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I think there is an uncurable disease out there that all men suffer from: they think the floor is a closet and/or hamper !!!  My FH is the same way. I know of a few guys who's mothers are messy, and they are too. But, I also know of a few guys who's mothers are messy, BUT they are VERY CLEAN!
He may actually enjoy living in a clean environment for once, when you move in!
 Suzy is soooo Lost
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| i am one lucky lady!!! lol... i almost do not have to lift a finger, he does most of the chores himself while still working evening shifts of 10+ hours. He doesn't insist or pressure me. I help out a lot too do not get me wrong but he does it faster and better than i do. He was spoiled when he grew up too, his mother worked plus did everything at home. The first time he EVER did laundry on his own was when we moved out to go to college. He is not lazy and tells me i am the lazy one... LOL!!!! I do not mind since soon I will be the one doing all the work... I want to be a stay-at-home mom when we have children so my job will be looking after the kids, cooking and cleaning! My chores right now consist of cooking, some laundry and tidying up whenever needed. Its great! I feel like the husband! LOL
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| wow Fascha, you are a brave girl. Good luck to you on this one. I think you will have to make sure from the start that he knows that there will not be any her roles/his roles as far as the house in concerned. I find I usually end up doing a bit more of the work around the house, but it's mostly becasue FH can't multi task so everything seems to take him longer. I make sure to do some of the jobs that tis his family were his dad's jobs to emphasize that we are both equal in all household chores (e.g, I take turns mowing the lawn). And we establish some rules e.g. who ever gets home first starts dinner. If he suggests to you that "my mom would always... around the house", you could tactfully offer to provide him with whatever he needs to do that job. It may mean that sometimes at the start things get a bit messy, but standing your ground at the beginning will be worth it in the long run. And don't be afraid to say "get your ass off the couch and clean the toilet while I am doing the ironing! If I don't get to rest yet, neither do you!" as harsh as it may seem, again it will pay off in the long run. As for cooking, try finding him a nice simple cookbook and start by suggesting that every sunday night he tries to make something different from it. Start with weekend when they have the time, and be available to provide technical guidance if required. Once again, good luck. this is one of the main reasons i would never have considered getting married prior to living with someone. And my mom always told me that you should live with someone at least a full year before getting married - that way you can go through all of the sports seasons with them and find out if you still want to marry them 
>< )))*> Some people call me Fishy.
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