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| I got in a small spat with my FH last night and this has been an issue with him for a while now. I have a problem with hugging people as a greeting. I get very uncomfortable and it really shows, making me very unapproachable. I know this but I can't seem to change, or don't know how to. Does anyone else hate constant hugging as a greeting? My family was never affectionate and we all lived in the same small town and saw each other all the time so we didn't hug whenever we saw one another. I wasn't an affectionate child either, my dad says that from 11 months on I didn't like to be held or cuddled. Weird I know. I'm trying to change because I know my FH's family sees it in me but I don't know how. Even when I approach someone with my arms sort of open I hesitate because I feel like an idiot. Don't ask me why, I just do. Any advice on how to become more open to people? These aren't strangers, they are my FH's friends and family. I don't hug my friends, they know what I'm like and just leave me alone. Although sometimes they'll kid around and grab me. lol!
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buy a very puffy princess dress so no one can get within 2 feet of you because of it.  if that's not an option, maybe you could reach out with both hands as someone approaches you and grab their hands to hold them in front of you and just sort of lean over for an "air kiss" on the cheek. it's not quite as touchy-feely/huggy but it's still a very warm greeting and can look pretty natural with a bit of practise. otherwise, maybe a couple of drinks before the receiving line might help relax you?
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| I don't mind hugging people, but FH's family always kisses goodbye...ON THE LIPS!!! I freakin hate it. Sometimes I lie and say I am sick so that they won't kiss me on the lips. Other times I do my best to turn my head just enough so they don't get my lips. So, I like the other poster's suggestion about putting your hands out...maybe you can force people into a handshake instead. Good luck, it sucks when you don't want to do what everyone else is doing!! But I can understand it.
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I'm not a fan of the hugging either, I think the princess dress is a great idea!
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| Looks like I'm going shopping for a dress. lol! Thanks for the input! I will try the hands & air kiss idea. That doesn't sound so bad. I will definitely need some drinks for the receiving line. Good thing we are having a small wedding.
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Yes, use every opportunity that you can use so that you do not have to hug. I wouldn't feel happy hugging my future family, because I'm not close with them, I've known my FH's for about 5 years and have only met his aunts/uncles once.
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I love hugs.. absolutely love em! But I haven't hugged my FBIL's ... that would be awkward for us.. lol... try the hand shakes... and air kisses... those should work.. and plus.. do you want people to ruin your makeup the day of the wedding??
Jules 
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