone! you know .. you'll feel so good about yourself on your wedding day, when/if you have that special dance with a man who has been a great father figure for you ... your step dad. He sounds like a wonderful man and what better way to say thank-you to him for whatever he has done (in different ways) for you while growing up than to dance together. It's going to mean the world to him, and it will mean the world to you that he IS there for you and in years to come, when you look back on this day, you'll have absolutely no regrets having shared that special moment in time with your stepdad. ..... any many can be a father, but it takes a special man to be a STEP-DADDY!!!!!
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It does take someone special to take on someone else's kids and love them as they are your own. I love him for that. He didn't have to do it.. he wanted to and that makes it more special to me. Exactly!!! 
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awwwwwwwwwwww  yer making me blush now 
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
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