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| My wedding is in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! Like any normal person, I feel sooo excited/stressed! We had Easter dinner tonight with my FH family, and I had 3 different people all tell me that I was too excited and that it was only one day, I should not be this excited, but the only thing I said, adn only once, was that the wedding was in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! When you are that close, who doesn't countdown? It's not like I was being obnoxious and bouncing all over the house telling everyone that! I said it once! SO anyway, when one aunt told me this, I just tried to laugh it off, and jokingly I said, yeah, but it's not everyday I get to be a princess!, and she just totaly straight faced told me i wasn't going to be a princesss that day either and that I could dress up nice any time I want....what do you say to that! I am a happy bride to be and she basically just threw a bucket of cold water over me! What really gets me mad, is that this one aunt in particular is always fun, nice, giggly with everyone, and she used to be with me too, but now she just doesn't seem to care at all??? I am supposed to be excited, and now I wonder if his family even wants my to be a member???
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| First... BREATHE!! Second... Don't start second-guessing whether they want you in the family based on one day, or some careless remarks. Remember, YOU are the one living and breathing this wedding, and YOU are the one getting married... as difficult as it is sometimes, that means that YOU are way more excited than those around you. It could be that the aunt was having an off day... it could be that she's tired of hearing about wedding plans (we ALL talk about it way more than we think we do, cuz it's always on our minds!)... or it could just be that she honestly thinks you're way too excited way too early. Either way, it makes no difference, does it? Be excited, be giggly, scream it from the rooftops - you're getting married! It doesn't matter that SHE is not excited, as long as you and your fh are. Judge the family by how much they have loved and supported you over the time you have known them, not by what they have said on one day. Let her comments roll right off you, and enjoy the last few days!
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FutureMrs.D. (4/16/2006)
My wedding is in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! Like any normal person, I feel sooo excited/stressed! Congrats!! It's ok to be excited!!! We had Easter dinner tonight with my FH family, and I had 3 different people all tell me that I was too excited and that it was only one day, I should not be this excited, but the only thing I said, adn only once, was that the wedding was in 2 weeks and 5 days!!! When you are that close, who doesn't countdown? It's not like I was being obnoxious and bouncing all over the house telling everyone that! I said it once! It is not their day!!! They obviously don't remember their own wedding day and how excited they were just weeks before their big day. SO anyway, when one aunt told me this, I just tried to laugh it off, and jokingly I said, yeah, but it's not everyday I get to be a princess!, and she just totaly straight faced told me i wasn't going to be a princesss that day either and that I could dress up nice any time I want....what do you say to that! Well I would have said "Listen you grumpy old hag, piss off already. Just because you are miserable, doesnt mean everyone around you needs to be miserable!!! If you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing!!! " Then I would have gotten up and walked away and out of the house or left completely. I am a happy bride to be and she basically just threw a bucket of cold water over me! What really gets me mad, is that this one aunt in particular is always fun, nice, giggly with everyone, and she used to be with me too, but now she just doesn't seem to care at all??? It is ok for you to be happy. Regardless of why she may be miserable, she has no right to rain on your parade. I am supposed to be excited, and now I wonder if his family even wants my to be a member??? Remember, she is only an aunt. Speak to your FH about her behaviour and see what he suggests or what his thoughts are. Perhaps, your FH could speak to his mom/dad about this aunt and her unacceptable behaviour. Your fh needs to step up here since it is his family and he needs to stand up to them so they know that they cant treat you like garbage. If he allows that behaviour now, then it will continue in the future and he needs to put an immediate stop to it!!!
MrsMtobe ~Live and let live ~ Mod Squad Moderator The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness.
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You have every right to be excited... you are getting married in 2 weeks and 5 days... I would be bouncing off the walls by then!!! But I have to say I know how you feel... surprisingly this aunt isnt usually like that... it is weird when it comes from an unlikely source... I have recieved negitive comments many times... people are just jelous, my best friend even throws them out there from time to time and she was just married... you would think of all people she would understand. but I think it is in part because she is not in my shoes doing it right now... and wishes she were back there... usually I just consider the source... and move on... those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter... Dr. Suese. If she minds you being happy that you are marrying the man you love... that is her problem and don't let he bring you down!!! Be happy!!! Your gettin married!!! Wahoooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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As brides it's fairly common that the people around us aren't always going to be as excited as we are about our big day. Try and take those people with a grain of salt. You and your FH are happy and excited and that's all that matters.
Good luck and Congrats!!!
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