Here's my situation: My parents gave my sister and I both equal amounts of $ to pay for our weddings. The amount they gave my sister would have covered 1/3 of her expenses. My parents also rented a van, drove down to the US and stayed in a hotel for a week. So I figure that they were out another couple of grand. My sister's wedding is going to be significantly less cost than my upcoming wedding.

I jokingly mentioned to my parents that they could feel free to contribute more $$-to make up the extra $$ they spent in travel expenses to sister's wedding. But never once did I expect it. Nor do I think they have the $ to give.

FH has been married before. I have no idea if/what his parents contributed to that wedding, nor is it my business. I never asked FH to speak with his parents about whether or not they were going to contribute anything. I figured that if they wanted to, they would offer. I can't expect anything-from my parents or his. It's our wedding. I'm footing the bill for most of our wedding, with the help from my parents and some help from FH. FH did mention to me that his parents said they might pay for some of our Honeymoon-but that's not confirmed and nor is it expected.

I'm just happy to be getting married to the love of my life!! Now a days, there seems to be no rules. If your FH is comfortable to mention it to his parents-or maybe his brother if he doesn't want to mention it to his parents-then great, if not, just keep your chin up and smile like the happy bride that I know you are!!

Karyn- The New MrsE-Happily Married April 29/06, Proud Stepmom and New Mommy!!

My family is way better off then his, FH and I are paying for everything with help from my dad and a little from my mom (seperated) and his family is doing nothing.

I dont care though, I wouldnt want them to spend $ on me when they could get them selves something they really need.

My MIL does so much pysically, mentally and emotionally for us I'd feel like I was sucking her dry if she was paying for anything.

Dont bother getting mad about it, it'll just cause a rift in you and FH life when you dont need to. Your not just marrying a man your marrying his family right...lol

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icywedding (4/19/2006)

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bottom line.... this chick is getting a free house, and gets to live mortgage-free!!!      Hulloooo, how many people have that benefit??  Perhaps that is why most of us are having trouble finding sympathy for her.... lol...

j/k.... but I'm sure it's in the back of a lot of people's minds here

Yep, I agree. Just like you, I believe that

that fact of her parents popping for a

home for her and her FH is playing a major

role, not only in the responses given here,

 but also with her FH's parents.

Suppose for a moment, that the "free

house" was not in the cards here. Would

dumbass and some others still feel the

exact same way about this situtation?

Is it possible that some of you are more

than a little jealous of a BTB who is being

gifted with a new home but still seems to

be whining over five grand from her FIL's?

To me, this is not and should not be about

her or what her parents are doing for them

as prospective newlyweds. This is about her

FH's family and the manner in which they

are treating one of their children.

Now if her FH has received something from

his parents in his past that levelled the

gift giving playing field to the tune of five

grand, then I would agree that he should

not be looking for anything more. However,

if his bro and sis each got five large and

the best he gets is a handshake, then that

sucks royally.

It's unfair, it's stupid and it's uncalled for

UNLESS, his parent's financial situation

has been drastically altered recently. I

think he should be asking his parents WTF.

Perhaps they have a good explanation. But,

if all they can do is point to his BTB's

well-off parental units, then how justified

are they in their actions at that point?

EL

 

 Some people are like Slinkies...

Not really good for anything, but

they still bring a smile to your

face when you push them down a

flight of stairs.

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I am sorry but that is ridiculous. I think i have heard it all now.  If your parents are being taken advantage of it is by you and your fh. His parents are not taking advantage of them. IF you feel so sorry for your poor rich taken advantage of parents then STOP taking advantage of them.  are you for real.

come on el.....this one must disturb you a touch.

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