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If the DIL thinks her new inlaws are scum for mistreating her FH, frankly it's none of her business.  It's up to the son to say something, should he have the nerve... 

When parents are rude or mean to our spouse, we have all previously agreed in other threads,  that whomevers parent(s) it is, the child of that parent(s) approaches them, not the spouse.......she should take a seat and let her FH handle this if it as much of a deal as she claims it is.  If he choses not to do anything, she has to suck it up. Hell, if she's that upset about it, don't put your name on the next Christmas gift......geesh.

so we agree then.  It is their law book and we can discuss it all we want but they cna choose to help however they want

those who throw objects at crocodiles will be asked to retrieve them

those who throw objects at crocodiles will be asked to retrieve them

I've seen this play out in the classroom:  One student has a sight disability and the library ordered in special books for him in large print.  The total cost was over $500.  Several parents heard about and called into the shcool demanding to know why $500 hadn't been spent on their children, too.  They're complaint was that it wasn't fair.  Their theory was that if one child has access to schools funds for something then every other child should have the same amount spent one them.  But there is a difference between fair and equal.  Spending $500 on the child with visual problems allowed that child to have equal access to materals and to do the work that everyone else was doing.  Yes, it was an accomodation, and yes it was special treatment in that he had the money spent on resources just for his use.  Do I think there should have been a cheque written to every other child in the school just to be "fair"?  Nope, not at all. 

For someone who already has so much to be demanding more under the guise of "fair" seems wrong.  Maybe the OP should start realizing the love doesn't equal money.  Not everyone's needs are the same and the OP obviously doesn't need money.  But maybe there will be things she and her husband need in the future that the bother's won't need.  For example, if she has children and FH's parents babysit a lot should the parents then write a cheque to the two bothers to compensate them for not receiving the same thing?? 

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