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My sister has made a comment that it is unfair of me to let more than one person host a bridal shower for me and I am being very greedy. I think that because I did not ask them to host the showers or to plan them that I am not being greedy and I am not being rude. What does everyone else think?
 May 12, 2007
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| If you were hosting multiple showers yourself, Perhaps. But even then, you would have a party for your family, a party for his family, and a party for your friends (Or you could include friends with one of the other parties) and Frankly I don't think that is too many. NOW! Considering that YOU ARE NOT THROWING THESE FOR YOURSELF, and infact other people are throwing these for you, you have no control or right to ask people NOT to throw it for you. Your sister is being a bit out to lunch on this, I can see her being upset if she had been invited to all of the showers, because I know Myself I felt ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE going to 5 different baby showers for my FSIL because after the first two I couldn't afford any more gifts. She understood completely, and I KNEW that the people who were inviting me to the parties were doing so out of respect that I will be her SIL and I want to share in her happiness. So i would go to your sister and ask her if her issue is with bringing a gift to each one, and let her know that you don't expect that of her. If it's something else, address it in a way that helps her understand that ettiquette has no rules on how many showers you have, because considering that the person who throws a shower for you OBVIOUSLY cares very much for you, it should only be an affirmation that there are SO MANY PEOPLE who care that much for you! Hope this helps hun!
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Got Married on March 3rd, 2007 I got my Snow, My Wonderful Husband, and a whole bottle of Champagne to myself. What a FANTASTIC Night!!!!
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Whatever! I don't think that's being greedy or rude. It would be much more rude to tell them not to. Just sit back and enjoy. I have had a party with fh's mom's friends, my friends, my mom's friends, my staff, my relatives and now my NEIGHBOURS are having a party!!! I never asked for any of them and I'm going to enjoy all the parties!!
~ Married On July 22, 2006. ~ ~A MOMMY since Dec.21st and LOVING it!~
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| The rules regarding showers are: 1) You do not host them for yourself. This is a party to "shower the bride with gifts" and for the bride or her immediate family to host comes off as self serving. 2) Only those people invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower. 3) Guests are only asked to attend one shower. Bridal party members who attend more than one should know that gifts are only expected at the first one, if at all (seeing as they usually host a shower and this in itself is a gift). After that, I wouldn't worry about it. Although I do always wonder about people who have more than 2... Seriously, how many parties and how many gifts does one person need?! That's just my personal opinion, though. 
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She is just angry because she wanted to throw a shower for me and then my wedding party decided they want to throw a bridal shower for me and she said I was greedy and ignorant and cancelled the shower she was planning. But now she is all mad at me because I ruined everything. Like what the heck....
May 12, 2007
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| I think you should read my thread, "How many is too many?" This same problem and I think your question will be answered there. My opinion is that of many of the brides who posted in mine, if someone wants to throw one, let them as long as you are not inviting the same people over and over, why not?? Of course your BMs and mom's would be invited to all showers so I have been told. I don't thik your sister is right. It is your wedding after all and the way I see it is that if you send an invite, people can turn it down right?? So if they don't want to come, friends or family, they don't have to! JJF 
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| I think your sister is a little green-eyed. Be nice. I think her feelings have been hurt. I've already had one shower, and there will likely be 2 more. 3 if I have one at work. That's just the way it is.
Mrs. AlanaBanana Alana & Erik ...the perfect pair! December 30th, 2006
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