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Anyone in the same boat? My FH's dad passed away and I wanted to do something special during the ceremony to include him. One idea I had was to light a candle and have the Minister say a little something nice in remembrance of him...any other ideas?
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| we're in the same boat i'm making our own programs for the wedding and on the back i have a section for any special thank you's (like one to my parents for proving all the flowers for the tables out of their own garden and one for our two dd's just for being here) and am also having a brief note of regret that fh's dad cannot be with us. i also mentioned him in the grooms parents as watching from above (might have to change that wording) i thought about setting an honorary spot for him with a picture of him (fh really liked that idea) but was worried it might seem too morbid for some of the guests. i also thought about a little table out of the way with a picture and flowers, just a little way of having him there. and maybe a brief mention - but the wording is hard. everything sounds too much like standard religion, about god and heaven etc. i think if we are going to honor him its just as important to make sure it is in keeping with his own beliefs and his own religion. if he was like ourselves and not religous at all then i'd make sure there's no mention of bible scriptures or his belief in god. but we know so little of the religion he did embrace that we don't know what would be suitable but we are pretty sure it involved not believing in heaven or in a christian god.
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My grandpa died last january, we were really close, so FH suggested honouring him in the wedding. We are going to have a spot for him in the front row, beside my grandma because I know he will be there. Other then that I would put it in your program, that you know he is blessing you from heaven.
what about hmmm...... using something that was special to your FH's father. We are making a log name tag for our head table saying "Mr. and Mrs. Pouliot" in a way that my grandpa taught me to burn wood with a fire poker, it was something we all enjoyed doing. Do something that your FH and his family will understand was meant to show respect to his father.
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My dad died four years ago, FH's dad died when he was six and his step dad died when he was 18. We have decided against doing anything. My sister had a candle lit at the beginning of her reception and everyone bawled. My mother and I have recently had a huge blowout over this topic. She asked if my older sister (who I can't stand) would light the candle for my dad at the reception. I said that most definately not my drunken and embarrassing sister was not going to get up infront of 125 people to bawl her eyes out at my wedding and that further more, no candle would be lit because it will have been 5 years by then and there has been alot of pain in both are families and it is not neccessary to bring it up every time we get together. My mother is not talking to me right now and told my sister I was being a bridezilla.
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| I would either do the lighting of the candle and make mention or save a spot for him and lie a white rose across the seat saved. Then the minister could mention it or not ... I think it's classy and it won't get anyone hysterical with tears either...probably not anyway.
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Juicy (4/26/2006)
Anyone in the same boat? My FH's dad passed away and I wanted to do something special during the ceremony to include him. One idea I had was to light a candle and have the Minister say a little something nice in remembrance of him...any other ideas?FH's father died when he was almost 6, although it's been a long time he is still VERY important to FH. So we're going to be including it into our candle lighting ceremony. We will have the candle lit before the guests arrive (To avoid any questions about who should light it) and remain lit throughout the ceremony. Then when we get to the candle lighting ceremony, both my mom and FMIL will take their tapers and FMIL will light hers from DFFIL(Deceased Future Father In law) and my mother from a candle I will have my father holding. They will then light two tapers that will be at the altar, where FH & I will then take those two tapers and light the large one in the middle. i realize it's really conveluded, but I felt it would really be symbolic of both families joining into one (And really piss off my FMIL - Which in and of itself is a GREAT side effect!!!  ) I REALL REALLY REALLY like the white rose on a seat though. It's very classy!
------  Honourary Farrar
Got Married on March 3rd, 2007 I got my Snow, My Wonderful Husband, and a whole bottle of Champagne to myself. What a FANTASTIC Night!!!!
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